My mum has thrown away over £150 worth of makeup and medication

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I have a small pouch that I carry around with me everyday. It’s got a lot of medication in it (antihistamines, painkillers, stomach medicine), as well as 5 lip sticks and 4 lip liners. In total it comes to over £150 worth of stuff in a space NK small pounce (which is expensive in itself!).

I was at my mum’s on Thursday night when she complained about her having bad hay fever. I pulled out the pouch and handed it to her, and although I thought I’d put it back in my bag I must’ve left it on the side. I realised tonight it’s missing as I’ve gone through my bag ahead of work tomorrow and she’s admitted that she has thrown it away.

AIBU to say she should replace it? Both the makeup and medication she’s thrown away?

My mum would be looking through the bins in this situation (although I'd be telling her not to or at least wait for me to help). But OPs mum wasn't going to do that, so she needed to, or accept them as gone.
Accidents happen. OP accidentally left it there and her mum accidentally put it in the bin.

OP's mum often forget to take her handbag home when she visits OP. That is very careless of her. Would OP be justified in binning the handbag?

Do you get anything positive from your relationship with your mother? She sounds completely unmotherly and uncaring so if I were you, I'd see her much less often.

Hmmm... you seem unaware of the fact that some people who need a car for work can only afford an old banger and won't have much to show for it afterwards...

No "extreme wealth" here and no make up bags with £150 of crap inside them.

Are you quite sure...? Even a makeup bag furnished entirely with items from Superdrug could easily exceed £150 if you had to replace it all at once. I expect most women own around 10-20 items of make up, and most women buy their makeup bit by bit rather than all at once. So don't try and pretend OP is being frivolous for owning £150 worth of make up that was probably collected over time. 🙄

Im with the OP there is NO WAY id be rifling through 3 day old food bin waste in bin juice and maybe maggots . YES we get maggots in 3 day old food bin heat!.
Tell her to replace it
I wouldnt want to use it even if she did manage to find it , and going by the OPs post it highly unlikely her mother would be going through the bin either.
If she won't replace it I'd be going round there smashing something to the same value " by accident " but I'm petty like that

If you read the thread you will see that the OP did rifle through 3 day old bin waste, found the pouch, and it was as expected, ruined. The OP's mother found it amusing.

It's just utter selfishness, isn't it? I know the Narcissist accusation is often overused, but there definitely seems to be an overlap. Even if you genuinely believe that something WAS a waste of money, you're not going to get a penny back by just chucking the purchases into a bin, are you?

In fact, how does it even work for people who bin everything - including many things that, even if no longer wanted/needed by you, don't belong in a bin? Lots of bigger households find they struggle for bin space for all their regular legitimate household non-recyclable waste; so how could you possibly manage if you just constantly sling a whole load of random other (non-rubbish) household stuff in there as well?

Just so you know - lip products have a shelf life of no longer than 12 months once they’ve been used. Eye make up too.

Aside from all the sideline discussions about food waste bins, if OP's mum is one of these people who just lazily bins everything regardless, I wonder if she'd even use a FW bin for separate FW if their local council gave them one. Far too much effort for people like that.

Is that strictly true, though? I often wonder - for all kinds of products - isn't it amazingly coincidental how so many of them are fine for 1 year exactly but not more?! Why do you see so few products that are fine for 10, 14 or 19 months?

Especially considering they sell mineral water that's 'filtered through pure mountain rocks for millions of years' and honey that never goes off, and it still has a 'best before' or even 'use by' date!

No i didnt read that far there were hundreds of messages ! .thanks anyway
Back on topic.... for the mother to find it amusing thats proper cuntlike behaviour.
I wouldnt be going round there again in a hurry as I don't like my time , my precious time , to be filled with cuntlike and cuntish behaviour.
I dont think even replacing it would be enough for me at this point

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It does make me laugh that 9 lip products worth £150 have apparently attracted so much envy. Yes there are a couple of Charlotte tilbury products, but there’s also a lot of boots own brand in there! That’s besides the point though, as the issue is she binned it!

I wouldn't go through the bin either. And yes she should replace it, shocking she isn't offering

The OP did rake through her mum's bin and recovered the items. They were ruined, though. Thanks, mum, you stupid, old bat...

Most disgusting experience ever? Really?

Wow 9?! I thought there were about 4/5 at £30 each. I don't carry that many around with me. Why do you carry 9 lip products everywhere?!

Most of my lipsticks are Chanel/Dior etc and I wouldn't go scooping them out of a filthy bin.

They’re all different - some liners, some lip contours, lip stick, a stain, oil, a couple of lip balms. It’s my hand bag, it fits in a small bag, so if I want to carry that I can?

Ofc. It just seems like a lot that's all. I have about 3/4 lip things on me and that's three more than my friends carry.

I would hunt him down and cover him from head to toe in rotten fish juice. Your poor Dad.

Because it’s MN. Many on here really enjoy the ‘nest of vipers’ bullshit and take it very seriously. They HAVE to argue against the OP at all costs, no matter what the OP says.

OP could have told us she’d just rescued a bag of kittens from drowning and people would find a way to berate her for it. Nobody in real life thinks like this. I dunno if they think they are being clever or are just grumpy in general but it really irks me!

Amazed by all the people who think this stuff will be perfectly fine and usable if it’s dug out of the bin. It’s been low to mid 30s for a week, even if bin juice hasnt got into the cosmetics, lipsticks and lip liners are made out of oils and waxes, they’ll have melted into sad puddles after a few days in a black bin.

Yep and even if not I wouldn’t want to put something around my mouth that had been in a bin for a few days!

Totally agree!
Although there's been the odd uber viper (probably more boa constrictor) on MN since it's incarnation, it's got terrible since Covid!

You could put on AIBU - 'AIBU think the sky is blue' and you'd get a 50% saying that YABU.
Plus posts saying that you obviously don't work hard, you are a benefits basher, you neglect your children & husband just because you looked out of the window

I use mine for about 10 years’ and have lived to tell the tale