WIBU To call the police?

[Helpless0190]

I know myself i wasn't BU. But everyone around me seems to think I was and now I have put myself at risk.

House on the street. Couple, 5 kids. Always volatile, enough shouting and screaming that I can hear their voices carry across the road into my house.

Over the past few years there have been incidents where I have called the police. The male is arrested, she doesn't support it, not enough evidence, nfa. I have also raised safeguarding concerns more than once.

A few days ago there was another incident (on the doorstep, its always on the doorstep) and it was severe enough for me to call the police again. They attended, arrested the male, and for the first time officers went into the property.

What they found was severe enough to remove the children. I do not know all of the details but the officer told me some and it is grim.

Because of this I'm now public enemy number one to the mother, and I'm assuming her partner when he reappears from wherever he is bailed to. She has been screaming over to my house, throwing things around the garden, generally losing it.

And now my own family think I did the wrong thing and I have put myself and DD in danger. But I dont see how I was supposed to sit back and let it happen - especially with what the police uncovered.

I do. I think people who put themselves at risk to allow vulnerable children to be kept safe are the best of us.

Well done OP. If more people stood up for the vulnerable in our society, the world would be a better place.

You did the right thing.

5 children will have a chance in life now thanks to you

If she or her family come round again deny it but tell her you will call the police if they don’t leave you alone.
get another doorbell camera up back and front too

Your own family think you did wrong to save children from a horrible abusive situation?

They do not remove children unless something absolutely major was going on.

I think in this case it's your family who are unreasonable. I know in this country people tend to try and mind their own business but honestly that's the attitude which ended up with no one getting involved when little James Bulger was kidnapped, and no one getting involved when Baby P was tortured to death. You did the right thing.

I guess you're the person who would have walked past when little James Bulger was crying for his mother, 'nothing to see here, minding my own business'.

You'd have lived next door to Baby P and heard to poor child crying in pain as he was being abused to death, 'no one likes a grass'. Honestly. Disgusting attitude.

You've done 100% the right thing. You could have saved lives, and at minimum you have got those children out of an unsafe environment. To instantly remove them, it must have been very, very bad. If she does anything else, call the police every single time. Depending on how threatening she is, they may or may not come out each time but it will all be logged and used as evidence to show that she is not stable to have those children in her care.

No one likes an unemployed rage baiting middle aged overweight incel sat at a crusty computer in his mother’s box room trying to argue with women online who won’t give you the time of day in real life.

Yet here you are.

This
keep denying and keep reporting

get cameras thst are inside the window snd get a restraining order if you csn

Come off it

How do they know it was you that called police?
If they are threatening you, you need to ring the police and log it,you can get an injunction served on her to keep away from you

This is such a disgusting comment!!

I have given statements every time hes been violent and abusive in the street, the kids are normally out there too so ive called the police more than once. And I installed the camera after the last time he was released nfa through lack of evidence so I think they have just worked out it is me.

Its all gone quiet this evening, her visitors have all left for now.

The kids are the main reason I was so eager to call the police. I couldn't stand by and watch them go through it again. I didn't know how bad things were for them inside the house.

You're right. I mis-read that post. Thanks for the correction. I must learn not to skim read!

I do not know all of the details but the officer told me some and it is grim

I find it extremely unlikely that the officer would have given you any details at all.

You did the right thing to report it

You absolutely did the right thing OP, please don't doubt yourself.

And report the mother's harrassment, too.

Thank goodness for you and people like you, who are prepared to do right by children who are abused or neglected.

OP was damned either way then? It takes an awful lot to be that person who doesn't look away knowing they will likely suffer consequences. As there were children at risk what else could OP do? I understand the consequences also affect her own child but again, there was just no choice other than hobsons choice.

What you did was brave. People are reluctant to get involved these days because they fear retaliation.

You did the right thing. Your parents should be supporting you.

And yet every single day there’s a police officer in the news for some wrongdoing or other. Turns out there’s ill suited and unprofessional people in all jobs.

@Helpless0190 You did the right thing. It’s going to be uncomfortable and you should be vigilant and report anything you’re concerned about, but don’t worry unduly, Lots of domestic abusers are too cowardly to even confront people who stand up to them.

You did the right thing Op. Every time a child ends up dead from neglect or violence people say they knew there was something wrong, but they did nothing out of fear. Well done on being the decent person who didn't turn a blind eye

He did. He sat on my sofa and told me the conditions. He then radioed his sarge to ask for another set of eyes on the house because he wasn't comfortable with leaving the kids there. I have no reason to lie about it.

If not, you can probably get them removed if you keep complaining etc., but it's a long process. It took my best friend years to get rid of her neighbours in similar circumstances.

Well done for reporting this op. It must have been seriously bad if it met the threshold for removing the kids. People like that make me sick.

Really? You either don't know many police officers or you don't read the news.