Is this a ‘Soft life’

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And would you want it?

Has Dh, one young Dc and dogs, lives overseas by the beach and countryside, nice house with pool and sea views.
Works 6 hours per week from home. Does all drop offs and pick ups, food shop, dinners, majority to do with Dc and sorting bills. Has a cleaner.
Dh works Mon-Fri -finishes 4.30, no one works weekends.
Days are free based around Dc school drops, coffee with friends, Pilates, yoga, studying or reading if you like, watching Netflix all day if you like, shopping, beach, pool, garden

Would you call this a soft life? Would you like it, be honest?

I would love it

I dont like working to be honest.

I’d get bored

It sounds idyllic but I dont know what this Soft Life thing is, is it off of the tiktoks?

I wouldn’t want that life in particular, but I prefer choosing my own working commitments and devoting time to the things I enjoy over having to work relentlessly and scrape by.

Life is whatever an individual chooses and makes work financially, practically, and for their own fulfilment, it doesn’t need to be designated “soft.”

It sounds good to me on the surface (although I prefer the city). I guess I don’t know enough about the full circs so say if it’s a soft life.

I don't know what a soft life is but it sounds a nice life. I would want 2 children though not jist one.

Sounds very chill but I’d get bored. I’d need more work or volunteering or massive amounts of gardening or some project to keep occupied.

I prefer a life more based around friends and family. Yours/ the content of your post seems quite isolated, there’s no mention of connections. Sitting at home watching Netflix while my DC are in school wouldn’t be of interest to me.

Why do you need opinions?

Really? but there’s so much variety. Time for hobbies, exercise, socialising, family time AND some work. Yeh there’s some drudgery with the housework and cooking but she also has a cleaner.

It sounds idyllic to me.

Me too. Also it would be tricky if they broke up.

My main issue with this kind of life is...sure you have coffee and pilates with other mums in the same position, but no one has anything to talk about. Everyone craves the fulfilment that comes from productivity so you either go down the try-to-sell-homemade-candles route, or become bossy at the PTA.

I'd need more children. I have 3 and wouldn't have fewer than that.

any job is better than having to watch Netflix

Why would a woman have nothing to talk about simply because she only works part time?

I'd like it but I wouldn't say it was a soft life. Don't really think you can have a soft life if you've got kids

She reads.

She studies.

She works (albeit for 6 hours).

There’s more room for self improvement in this life than most treadmill lives where we give our best selves to our employers and run on empty the rest of the time.

Op, how do I get this life? except with more kids.

I’d be happy for a month or two but then I would struggle. Work is important to me and good for my mental health. I also, naively or otherwise, feel like my job makes a positive contribution to society.

Who’s funding it?

It sounds wonderful. But it’s ok to have that life and still feel like you’re not happy or something is missing.

I’ve never heard the term sift life before.
From the outside it looks idilic.
However, relying on a man ( or woman) for your finances is suicidal. Unless of course they are a multi millionaire and you can guarantee that you will get half if you split up.
Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors.
If all is well though, yes I would love it.

And no, I wouldn’t. It sounds purposeless and as if the person is killing time.

No idea what a 'soft life' means but, it sounds lovely and each to their own.

xx soft life xxx

Sounds great apart from the dogs!

I'd like it without the husband or child but I'm 50 so...🤷🏼‍♀️

I’d be bored witless but I thrive on being busy and love working and having a seperate life outside of the home. Am sure plenty of people would love it though.