My parents have never told me about major skeleton in family closet. I have been an adult for 27 years FFS! And now I find out ...

[eekamoose]

... just so shocked that they never told me about this. Recently been put in a hugely embarrassing situation because of their determination to keep things under the carpet. Am a bit stunned tbh.

I think they should have told me, AIBU?

My G-G?-Grandad (common) murdered someone (posh) with a potato ricer, and got deported. We think that my Gran was an unmarried mother, and her husband had been married before with children, but we don't know who to. Which is unbelievable as we live in small Irish town where everybody knows everything.

We also know lots of people brought up by their G-parents, believing they were their parents. Oh and my Mum knows a bloke who was jailed for having sex with a sheep. His wife stood by him (not on the actual hill though).

Sorry to lower the tone, some of these stories are really tragic, but I just had to hide that last page as "DP" walked past. He is always making silly jokes about SheepSh@ggers (me being Welsh)!

cocolepew: how do you murder someone with a potato ricer [visions of victim being pushed through it]

Being at the younger end of a laarge family, I sometimes find that my older sisters knew all about various things that just never were mentioned to me.

I wonder if it kept quiet when you were younger to protect older members of the family who are no longer around now?

My DS (5.5m) has a cousin he will probably never meet as my younger brother's ex had his son when they were both aged 16. I have met the little boy (who is now 10) once when he was 18months old (by accident as I recognised his mother in the street) but my brother, mother and father have never seen him and my grandparents, aunts, uncles etc do not know (my brother is estranged from my mother and my father hasn't seen fit to tell anyone that his perfect little boy isn't so perfect) - it is very complicated....

Anyway. I still don't know when I will tell DS. It has to be early enough that it is not such a big deal, but late enough that my grandparents are no longer here and he doesn't have to keep a secret (I don't want him to ask uncle xx where xx is when we are at family occasions etc )....... I can easily see a situation arising where I still haven't told him at 18 and then how do I bring it up?

choccypig, it was metal to I'm presuming he hit him on the head with it, I'm thinking actually trying to rice him would have took too long. DH knows someone who had, ahem, relations with his dog. And told people about it .