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AIBU to let my children use all inclusive on a group holiday?

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AIvSC · 12/07/2026 21:45

Against my better judgement I agreed to a group holiday. Mixture of family and friends all know each other well. All have children ranging from baby-16

My BIL organised it but we all booked separately.

He sent a link to an all inclusive resort and that's what I and half of the group booked.

BIL and the half booked the same hotel but self catering.

It was £600 more for AI- which as we are here for 8 days works out as less than £20 per person per day (four of us)

First night was fine as we all went out for dinner but today has been hell.

We have had a pool day and my kids have been able to get snacks/drinks/etc as they like but to purchase it all is quite expensive.

We've just come back from dinner- which was 'free' for us but not for them and were told it wasn't fair if our kids used the AI.

I asked why they didn't book the AI and they said they didn't like AI- but they were at dinner having the same food as us.

I don't want to be say to our kids that they can't use the AI but equally don't want to fall out. I enquired how much it would cost to upgrade to AI and it was 2200€ per family.

OP posts:
Daleksatemyshed · Yesterday 14:10

@TrainyWainy I meant the BIL went self catering so he paid quite a lot less for the booking, turns out it's not been a good choice if the hotel drinks and snacks for his DC are pretty expensive

keepincool · Yesterday 14:11

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Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

I do wish MNHQ would introduce the option to block posts from other users.

Edited to add that I agree with your post about that aggressive poster.

MrsVBS · Yesterday 14:17

You’ve bought and paid for it, stop being ridiculous. Why should you or your kids miss out, everyone had the chance to book it and decided not to, that’s their problem.

godmum56 · Yesterday 14:17

keepincool · Yesterday 14:11

I do wish MNHQ would introduce the option to block posts from other users.

Edited to add that I agree with your post about that aggressive poster.

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I totally agree about the blocking thing.

Wetblanket78 · Yesterday 14:19

You’ve paid for it so use it. They haven’t nobody is making them eat with you. They could get their own food to cook or go out and find a cheaper place to eat.

keepincool · Yesterday 14:20

ISpyNoPlumPie · Yesterday 10:35

“Picking your face up off the driveway”
”Probably not the hill I’d want to die on, literally”

What are you getting out of this? It comes across as very bizarre.

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Haven't you realised that housebatshit is well 'ard?. S/he is letting people know how things would play out if people didn't break the rules for them.

TrainyWainy · Yesterday 14:21

Daleksatemyshed · Yesterday 14:10

@TrainyWainy I meant the BIL went self catering so he paid quite a lot less for the booking, turns out it's not been a good choice if the hotel drinks and snacks for his DC are pretty expensive

No absolutely I completely agree. It's cheaping out done wrong.

RoseBlueuet · Yesterday 14:22

keepincool · Yesterday 14:11

I do wish MNHQ would introduce the option to block posts from other users.

Edited to add that I agree with your post about that aggressive poster.

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Agree. It would be helpful and make the experience here a nicer one.

That poster has been at it on other threads too.

SurferRona · Yesterday 14:31

Housebashing · Yesterday 09:05

Oh my god, no it’s not forbidden is it?

Call the police 🙀

tread carefully if i was you because the certain type that you are snitching on is also the type that might knock your teeth out

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Nice.

I see you edited purely to add a threat to @RoseBlueuet . Hope your day has now improved 😁. You must add joy to everyone alongside you on your feathery intergalactic wotnot

oh, and @dapsnotplimsolls was pointing out the amusing typo in a PPs post, she didn’t need it explaining. Opposite to you really….😂

Greyhoundsmittenlady · Yesterday 14:39

Marmite27 · 12/07/2026 21:47

Tell them as you’ve paid for it they will be using it! I can’t believe they’d expect you not to. They booked on the cheap, they can deal with the moving kids!

You have paid for it, it is not free. Use it, don't waste it. It is very unreasonable to expect you to forfeit it.

InterIgnis · Yesterday 14:43

Lmao at the threat of violence as if that’s supposed to intimate and impress. Truly a proportionate response to not getting what you want, and one which definitely won’t get you beaten bloody, and/or thrown into a foreign jail if not prison.

Hotels are very strict when it comes to stealing (or at least the better ones are), and while undoubtedly some guests do get away with it, it isn’t a risk OP is willing or obliged to take.

The BIL chose not to pay for AI, and that’s on him. If he was so morally opposed to the tourist industry, and the hotel charging ridiculous amounts for slushies and bottled water (not that it sounds like this hotel is partially outrageous when it comes to pricing, not in regards to water anyway), you’d think he’d have refrained from the holiday in the first place.

Bloozie · Yesterday 15:03

It does indeed suck to be them and their kids, but you have paid for your children to be able to hydrate, snack and cool down without anyone having to think about it. They haven't.

I'd tell my bil that his request is understandable but unreasonable, and he needs to help his children understand that money doesn't grow on trees.

Serenitymummy · Yesterday 15:16

BurnTheWholeThingDown · 12/07/2026 21:49

This is the most batshit insane thing I’ve read all day, and the competition has been stiff.

Tell them to fuck off and stop being such complete fucknuggets. Don’t give them any hint that this is at all an acceptable request. It’s not.

You've made my day with 'complete fuck nuggets' thank you!

ALJT · Yesterday 15:18

I’d just say no absolutely not, not my fault you didn’t book. Then I’d separate and distance ourselves for the remainder of the holiday and enjoy it

Holidaymodeon · Yesterday 15:19

Also… in addition to my previous comment, I’m sure someone will have already said this but this is an excellent life lesson for him to teach his kids about the value of money, to be gracious, have gratitude, work hard, how some people have more in life generally and about the pre planning and decision making which has led to this situation and that we can’t spend our lives being jealous because there will always be disparity between people, our peers, people we see online etc

Clearinguptheclutter · Yesterday 15:24

Remind that that you have paid for it- in advance

I’d feel a bit sorry for the kids though. Not the adults

Julimia · Yesterday 15:28

Of course your children camn use it that's what youve0 paid for. They know what theyre
doing they chose not to book it.ignore and carry on!

Whammyammy · Yesterday 15:28

How bizarre and weird they are. Wanting you to psy for items you have already paid for???

Pherian · Yesterday 15:29

AIvSC · 12/07/2026 21:45

Against my better judgement I agreed to a group holiday. Mixture of family and friends all know each other well. All have children ranging from baby-16

My BIL organised it but we all booked separately.

He sent a link to an all inclusive resort and that's what I and half of the group booked.

BIL and the half booked the same hotel but self catering.

It was £600 more for AI- which as we are here for 8 days works out as less than £20 per person per day (four of us)

First night was fine as we all went out for dinner but today has been hell.

We have had a pool day and my kids have been able to get snacks/drinks/etc as they like but to purchase it all is quite expensive.

We've just come back from dinner- which was 'free' for us but not for them and were told it wasn't fair if our kids used the AI.

I asked why they didn't book the AI and they said they didn't like AI- but they were at dinner having the same food as us.

I don't want to be say to our kids that they can't use the AI but equally don't want to fall out. I enquired how much it would cost to upgrade to AI and it was 2200€ per family.

Why is it unfair for you and your family to use something you d paid for. They could go to the front desk and ask to upgrade your have all inclusive - they are going to eat anyway so may as well.

I would say they are being unfair and weird for monitoring what food your kids eat and whether or not you paid for it up front or at the point of service.

Morrisdancer24 · Yesterday 15:34

The reason I will never go on holiday with friends and/or family again is for reasons exactly like this. Tell them all to FO and of course you will be using the AI you've paid for! Holidays are when you see the real side of people, and 9 times out of 10 it's not pleasant !

Marieb19 · Yesterday 15:41

They are being ridiculous. Tell them to go to a shop and buy drinks and snacks for their kids if they don't want to pay bar prices. It's completely unreasonable to expect you and your children to lose the hundreds of pounds you have already paid.

Daleksatemyshed · Yesterday 15:44

Just out of interest @AIvSC , if it's a group of friends and family were you the only ones to go AI, if not, why is the BIL just whinging at you?

Bamboozledbylife · Yesterday 15:47

Please tell me you called him a fucknugget op?

BuildbyNumbere · Yesterday 15:48

That’s madness … what are you going to do? Pay twice?!?

GreatPinkViper · Yesterday 15:48

This is ridiculous. You've paid for it and should use it. Its not your or your kids fault if the rest of the group didnt do the same. I once had this whilst on a group holiday but the other way round. Most of our group booked room only for our short stay as there was lots of reasonable restaurants nearby where we wanted to eat. One family booked full board at the hotel which was fine but they were annoyed with us all holiday when we went to eat out locally. Complained their son was being " left out" and tried to get us to eat in the hotel.