Would you expect an offer of petrol money in this instance?

[Weeksywins]

If driving with two friends on a 80 mile round social trip, would you expect them to offer petrol money?

Yes, mine would even for a 15 mile trip one way and vice versa. My best mate even insists on giving a few quid. Guess it’s a sign of how we were brought up?

Yes generally, but not if they’d do something like pay for your lunch or do the driving another time. Depends on the nature of your relationship.

If i was going to be going anyway then i don't think I'd expect it, although would be grateful

I never expect "petrol money" from friends or family to be honest.

A thank you, buying me a coffee or something, yes is polite.
But I would find it weird if they offered.

I'd expect people to offer petrol money to a teen who's working all summer to earn cash, not to other adults.

I wouldn't but I think most of my friends are in "sometimes I give lifts sometimes they do" territory.

Is it an offer you would accept? Most seem to want an offer just for the sake of it and they would never accept it, which is bizarre. If you want petrol money, ask for it.

For an 80 mile round trip? No, i wouldn't expect anything.

No I wouldn’t. If I’m happy to drive there and back, I’m happy to drive end of.

I’d offer either money or to buy them lunch or the entry ticket to wherever we were going or similar.
I’d never accept petrol money, i can afford to pay and take people with me but I always offer as I’m aware that peoples finances are different to mine.

I'm doing this at the weekend and they won't offer petrol money but will pay the entrance fee and buy me cake. It will probably even out or I may end up in profit.

I wouldn’t give petrol money but I would buy lunch or some other thing.

Absolutely or something in return. So last week we visited my cousin, she drove us 1 1/2 hours each way to a day out she wouldn’t accept fuel money so we paid for lunch for her and her daughter. Yesterday my friend came down by train (2 hour journey so a bit costly) to visit me so again we paid for her lunch and also a drink and cake in the afternoon.

Teenagers yes. Adults no.

Depends a bit on the wider context. If there are regular 80 mile trips and you take it in turns to drive, then wouldn't expect petrol. If you are always driving, then I'd expect the others to contribute (either via petrol money or in kind by buying you drinks/dinner/tickets). If it's an ad-hoc one off I'd expect them to offer, but I would have requested it up front if I was bothered.

I think it depends very much on people's financial circumstances. The petrol for an 80 mile journey is comparatively a lot of money for eg a single parent on NMW, and they might also be struggling to keep a car at all. So I would offer them petrol money . But my friend who is on 100k would not want or expect petrol money but would appreciate being treated to lunch.

Yep. I would absolutely expect them to pay 1/3 each and buy you lunch if you are driving.

80mile round trip that you’re already doing? No I without expect or take cash for petrol.
If the friend offered a coffee I would take that. That’s probably what I would offer too.
The petrol cost for that sort of journey is so small anyway it’s pretty tight to want £3/4 or whatever in cash.

My friends would offer and we would then all refuse any offer, that’s our social norm as we’re all working and earning and been friends forever

You need to be a bit careful here OP and check your insurance policy.

There may be some clause in it about "not carrying passengers for hire or reward", and if you do that, it could invalidate the whole policy. I would check with your insurers ASAP.

Not if they are friends, no.

I'd accept a coffee or something if they insisted but I wouldn't accept money and I certainly wouldn't be offended if there was no offer, if it was a friend.

Friendship is give and take and they'll get me back another day another time, it all evens out and who is counting?

I tend to only keep friendships with the kind of people who have similar attitudes to me. If I had friends who took the piss it might be different.... but I don't.

Conversely I would always offer if on the receiving end but I think that's more about social norms and upbringing than anything else. It's not a big deal.

Not for a one off, only if it was a regular arrangement.

Strangers yes, friends no. But having said that I would offer and if refused by lunch or sth.

£4 each ish

I wouldn't even bother

Ass, Gas or Grass as they say in the USA 😎

With my business head on I would have settled this up front along with the lift rather than waiting for an offer.. "With the cost of petrol being what it is I assume we can split three ways?" Simples.