AIBU to expect husband to stay up with the baby too?

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Feeling quite resentful atm so just want to know if my feelings are unreasonable or not.

We had a long family day out yesterday with our 2 DD (4 and 6 months). We all went to bed late and woke up late this morning. It's messed up the baby's schedule and now she's wide awake and not likely to go to sleep before 11pm. Husband has taken himself off to play PlayStation and I'm left entertaining a grumpy baby.

I just feel like it's very unfair that he can carry on with his alone time but i have to continue to parent and not have any evening myself. Doesn't help that I've had a stressful day home alone with both kids today. I've parented solo all day and now into the evening too, baby is up several times in the night as well and that's all on me too (breastfeeding, I am generally happy with the nighttime stuff but it is still hard).

His argument is that he only wants one night a week gaming (fine, but he could do another night when the baby is actually in bed), he told his friend he'd be on (his friend is literally on every evening) and he has game challenges that expire tonight. I suppose there's no point in both of us having our evening disturbed but it is ALWAYS me up with the kids when this happens. He makes me seem very unreasonable in my annoyance.

AIBU?

A weekend with friends every 3 weeks, or a night out every week for you too -would that work? "oh sorry dear, baby still up? Well I've already said I'd be there and there are challenges to do so I'm off.. "
It's just that it's so inflexible and therefore gets really unfair, not so much that it's gaming. Either he gets flexible or you get inflexible time away too, I think.
But if he's working and you're not, that does mean you'll end up picking up the slack before work. Maybe that makes it even more important to get inflexible time away booked in that you can't swap around for his convenience just as he doesn't budge for yours.

Neither of them have to accept that they should miss out on something they want to do when the orher parent is there to take over. This obsession you youngsters have with shared parenting is very inefficient. Children do not need two parents to be in attendance all the time. The beauty of being a partnership is that you can share the duties. In this case OP seems intent on being a martyr and then complaining about it which is another trend of modern parenting.

Just tell him that he needs to parent his kids. Give him the baby and go do what you want. The more you put up with it, the more he will be a lazy selfish arsehole.

It’s no wonder modern life is so stressful. No one seems to be allowed to do anything that helps them stay well.

Tomorrow night id had the baby over to him and go up and have a bath and either watch tv in bed or read.

Also I’d say to him if he can have one gaming night I can have 1 night to have a quiet bath and go up early ect.