AIBU not to let my three-year-old watch Frozen yet?

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A discussion came up with a bunch of mum friends and I was definitely in the minority. I thought I would post here to see if I am being unreasonable. It's fine if I am.

My DD is 3. She has become aware of the character of Elsa from Frozen at nursery and loves this character. I am not bothered by this and happily got her an 'Elsa' dress when asked. I also allow the songs.

I will not however let her watch the full film.

She gets a bit invested in programs and is easily upset. She also likes to properly understand 'why'. I think there is a LOT of explanation and unpacking needed in Frozen and that she can wait a year or so.

On a practical note she doesn't have the concentration to watch a full length film like that.

Let her watch the film and she will understand.

PFB by any chance?

Genuinely batshit MN thread of 2026 this.

Let her watch it and explain on an age appropriate level if she doesn't understand. You're massively over thinking.

May a second child bless you.

I’ll rephrase. There is no good reason for a 3 year old to watch a film.

Mine are 3 and then 2 year old twins and they all love Frozen. Do they watch it the whole way through? No, they usually just pay attention to the music parts and my 3 year old also loves Olaf.

Christ, 2 year olds watching tv, genuinely slightly horrified.

😂

You say she’s easily upset – I get it, OP. When my older daughter was your daughter’s age, she loved watching Winnie the Pooh but she couldn’t stand to watch the part where the bees chase him. We had to fast-forward because she didn’t even want to be in the house knowing that part was playing on the TV.

Three years old is very little, and if you think Frozen is going to upset her, there’s no harm in waiting another year. It doesn’t mean you’re “keeping her sheltered,” it just means you know your own child best and you think it’s probably too intense for her at her age.

There is when you need to get shit done.

You answer questions in age appropriate ways
surely she isn’t going to picking up on complex themes
will just enjoy the general gist and Olaf !

To be fair some kids are really sensitive, my eldest was 5 when Frozen came out and she cried herself to sleep for about 2 weeks afterwards because she was terrified of me dying and leaving her alone because of the scene where the parents die

On the other hand my 3rd child would request to watch Harry Potter and The Deathly Hallows Part 1 every day after nursery because she'd seen it when her older sister (who did eventually grow out of the sensitivity) had watched it, I didn't think she would even pay attention to it but she loved it. They are all different

Please tell me you're joking

And Bambi.
And Fox and the hound.

Fuck it. Just ban Disney. At least she’ll not grow up to become a Disney Adult.

I was 2 years old in 1995. My mum took me to the cinema to see Toy Story.

I can’t remember it mind you. But apparently I had a great time and we had McDonald’s afterwards 😍

I am deadly serious. 2 year olds should not be watching tv. pretty sure that is gov advice now, re screens and pre- schoolers?

I hear the ‘when you need to get shit done’ of a pp but many of us managed to get our shit done while our kids played around us or we got the kids involved (yes it takes longer but it teaches them how to do stuff too).

Just play bits and pieces of it, with the songs and happier bits … I find it’s easier to let them have a bit of programmes to enjoy and cut out the more adult parts they may get worried about.
saying that most kids just take in what is at their level

Can't be as bad as Bambi, now that did traumatise 3 year old me 😭

The gov advice is actually 1 hour a day for 2-5 year olds.

My 3 year old loves it and we talk about the difficult themes in real life anyway, like controlling your emotions, loss, love etc. The messages in it are much more meaningful and positive than in a lot of kids shows. Characters are not perfect and romantic love is secondary to family and friendship. Definitely easier to answer questions about Frozen than explain why Belle, Cinderella and Ariel are all so pathetic.

DD really loves the Elsa/Anna relationship, and she makes up a lot of stories that we have to act out as a family on her instruction 😅

If she’s really keen to watch it, I think you should let her. The songs will make a lot more sense to her. And she’ll be able to appreciate Elsa’s actual character rather than just idolizing her for being a princess in a pretty dress.

Then let her watch it for herself
What a weird take..... Have you even seen it?

I say this with kindness and understanding: is this your first child? I am not being patronising in the slightest. I remember those days. Why don’t you watch it first and make sure you are happy with what she will understand. Or at least note down which parts to send her for a toilet break and skip past.
Usually, children that age will only remember the happy bits and the songs. Be ready for them to watch it repeatedly x 100 times a week!
Coco is still a firm favourite in our house, and that deals very directly with death and remembering loved ones who have passed, in a very clever & lovely way.

Yes this is the general advice. Everyone acts as if you’re crazy if you dare mention it.

The question about age appropriateness for watching TV for a three year old has nothing to do with whether parents feel they have no choice so they can get things done.

OP clearly doesn’t feel like she doesn’t have a choice.

She must live a sheltered life. Disney is nothing compared to old school storys.

Try unpacking Jack and the beanstalk 🫣

At 3yrs old DD had really enjoyed the Frozen movie AND seen the musical theatre production of Frozen in London.
Both my children love movies and theatre. We don't use it to get stuff done, they just have a genuine love and interest for it.
They're also very active, outdoors children, both do a range of hobbies including Karate, swimming, gymnastics, musical theatre, guitar, choir. Both ride bikes, trampoline, love arts and crafts, imaginary play. The 8 yr old enjoys chess.
It's completely possible to enjoy movies alongside other activities and interests.
DD (now 5) loves the Harry Potter movies, Maleficent movies, Labyrinth rather than most animated stuff. DS was exactly the same and was watching Jurrasic Park and Jurrasic World (ND and fascinated by movie making and dinosaur facts).
We also love travelling and will have visited 20 countries by next year.
Do they NEED movies? No of course not, but they enjoy them as a small part of all the other stuff they enjoy. All kids are different.

And the original ending of Snow White!

You know your child, you make the rules.

My children are 7.5 and 5, we've barely watched any disney films, or any other films for that matter. I love Disney and was (am) looking forward to sharing it with them but the older one is overstimulated by screens and has a very active imagination so gets both freaked out during a movie and also tends to then have nightmares for weeks or even months after watching something. We've tried a few and it didn't go well so haven't pushed it. They're confident, articulate, bolshy kids in basically ever other way so figure they'll come to this in their own time. In the meantime we have yoto cards for frozen, encanto etc, love the soundtracks, have some of the books and costumes. It's fine!