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Not sure what to think of this photo caption

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Pleasenomorespiders · 04/08/2026 17:23

A male colleague has posted a photo of his wife and their 4 young kids (all under 8 or so) he's put '4 kids, and she's still got a great figure!' Maybe I'm reading into too much but I find it a bit off?

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Pleasenomorespiders · 04/08/2026 17:24

Almost implying most women would look like trash after 4 kids?

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malloryknox123 · 04/08/2026 17:24

Has it triggered something within you? I mean it’s gross and chauvinistic but it’s not really your problem

JWag · 04/08/2026 17:25

Yeah you’re definitely reading too much into it, it’s not that deep. Wouldn’t be something I would get worked up about. I’m sure if his wife felt it was wrong she would tell him

VestibuleWeaver · 04/08/2026 17:26

Well, she might be very happy to boast about keeping trim, so why shouldn’t her own husband?

Changedasouting · 04/08/2026 17:26

Has he posted it on a work forum ?? Or personal social media??

olivecons · 04/08/2026 17:27

You’ve never heard a woman say her body isn’t the same after a child?

Imicola · 04/08/2026 17:27

Work forum - inappropriate, call it out. Personal/ social media - gross but ignore

TheGoldenOwl · 04/08/2026 17:29

He is in awe that her body has not only provided him four children but also remains a turn on for him given all it has been through. Four times.

And you are mad about it?

plims · 04/08/2026 17:30

malloryknox123 · 04/08/2026 17:24

Has it triggered something within you? I mean it’s gross and chauvinistic but it’s not really your problem

I agree with this.

Has it triggered something in yourself, OP?

pinkandwhiteroses · 04/08/2026 17:31

Not everything has to be found offensive.

Funchythesnowwoman · 04/08/2026 17:34

Or triggering.

Pleasenomorespiders · 04/08/2026 17:36

Not triggered anything, I don't have kids. Just found it a bit chauvinistic.

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VestibuleWeaver · 04/08/2026 17:37

Pleasenomorespiders · 04/08/2026 17:36

Not triggered anything, I don't have kids. Just found it a bit chauvinistic.

Chauvinistic, or just stating a fact?

Freshstartyear25 · 04/08/2026 17:41

Maybe he feels she still has a great figure after 4 kids so he’s speaking factually.
Not something I’ll appreciate and not something my husband will ever do but they know each other better and I guess if she’s not happy, she’ll tell him.
Saying he’s implying something is just sounding like you’re triggered by it

Pleasedontdoitagain · 04/08/2026 17:42

Well I agree with you OP.
To me it implies that producing children and her body are the only things he values her for.

LauritaEvita · 04/08/2026 17:42

He’s gushing about the woman he’s married to and the mother of his 4 kids as he thinks she’s gorgeous. Good for them.

VestibuleWeaver · 04/08/2026 17:43

Pleasedontdoitagain · 04/08/2026 17:42

Well I agree with you OP.
To me it implies that producing children and her body are the only things he values her for.

It implies no such thing.

rumred · 04/08/2026 17:47

She's being complimented for her looks, it's reductive and insulting but that's what humans do. God forbid she put weight on.

PoesieAndPeaches · 04/08/2026 17:48

He adores his wife and still fancies her.

No reason for anyone to be outraged at this at all.

Pleasedontdoitagain · 04/08/2026 17:53

VestibuleWeaver · 04/08/2026 17:43

It implies no such thing.

Perhaps you missed the To me at the beginning of my sentence? That is how is comes over to me, I.e. imo.
You are of course entitked to your own opinion but your opinion doesn't make mine wrong.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 04/08/2026 17:56

Fucking hell, God forbid a man praising his wife for looking good!

distinctpossibility · 04/08/2026 18:00

I think the specificity of the "great figure" is what's a bit jarring, I think saying "still gorgeous" or "still beautiful" would have been sweet but referring directly to weight is a bit off. However, it might be something she is self conscious about and he is trying to give her a boost!

DressOrSkirt · 04/08/2026 18:01

Pleasenomorespiders · 04/08/2026 17:24

Almost implying most women would look like trash after 4 kids?

I think his comment is grim and he should be proud of his wife however she looks. I wouldn't read it as a comment on other women though.

MyArtfulGreySloth · 04/08/2026 18:01

I’d find that weird. If that was my partner I’d ask him why he’s put that. It’s unnecessary and would make me uncomfortable. Maybe a post about him saying he’s 45 and still got most of his hair.

notacooldad · 04/08/2026 18:05

To me it implies that producing children and her body are the only things he values her for.
That's not my take. He sounds proud of her.

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