Would you go away if DC was unwell?

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I’ve had a rough year with DC being unwell (nothing serious, just lots of things) and I sort of knew this would happen.

have one night away planned mid week with friends. It’s been in the diary for over six months.

of course one child has woken up with a raging fever and there has been tonsillitis going round her class so I don’t think it’s going to be 24 hour thing (but we’ll see)

obviouslt her dad will be here but would you go anyway in that situation? In all honestly their dad is dismissive of illness in general and tbh I know I’d just be worrying all the time so tempted to cancel but I’m so frustrated as I get so little time away and to decompress. Life is just endless work and childcare and I was really looking forward to 36 hours of total me time

tbh either way it’s ruined now anyway as I won’t relax

I’m so fucked off

She has 2 parents. If you trust dh to be able to look after her and hopefully you can or else why together

then go

its one night and dh can text you to say how she is

tho if is tonsillitis then get some antib from doc - it tastes rank but really helps. We had this

I would go

My DH is a competent parent.

Of course I'd go.
My dc have two parents, both of whom are perfectly capable of looking after a poorly child for 36hours.

Totally agree

The main issue here is the ‘dismissive of illness’ thing.
What is that all about?

This is why so many dads end up useless. Let him parent his children and go have a good time. It’s a bug not a life threatening illness. Don’t make a rod for your own back, they’ll probably have a great time.

Just thought I’d come back to add: I did go away, it was great and I’m so glad I did. DC did need to be picked in nearly from school due to stomach issues but dad handled fine and I unexpectedly didn’t feel as anxious as I’d expected being separated from the situation.

ASD and upbringing, basically (he’s an older dad)