Can you fight?

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I have never had one but I dont think i can

I do imagine ripping the head off of some people on occasion though 😄

Can you? Have you? Would you at this point in your life, if someone was very deserving?

I might take up boxing 🤔

Never been in a fight or seen a fight irl, and avoid any situation which might become dangerous or violent.

Men are stronger, and of course anyone attacking would have the the advantage of surprise.

I have been told how to make my fingers straight to poke into eyes, and scrape your foot/ shoe down the front of the calf ending in a good foot stamp then run like fuck, but would avoid a weapon because a man bent on violence, or a woman, with that experience would just take it from me and use it to hurt me.

My dc have both had self defence lessons as well as good old common sense and reading the room, not puting yourself in danger, or letting others get you into difficult situations.

I have had scary experiences despite all this, and have found my large, unfriendly dog my best protection.

That women should basically do whatever they have to in order to get away when being attacked by a man. If you have to get nasty, do it. Bite, scratch, grab his bollocks, stick your thumbs in his eyes.

I am finished then. I don't think I could do any of this. I fear I am a freeze girl. Maybe that is because I have been fortunate enough to not be in any really bad situation. Perhaps that inner anger would rise if I was? But I can't imagine it really.

I've had one proper fight. When I was around 15 and the other person was a 18 year old man.

Luckily for me I was martial arts trained and left him sprawled out on the ground in front of all his mates 💪. Didn't really injure him, more of a block his attack, unbalance him, sweep his legs away with a kick to the back of his knees and hit the deck kind of manouvre. Dusted off my hands and swaggered away.

Middle aged me probably wouldn't manage with quite the same finesse 😆.

I suspect a well placed kick in the face saved a sexual assault from escalating further. Fortunately I've always had strong legs. I woke up, processed what was happening and kicked so that change in dynamic put surprise back on my side and he left the room. Funnily enough that scrote never showed his face in that friendship group again, and I hope his neck was stiff the next day. I'm less confident that he learned a lesson about consent. It was a good while before #metoo and years before I really processed what that situation could have lead to within the next couple of minutes.

I did react physically to some girls getting physical with me at school. It wasn't an obvious fight, but I managed to think creatively and use my bag to get the better of them. They decided to find some easier targets to bully after that.

I grew up with a much bigger brother so while I'm very much aware of being the under-dog, I have grown up with rough-housing. Also being the underdog, I'm prepared to lash everything into it if need be. My line is that I'm stronger than I look. I can also run and have a decent sprint if pumped for it. I enjoy boxing with pads and have a reasonable level of force for my build. I would also use any "dirty" opportunity avaliable in a situation if needed. I do not have physical advantage over the vast majority of remotely healthy males, but there is some skill there to exploit surprise if the window arises.

There is always the risk of freezing or fawning, and that is an absolutely legitimate survival strategy.

Yes. I did Wu Shu Kwan for years, chinese kick boxing and worked in a mens prison medical unit for 7 years.
Not so much now as Im 64 with arthritis but Im pretty sure I could give someone a good run for their money if I had to.

My instinct is to shut my eyes. Not helpful in a fight or when under attack. Or even when a ball is coming my way.

I remember doing fencing at PGL. Not only did my eyes keep shutting but I made an involuntary squeal of terror the whole time.

Useless.

No - I really don’t think I could fight. I’ve never hit anyone in my life. I can just about picture myself biting someone, or scratching them, but that’s about it. Definitely couldn’t run either!

Not since school. But yeah, I reckon I could. Like pp I grew up in a rough part of town and had to defend myself regularly, I was small so I learnt to be vicious and fierce. I haven't lost that.
I wouldn't want to fight, but I also can't run so I would be a stand my ground and do some damage person.

That's the thing isn't it, we don't really know how we will react until it happens. We also may not react the same way every time - having fought before doesn't necessarily mean you won't freeze next time. Martial arts or self defence training doesn't guarantee you'll get away scot free, it just makes it more likely that you will do something that might buy you some time to get away. Hopefully a lot of time! The other key thing is, no matter what you do, do it loudly. Scream/shout repeatedly, over and over, until someone helps or your voice gives out.

Seconding both of these posts. I'm an sexagenarian karate black belt so would fight back as I can't run any more, but would have to depend on the shock of that giving me a chance to get away. I've never been put to the test thankfully, and hope I never am, but am now looking at some close-up ju-jitsu moves as something that might work better for older women.

But the underlying thing I wanted to emphasise from these two posts is to never underestimate the strength differences between men and women. We're no match, so we have to look at other ways to defend ourselves.