Can you fight?

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I have never had one but I dont think i can

I do imagine ripping the head off of some people on occasion though 😄

Can you? Have you? Would you at this point in your life, if someone was very deserving?

I might take up boxing 🤔

I have back in school days with other girls, but not with a grown man, mind you I’d did used to play fight loads with my DH, and be pretty strong, I think we got old as I can’t recall the last time we had a play fight! I suspect we’d injure each other and end up needing physio!!

I do imagine ripping the head off of some people on occasion though 😄

If you can dream it you can be it (or some such motivational phrase)

I tried sparring once. I didn't think I was going to like it. The woman holding the pads kept encouraging me by mocking my efforts. I found myself really, really wanting to punch her straight in the face. So perhaps my inner fighter is more illegal bare knuckle than organised violence. I'm now going to pop that memory back in my mental box of things I don't like to recognise in myself. 😇

Anyone who went to my school can fight.

I can, but like other poster’s have mentioned I think most women would be shocked and horrified at how much stronger than them a very average man is. So on that note I am well aware that if the man knows what he’s doing, I probably don’t stand much of a chance.

If anyone’s reading this, and ends up one day in a fight for their life, all I’d say is fight dirty, fight fast, and run. Fight really really really dirty. Eyes, groin, nose to a lesser extent. Your chances of out running some bloke go up massively if said bloke has just had a swift kick to his dick. Harsh but true.

I did a martial art for a decade; it gave me a lot of physical confidence. I’ve often imagined flipping into fight mode if I have to.

it wasn’t a very practical martial art but it taught me the art of moving fast and dodging 😆

No. I have very little upper body strength or reach and I’m an absolute physical coward. But I do have a very strong kick.

I have just started karate classes to learn self defence though. Possibly a little late in my late 40s, but better late than never! The instructors are very much focusing on self defence.

I am male and grew up on a docks.... I've fought more sailors than Nelson. Also following football during the 80s and 90s. Thankfully I was trained by my father to recognise the signs of impending trouble and so these days I get my arse out of dodge

For all of you saying you couldn't fight a man, you could but only for a very short time. And you need to be deadly... remember in the UK you have the right to self defence of yourself and the right to defend others. You also have the right to a preemptive strike if you consider yourself or others at risk.

I've told every young lady and girl I've known to try to poke his eyes out. Bite him, his ears or nose are great targets. Obviously the nuts. Stab him with your keys, nail scissors anything. Someone said hit him with a handbag, why not, it'll give you room to escape. But most of all don't worry about the aftermath, just protect yourself.

The aim is to buy time to get away and make as much noise as you possibly can doing it

My cousin's daughter was grabbed by a boy at school. She punched him in the face. She had practiced punching me! So she knew she wouldn't be hurt but he would.

Yes and my advice would be always make sure you get the first punch in

At 16 I’d done a self defence course at school. I thought I was pretty streetwise, lived in a busy city, had been going clubbing since I was 14, had been a waitress for a few months and knew how to get rid of lecherous men. I had it under control, or so I thought.

One morning I was walking through town to catch an early coach for a weekend away. The streets were empty, and a man approached me and asked me the time. By the time he’d finished his question he’d kicked me in the face, thumped me, thrown me to the ground, kicked me in the stomach, and told me that he was going to kill me if I didn’t do what he wanted. It happened so fast and without warning, and left me in no doubt that he was absolutely able to kill me, quite easily. So I chose survival and did what he wanted.

Afterwards I reflected on how tough we women think we are sometimes, because we don’t like to think we’d take any crap. But in my opinion, unless a woman is highly trained in some kind of combat, and practices it regularly, a man can take her by surprise and always win.

And don’t underestimate the impact of absolute terror. It caused me to freeze. I couldn’t find my anger because the fear was stronger.

I think most people have no idea how they’d react in a terrifying situation.

I’m not at all strong, but if I was mad enough, I think I could.

I have no doubt of my ability to feel pure, unadulterated rage in the right scenario, but I'm afraid I wouldn't be strong enough to do much damage in a real fight—unless I fought dirty intelligently and managed to knock them over the head before they realised I was coming (only to save my life or that of another person, of course 😇).

Solidarity @BerryTwister 💐 - you did the right thing for survival. How do you feel now? Completely agree, you really dont know how youll react until youre there, because its such an awful thing!

I was laying in bed, pregnant with dd, shortly after I found out she was a girl. Shes 7 now, and I was about 27 then. A memory came to me

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I was a teen, about 15 or 16 and a man was trying to rape me. I am autistic and was so fucking vulnerable and alone, it was a joke. He must've been 30.

Anyway, i tried fighting him off. Thats what I meant when I responded upthread about the sheer surprise as to how much stronger men are than us. I pushed and said 'no'.

I said 'you are raping me. I want to go, you are about to rape me'

He said, 'if i wanted to fuck you, i could. Do you know that?' And i meekly responded yes, and he let me go and I left and went home.

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I feel so angry, but most of all - like how did I get there?! Now, at almost 35, i know what a man inviting me to his house means. I didnt understand that at 15.

I need to learn to fight - i think it'll make me feel better honestly

Yes, I’m a 4th Dan Black Belt in Taekwondo and we do a lot of sparring and competition training, which is meant to be semi contact, but we go harder at times.

I’ve used it to defend myself a couple of times and overpowered the other person.

I’d rather not fight and walk away, but if I had to, I would.

Yes and I will fight as dirty as possible when threatened, as 2 men who tried to steal my dogs from me, during lockdown discovered. I got to run away, with my dogs, those two were not going anywhere for a minute or so.
I grew up as a military brat. We could mostly fight like tigers by about age 6.

Love this and have taken it on board

It's like a lot of things, you get good at it by doing it a lot. I punched my brother in 1992 and nothing since so I would say no I can't. It's possible to maybe win a fight with a lucky punch but in a lot of confrontations I imagine there's a lot of ego's writing cheques the body can't cash, to paraphrase the bald chap in Top Gun.

No, I don't think I can fight. I did push a couple of girls over when I was a child. Funnily enough they were both called Christine.

I grind my teeth something terrible and my dentist tells me I have over developed jaw muscles, so I think I would probably have the bite force of a pitbull and I'd bite my attacker instead of fighting them. Once my jaws are locked, there's no escape as I often feel hungry, so my brain would just take over and assume it was a food opportunity and I wouldn't let go unless I was lured away with a cream bun.

I have 5 brothers they made it there mission to teach me how to fight to defend myself I’m 47 now and they still test me by jumping out on me ha ha

No but I keep an axe in the house 🤣

I often think I would fight to the death rather than someone get the better of me

I have fought in the ring in shows etc for a martial art. I did it for over 10 years. You want a know something sad and terrifying? Still didn't stand a chance against a normal man. They are so much stronger, so much heavier, I could kick the shit out of a professional fighter woman my size. Couldn't prevent myself from being pinned down by a normal man.

People in real life fight very dirty, it's not about punching or kicking, it's pulling hair, standing on hands, twisting arms. If you want to fight a normal person on the street or in your home, go for the eyes, nose and genitals, and stamp on their hands if you get a chance, really fucking hurts.

Yep I saw that on one occasion with a "working girl" and her client. Well I saw the results and managed to step in....the was a row in an alleyway as I was walking to the chip shop at about 11 on a quiet weeknight. I walked and saw the lady push the guy who fell over, instead of getting away, she tried to kick him and he grabbed her leg. I shouted at him and he fucked off (thankfully I was about 15 at time and whilst I've been fighting grown men since I was 12 I wasn't winning many at that stage)

I used to think I could having grown up play fighting with my brothers until we were probably too old for such things. Then I had to fight a grown man, for all I knew at the time I was fighting for my life but I couldn't do it. My legs turned to jelly my punches were completely ineffective and I couldn't even scream, I opened my mouth but nothing came out.

If I had to I would, I've stood my ground in the face of verbal assault and threats from patients and from my previously abusive dad with the advice that thauthorities would be there immediately if they swung. I'll tell you what though when the adrenaline wears off I fall apart. But I literally grabbed my frightened inner child the night my dad squared up to me at my mums wake and stepped in front of her like I'm made of steel.

I think I could fight if I had to, I can take a hit and stay standing and stay calm (in the face of a meltdown from my autistic 7 stone son for example I can can remain calm and contain him in a safe area even when I come out covered in bite marks and bruises.

If someone hit me and I had to fight back they'd have to knock me out to get past me.

I’ve thought this before @fishbowlee. DH and I often play fight and I’m always shocked at how strong he is when he’s not even trying. Makes me realise if someone that size wanted to harm me I wouldn’t stand a chance 😬