Is this a ‘Soft life’

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And would you want it?

Has Dh, one young Dc and dogs, lives overseas by the beach and countryside, nice house with pool and sea views.
Works 6 hours per week from home. Does all drop offs and pick ups, food shop, dinners, majority to do with Dc and sorting bills. Has a cleaner.
Dh works Mon-Fri -finishes 4.30, no one works weekends.
Days are free based around Dc school drops, coffee with friends, Pilates, yoga, studying or reading if you like, watching Netflix all day if you like, shopping, beach, pool, garden

Would you call this a soft life? Would you like it, be honest?

I would absolutely love it for a couple of months. After that I'd be hankering after the city I love within a short drive from a beach in exactly the same way as I feel after a lovely holiday abroad by the beach & a hotel with a pool. I love sunshine but no matter how much aircon you have you still sweat like an ox on ocassions 😂Ariving home to cooler weather is always wonderful 😂
It does sound lovely OP but a soft life, I'm not so sure 🤔

I'm kind of envious of your lifestyle OP, but filling your day with hobbies is not meaningful. A lot of us have done some/all of those things whilst holding down a proper job. I'd be looking to earn some more money and not being so dependent on my husband.

Sounds lovely but I might be a bit bored. However I’ve never had the luxury of finding out. If you are content then just enjoy your life!

Oh you haven’t fallen into the trap of spouting that nonsense that ‘nobody wishes they worked more on their deathbed’ have you? I assure you many women or men of limited means wish they’d done more with their lives but couldn’t. I’m the first person in my family to finish school - before me, the world of higher education was simply closed to my family, no matter how intelligent. Many of them heartily wished they had different opportunities.

I get a lot of meaning and purpose from my work, so it wouldn’t be ideal for me, and I get a lot of satisfaction from supporting myself and my family. I like looking at what we have and knowing that our work provided it all. That doesn’t mean this isn’t a perfectly happy enjoyable life for someone with different values.

Soft if you’re only looking at the cover story.
The reality could be more of a gilded cage.

cocktails would but she has to drive back to school and whilst I'm on the bus, I think the head might pass comment if it's tiddled

It sounds very dependent on a man providing this lifestyle and I just couldn't be okay with that.

I also wouldn't feel right knowing that I did very little all day and my husband was working 5 days a week. Maybe 20 hours of work for us both - that would leave a lot of time for both of us to enjoy life and family and hobbies whilst still being productive and working towards something.

Why do you ask?

Not soft enough, for me.

I would feel trapped doing all the domestic labour alone, and be concerned that I don't have anything if DH decides to break up for some reason. I also think the amount of free time this person has might be a little overstated here when you factor in everything that goes into running a household.