Would you expect an offer of petrol money in this instance?

[Weeksywins]

If driving with two friends on a 80 mile round social trip, would you expect them to offer petrol money?

Would I be going anyway?

Totally depends on the circumstances, I can't imagine there's anyone who has rigid rules

Yes i would expect the offer. It is the socially appropriate thing to do.

Yes, I would. I always offer petrol money. But it does depend on context.

No. If I'm driving, then petrol is my responsibility. But if they offer to buy me a coffee or glass of wine as a "thank you", then I'd be happy to accept.
It's a bit grasping to start calculating what they might "owe" for petrol, to be honest.

No - and not if I was going anyway. But it’d be nice if the passengers bought me a coffee or a sandwich because I’d driven?

I gave a friend a lift on a 160 mile round trip yesterday. She offered petrol money but I refused it as the way I look at it, I’d have been doing the trip anyway and taking my friend too didn’t add anything to my costs.

If I was the driver I wouldn’t expect any money, 80 miles round trip isn’t that far. Although if I was a passenger I probably would offer money for the trip.

If it was somewhere I was going anyway then no. Oddly enough I would always offer though. Are the friends drivers, I often find that people who don’t drive don’t consider the costs associated with running a car so wouldn’t think to offer.

I would offer a contribution to petrol and usually it gets refused so will make sure that I treat the driver to lunch etc

This.

No. Generally in those circumstances among my friends we'd find something else we could pay for e.g. the parking, lunch or coffees along the way to redress the balance, but a direct offer of petrol money, no.

This, absolutely. Once was asked to give a friend of a friend a lift - a 3 hour drive in each direction. Not only did he not offer petrol money (which I wouldn’t have taken) he went out of his way not to be in the drinks queue at the same time so didnt offer to buy me a drink as a thank you. He’s never getting a lift from me again.

It depends on your custom and practice of sharing lifts and outing expenses.

Most people would offer the driver £5.00 based on say £14.00 petrol costs.

It wouldn’t occur to me to offer money for petrol for a one off shortish trip like that, no. But I would want to buy them lunch or a coffee as a thank you for the effort of driving me.

Different if it was, say, a week long road trip from London to the Highlands and back or similar - then id expect we’d take turns to pay to fill up the car.

In my friend group we wouldn't offer money because none of us would ever accept it but we'd cover lunch or something for the driver. Offering nothing is bad manners.

I’d get the coffees or the first drink in, but honestly my friends would laugh if I offered them a fiver for petrol, as would I (not wealthy at all). Depends on the context though, if you’re all struggling students it changes things.

One of my friend's always drives when we meet up even though I offer to each time. She does have a more luxurious car than me though so I think she prefers we go in hers.

Even though its normally local places we go, I always buy lunch or coffee and cake as a thank you for ferrying me about.

No. I'd only accept petrol money if I was giving someone a lift that was long distance and of no benefit to me.

I’d offer. If they declined I’d make sure to get them coffee or something while away.

No, I’d just accept a coffee or something if they offered. I don’t think I’ve given/been given petrol money since I was a teenager!

Not for 80 miles, my car does around 400 miles per tank and a tank costs about £65 I'm not asking my friend to split £12 3 ways. It would be nice to be bought a coffee but not expected, to the extent of notice and think of that was really thoughtful of them

That’s so weird.

Not at all

It seems perfectly normal to me. What bit do you think is weird?