Do you believe in this often said term?

[Kate879]

I’ve had some bad news this week re. my job security and I know people are trying to be helpful but “everything happens for a reason” isn’t a consolation at the moment.

Do you believe that to be true?

Ouch, it’s not something I would say to someone who has had bad news.

I do believe in fate and I do believe things happen for a reason, but I would be watching the tone or facial expression of someone who said this to me. Some people do like to rub it in.

What makes you think things happen for a reason? Who or what has decided that reason and why have they? For example, your beloved pet died because it ate a poisonous mushroom. Why would you believe that was pre ordained?

Cause and effect is more like the opposite of everything happens for a reason.

I believe it . I once didn't get a job I desperately wanted but a short while later another opportunity came along and I have always believed that was waiting for me and that is the reason I didn't get it.

its not a helpful phrase when you’re facing uncertainty that affects your ability to fund basic living costs!

especially if it comes from someone more financially stable than you!! And they literally utter the phrase and blithely move on to the next topic of conversation!

Just about ok to say to someone after they’ve been through a rough patch of some sort and are now in a better place!

I hope that when you are sorted with some other work that is more secure you can look back and find some ‘reasons’. There will be positives that come from this - maybe making you more resilient, always having a back-up plan, saving/investing more, living a simpler life, focusing on the value of friends/family who are supportive.

But right now, it’s a crap saying and of no use to you at all. Good luck in the coming months, I hope you find a solution soon

Why is this phrase always about job! It’s never about a kid who becomes an orphan at two or the mass shooting of a school is it? There must be some celestial recruitment agency somewhere planning all this.

I don’t but I have seen people move on to better things in such circumstances so I think it can have a positive impact depending upon what you do next and what your options are.

Worse things happen at sea.

I guess it's cup half full or cup half empty territory. You can't do anything about it, but you can decide it will lead to better things or get really depressed about it. Better to try and see the positives even if it all looks bleak.

Well there will be a reason, eg company reorganisation, company profits down, job taken over by AI etc, but it makes absolutely no difference to you what the reason is. You will still be out of a job. The most helpful thing someone said to me when I was at a very dark low time of life was something along the lines of 'things can change, things will get better at some point. Life can be shit for even a long time and then one day you turn a corner and things are good again'. It really gave me hope.

I suppose everything does happen for a reason, that might be a good or bad reason.

How you manage the aftermath of a big change is the biggest flex. Stress/ upheaval/ change is difficult but if you are able to grow/ level up and create a better life from that change then the juice was worth the squeeze.

It’s a stupid comment, said by people that should keep their mouth shut.

One of my colleagues said this to someone in our team and the response back was “yes you twat I know that, the reason is, they want to save money!!”

He had a point.

It depends what you mean, OP. Of course things happen for a reason because they have a cause. You tripped over that toy because it was there and you weren't looking where you were going.

But if you mean 'is there someone somewhere looking out for us and controlling our destinies?', then, no, there isn't.

The universe obeys the laws Newton and Einstein and others have described. But there's no protective or governing consciousness - so things appear random.

Do our lives have any meaning? They have the meaning we each choose to give them, and that's completely up to us - no-one else.