WIBU To call the police?

[Helpless0190]

I know myself i wasn't BU. But everyone around me seems to think I was and now I have put myself at risk.

House on the street. Couple, 5 kids. Always volatile, enough shouting and screaming that I can hear their voices carry across the road into my house.

Over the past few years there have been incidents where I have called the police. The male is arrested, she doesn't support it, not enough evidence, nfa. I have also raised safeguarding concerns more than once.

A few days ago there was another incident (on the doorstep, its always on the doorstep) and it was severe enough for me to call the police again. They attended, arrested the male, and for the first time officers went into the property.

What they found was severe enough to remove the children. I do not know all of the details but the officer told me some and it is grim.

Because of this I'm now public enemy number one to the mother, and I'm assuming her partner when he reappears from wherever he is bailed to. She has been screaming over to my house, throwing things around the garden, generally losing it.

And now my own family think I did the wrong thing and I have put myself and DD in danger. But I dont see how I was supposed to sit back and let it happen - especially with what the police uncovered.

Could the police talk to the mother to leave you alone?
You mqde the right choice.
Is it mental helath or drugs ?

You absolutely did the right thing.
How awful for you.
You deserve praise not criticism.

Just deny you were the one reporting

im sorry you are dealing with this. If they took the children away then there will be good reason. And them threatening you is not going to help their case at all !
I think you need to call the police again if this continues in order to defend yourself
Personally I’m glad you did what you did. Well done

You did exactly the right thing. You were the only one looking out for those poor children. I hope they’re somewhere safer and happier now. Are you reporting her to the police every time she verbally abuses or attacks your properly? Your family are a disgrace.

You were right to report this.
You absolutely need to notify the police that the mother is now harassing you and ask what sort of support and assistance they give in these circumstances. Document and report each instance of harassment. Keep your own reports too. If it is not safe for you to be home then leave. I’m sorry this is happening but you can be sure you did the right thing for the kids.

It's difficult because of course it was the right thing to do for the children and woman even if she doesn't appreciate it; however your family are right in that you and your daughter may face danger when he gets out. I think this is why many people won't call the police as it can bring trouble to your own doorstep. I probably wouldn't have intervened as I have children, but if I didn't it would be easier to make the call.

She knows i made the report. She refused to give a statement as usual but told the officer that the woman over the road would, meaning me. She also knows my doorbell camera picks up most of the incidents, they spill over to my side of things. The last few days shes been screaming about the camera, as if what has happened is somehow my fault.

And drugs play a part I am sure, but its a case of severe neglect in the house.

She doesn’t “know” anything of the sort

just deny deny deny

Surely you can’t have been the only one to ever complain given this was always on the door step

The house attached to them is currently empty, the previous owners left because of similar thing. I'm sure other people have reported them. They must have, this time she knows it is me though. The officer who came for a statement confirmed it.

She knows nothing of the sort.

Keep denying and ignore your bat shit family.

You did the right thing if anything had happened to the children you would have felt bad you hadn’t reported it.I would inform the police if you have any comeback from them.

NO. The officer knows she thinks it’s you
he would not have confirmed

so deny deny deny

So what would your family rather have had happen? Keep turning a blind eye and leave it till eventually it escalates, as these situations always do, and the woman and her kids were harmed, or worse, end up dead?

You read so many articles about people sitting back and doing nothing and then a child is dead

You 100% did the right thing @Helpless0190 and if the woman doesn't like it, she can get to fuck - hopefully SS will step in and sort them out

I appalled that this has been going on for years.
and this is the first time they have ever entered the property?

You did the right thing. You now need to deny you made the report and stop telling your family or anyone else about it. Thank god it's finally come to an end.

The children will thank you I’m sure!
can you move? Are you in rental or council/HA etc perhaps they can find somewhere else for you and your DD

So your family think you should have left children to continue having whatever it was done to them, to save retaliation from them? If it was bad enough to remove the kids then it would’ve been bad enough to risk those kids’ lives. So your family are suggesting you should’ve left that? Wow. Breathtaking

As for what you DID do, quite rightly I might add, I absolutely realise that you shouldn’t have to but is there any way you can go stay with someone for a few days? I’m not suggesting you should have to leave your home I’m just suggesting it for an easier life over the weekend. For your kids’ sake.

I am surprised the police officer didn’t suggest that you didn’t broadcast this to extended family given you don’t know if he’s been convicted of anything

And ?
She knows.

Inform the police she is harassing you.
I reported my ndn to the council. .
She had a go at me drunk...I rang the police. They know she is trouble now
They told her next time she'll be arrested.. I have no worries about that happening..
She does...works a respectable job I think.

Keep hiring doorbell charged at all times.
And bide your time op.

I own my house, the problem one is local authority housing.

Which brings me to an interesting bit, while i was sitting here typing her parents have arrived and they are all frantically loading black bags into their car. There is a chance she may be leaving. I really, really hope so.

And as for nobody going into the property until now - I dont get it either. I have raised safeguarding concerns myself before. As far back as 2021. They have had more kids since then and at least one arrest in that time. I didn't know what the inside of the house was like otherwise I would have made more noise to safeguarding about things.

You did the right thing

And you have potentially put your family in danger

Tell your family that you would rather call the police and make sure the children are safe than not and they end up hurt or even dead

you did the right thing

You absolutely did the right thing. Thank you for protecting those poor children. I hope she is leaving and you get some peace in your home.