AIBU to let my children use all inclusive on a group holiday?

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Against my better judgement I agreed to a group holiday. Mixture of family and friends all know each other well. All have children ranging from baby-16

My BIL organised it but we all booked separately.

He sent a link to an all inclusive resort and that's what I and half of the group booked.

BIL and the half booked the same hotel but self catering.

It was £600 more for AI- which as we are here for 8 days works out as less than £20 per person per day (four of us)

First night was fine as we all went out for dinner but today has been hell.

We have had a pool day and my kids have been able to get snacks/drinks/etc as they like but to purchase it all is quite expensive.

We've just come back from dinner- which was 'free' for us but not for them and were told it wasn't fair if our kids used the AI.

I asked why they didn't book the AI and they said they didn't like AI- but they were at dinner having the same food as us.

I don't want to be say to our kids that they can't use the AI but equally don't want to fall out. I enquired how much it would cost to upgrade to AI and it was 2200€ per family.

I think they are reasonable. All should be fair on holiday. If your room has a nicer view I would close the curtains too.

This sounds like a skill issue on his part. BIL fucked up and found out.

Why did no one mention this on a group chat? Like "we're booking the all inclusive, just checking everyone else is."

Don't feel guilty. Enjoy your hols.

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It's not stealing though? OP has said she is mainly drinking water. So her slushie allocation is going unused. So on some occasions she could give a slushie to a kid. It's not a big deal.

But this attitude of "just get their kids some drinks on your AI" is how entitled CF's thrive in society. If other people enable them, then they will do it all the more. Absolutely not OP, stand firm!

I am trying to think what it would have autocorrected from?

That’s absolutely controlling and nuts. Add what you said here ‘it was only £20 extra per day and I figured we’d easily spend that on drinks and food anyway.’ Why should you be punished for them not doing their maths?

They had the same set-up when I was on a Saga holiday to Montenegro a couple of years ago.

There was actually a separate 'Saga lounge' for teas, coffees and biscuits, but also a couple of bars where you either showed your band or paid. (There were also some imported drinks not included in AI - not that unusual, I believe.)

In the restaurant, the staff had a list of rooms that were AI and those that were half-board or b and b.

It is indeed, OP. Wise mum .
Perhaps you can explain to the adults and their kids that your kids have paid for the drinks and snacks in advance of the holiday. So they are not getting "free" stuff at all. And they will continue to access the drinks and snacks that they have paid for.

If you justify stealing on the basis that the people you are stealing from are multi millionaire chains you can pretty much justify stealing from the vast majority of high street shops, supermarkets, car dealers, on line businesses, restaurants etc.

Lol. It's a holiday. Chill. I'm sure the hotel is not blubbing into its slushie maker wailing whhhhhy did she give her slushie to the child with no wristband. It's not faaaair! (But, back to orignal OP obvs BIL is ridiculous also with his 'no fairs'. All sounds unecessarily stressful. Is it v hot there? You are all literally sweating the small stuff).

I do yes !

OMG forbidden! I’m sure you’ve done something “forbidden” in your time?
I can assure you that I’m not whatever certain type you’re alluding to but I can tell you’re not so nice yourself. Is it my fault that the hotel make loads of money and overwork their staff? No. Am I making it worse for them? No. You’re angry at the wrong person.

And you standing your ground over some frozen ice will really stick it to them 😂😂
So what if they thrive in society? I hope they do.
We’ve had one local organisation go bust owing £950,000 to HMRC and then Phoenix the company the next week
So they still own the company, nothing has changed in the world at all except HMRC don’t get 950 grand and they’ll never recover it because it’s a perfectly legal thing to do
I can get excited about those cheeky fuckers but not some brother-in-law trying to save himself £20 a day on ice cream

Totally unacceptable to ask that of you OP. On the flip side I’d feel so incredibly awkward if my family were AI and my brothers weren’t, that alone would spoil my holiday as I’d be on edge all the time so it’s unfair of your BIL to raise it when you could already have felt awkward.

The DB was cheap and probably all inclusive judgy and snobby and it’s backfired massively. How he could not work out lunch, drinks, snacks, ice creams etc is going to cost way more than £20 per person today? He must feel like an eejit.

Yes, I think that's what they're getting at with the "certain type". Arrogant tossers, with zero integrity or morality, who believe they are above the rules... And possibly the rough sort who will use their fists because they have no brain.

I sort of had this once, while out with BIL and his kids. We were waiting for them to arrive, and DH bought our DC an ice cream while we waited, but BIL and his kids arrived sooner than we were expecting, so his kids arrived in time to see ours eating their ice creams and obviously whinged about it. BIL muttered something under his breath something about being annoyed we'd bought our kids an ice cream so now he'd have to buy his children one, when he didn't want to, and then DH (who is a massive people pleaser) sort of spiralled into a pit of guilt. I had to firmly remind DH that he is a grown man, who bought HIS children ice cream with HIS money that HE earned, and that is absolutely NOT a reason to feel guilty!

It can be awkward when spending time with other families, as different families inevitably have different rules/habits/routines... eg. one family lets their kids buy loads of souvenirs and the others don't, one family is really strict about snacking before meals while the other family is more relaxed, bedtimes, going off on their own, etc. etc., but that's the nature of socialising with other families, you can't police how other families look after their kids, the stricter parents have to make a choice of whether to relax their standards while on holiday, or get very used to saying to their kids, "I don't care what XXX is doing, I'm not her mum. Her mum makes the rules for her, and I make the rules for you."

And the more people do this, the more the price goes up for those who are decent enough to pay.

Had I read this thread I think I would have said. 'don't be ridiculous you fucknugget'

There's still time, OP!

Of course it's stealing. You need to pay for AI to use it.

They need to either pay for it or stop complaining to OP and buy their own snacks and drinks for their children.

I’m afraid you’ve got it all wrong. They’ll put the prices up for you anyway.
You won’t benefit in any way shape and form from people not doing it

This.

Because whether they have a brain or not, will not help you if you’re picking your face up off the driveway, will it?
In front of the children as well 🙀
Probably not the hill I’d want to die on, literally