Is this a ‘Soft life’

[Wellthatwasabrupt]

And would you want it?

Has Dh, one young Dc and dogs, lives overseas by the beach and countryside, nice house with pool and sea views.
Works 6 hours per week from home. Does all drop offs and pick ups, food shop, dinners, majority to do with Dc and sorting bills. Has a cleaner.
Dh works Mon-Fri -finishes 4.30, no one works weekends.
Days are free based around Dc school drops, coffee with friends, Pilates, yoga, studying or reading if you like, watching Netflix all day if you like, shopping, beach, pool, garden

Would you call this a soft life? Would you like it, be honest?

So her DH is funding it, if she works six hours a week. Not a good position to be in.

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I don't know what 'soft life' is, sounds like some stupid TikTok thing.

Sounds like a lovely life.

Have to laugh at people thinking you must have nothing to talk about if you don't work though. I'd be bored to death if my husband felt the need to tell me all about his work every day.

A friend of mine has this and escorts for six hours. I couldn’t do that.

I'd love this for some extended time off work, like a sabbatical but day in day out I'd worry I wouldn't appreciate it?

I'm one of those people who function better with the routine of having to be somewhere (in my case work!) and I know left to my own devices I'm never as motivated and proactive as I want to be.

So whilst I'd have the beach and yoga and the option to meet friends etc I am not sure that I'd be making the most of this on a daily basis?

Not sure what this soft life nonsense is though? Assume its a SM thing?

I’d love it
who cares what other people call it

Not if she has independent means. Not everyone needs to be a 'worker'.

I don't want the dog, but the rest sounds great.

Post degree educated, house in her name too and pension

Yes. It sounds absolutely perfect! Only thing to top it off would be to travel loads in school holidays too.

I’ve never heard of the term “soft life” but yes I would love this life very much 😀

Well yes I suppose it depends on the job!

So study FT? Rather than on a half-arsed ‘if you like’ basis, which doesn’t sound remotely purposeful? Work more and support yourself? I mean, raising children isn’t something you need to concentrate on 24/7. Unless the child has significant additional needs, that would be like standing watching a pot cooking for hours, because you think it would cook if left to itself. From what you say this child is at school, too. It sounds like the kind of life you realise on your deathbed was filler.

It's many people's ideal. Not mine. Love beaches, hate housewifery. So it would be a hard life for me! If I can have a full-time nanny, a cook, and the cleaner comes daily ...

I think calling it soft sounds judgemental. Whoever it is it's her life.
Is she happy? Is it the life she wants ? That's all that matters

It's just the opposite of a hard life!

It sounds great? Yes, a very soft life compared to the majority of families.

If this woman and her family, including pets, want to swap places with me & my husband, I’d be very happy! Oh for warm weather and a swimming pool. They would go a long way in easing my arthritis. 😒

Pretty soft yes.

Tbh it's not dissimilar to my actual life although I don't live abroad or have a cleaner. I love it and recognise I'm very privileged.

Can’t believe people are actually getting grumpy about this

It sounds pleasant enough but a bit dull.

Working full time tends to bring you in contact with a wider range of experiences and different people, who will have different views and outlooks on life because the onily thing you have in common is that you work at the same place (if you meet people through hobbies, for example, you're more likely to find people who are of similar mindset to you).

Also, the two people I know well enough to form an opinion as to their depth of converstion and are SAHMs demonstrate that they have nothing to talk about.

The life described in the OP sounds very isolated with not much interaction with others.

I would need to work more than 6 hours a week (I work about 20 and that’s the right number for me). I get depressed and/or mischievous when I don’t have enough to do. I’ve got rampant ADHD and don’t cope well with too much time on my hands and lack of structure.

I know people say ‘oh there are loads of things you could fill your time with’ but I simply wouldn’t. I would want to but what I’d actually do is loaf around in pyjamas doom-scrolling and bingeing on biscuits.

Also Pilates is incredibly boring so I’d swap it for heavy weight lifting.

So no, I don’t really want that life and I’m happy with the one I’ve got.

Nope. Don't like men or dogs and wouldn't want a cleaner, or to live overseas. I'm not an outdoorsy person either, give me towns and cities.

Is that the case here @Wellthatwasabrupt …?

I have no idea what a soft life is but I think it could be.

Having a cleaner and working so few hours sounds very privileged to me. I am jealous.