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My new NDN has three dogs. Help?!

179 replies

Gila15 · 12/07/2026 18:23

As per the title, we moved in a few months ago. We’re a couple with one small dog, and next door is also a couple with 3 large dogs.

They have no control over the dogs at all. One in particular, can scale the fence and jump into our garden, 🤷🏻‍♀️ which he does on a regular basis. One of them is trying to dig a hole under the shared fence. They all bark constantly.

I’ve approached them and asked if they could do something about it, and the response was that the dogs are young and will settle down.

About 20 mins ago, one of their dogs got into our garden, came into the house as the back door was open, and ran amok barking, jumping and dragging dirt all over our new carpets. I was genuinely scared as was my small dog. 😞

I’m now sitting with the doors and windows closed, when I would like to be sitting in my garden.

What the hell can I do? I’m so pissed off.

OP posts:
BruFord · 12/07/2026 21:07

Sasha07 · 12/07/2026 20:54

They sound like absolute idiots. Imagine if you weren't a nice, decent person. I'd be worried as hell if I had no control over my dog and he was annoying a neighbour, I'd be worried they'd poison him or let him loose further. How can they settle knowing their dog isn't safe and secure?! Does it just go back into its own yard afterwards or is the whole neighbourhood like one massive leapy maze for it? You have my sympathy, how the hell are you ever meant to relax and your little dog, too... 😔 I despise bad owners and inconsiderate, ignorant, stupid neighbours.

@Sasha07 They really do sound like idiots.

somanychristmaslights · 12/07/2026 21:11

How small are your fences?!

Bonkers1966 · 12/07/2026 21:12

The important thing is to do something instead of sitting indoors. Take action.

Hippee · 12/07/2026 21:16

tokennamechange · 12/07/2026 21:07

you're going to get abuse from dog lovers but yeah I was going to say if you have a back gate, leave it open when you're in the house.

If they're worried about their dog escaping they might put a bit more effort into controlling it.

We killed a dog that was loose. It was a black dog, running down the middle of the road on a foggy night and my DH could not avoid it. We had the trauma of taking it, dying, to the vet. Our children witnessed it all. The owner told the vet that it had already got out twice before on that day. They didn't deserve that lovely dog.

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 12/07/2026 21:17

somanychristmaslights · 12/07/2026 21:11

How small are your fences?!

Some dogs can jump and climb.

Shepherd's especially.

My spaniel could scale a 6ft fence with enough of a run up

BruFord · 12/07/2026 21:22

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 12/07/2026 21:17

Some dogs can jump and climb.

Shepherd's especially.

My spaniel could scale a 6ft fence with enough of a run up

@Ihatelittlefriendsusan Even our small dog tried tunnelling under our fence when he was young, we had to put some big stones along the base to keep him in. He's elderly and lazy now :-)

BiteSizedLife · 12/07/2026 21:31

I had this with a cat this week. I can't ever open my windows downstairs because the cat climbs in. I caught it in my house again this week after I dared open one of them a crack just to get some air in.

I haven't asked them about it because realistically - what are they going to say? Cat owners don't really have any responsibility for their cats, and weirdly that is socially acceptable....

Dogs however - TOTALLY different kettle of fish. I'm just aghast they were so flippant about it, aren't they worried about losing one of the dogs? Kick up a stink - you'll have the neighbours on your side. They are being totally unreasonable.

Franjipanl8r · 12/07/2026 21:55

I’d take it through the house and release it into the street every time.

BruFord · 12/07/2026 22:10

@Hippee What an awful experience for your family. This could so easily happen to these dogs too.

Tamtim · 13/07/2026 07:29

Leave the gate to your back garden open.

Mumofoneandone · 13/07/2026 07:39

Council and police every time.
Slightly different set up but my leaded dog was attacked by an off lead dog. I found out the owner's address and reported it to the police. They took it very seriously and went and spoke to the owner. They had to sign an agreement to have their dog on a lead when they went out with it.

pinkstripeycat · 13/07/2026 07:48

My DH is an ex-police sergeant of 30 years. He said Inside a house, unless someone, or your dog, has been bitten, the neighbours dogs wouldn’t be considered dangerously out of control. Outside would be as they could cause a car crash for example.

I’d put trellis up. Who from the house builders has got the time to come and tell you to take it down and, if they do, tell them why it’s there. I grew honeysuckle on my fence last year and now it goes way above the fence. Maybe try that. It’s not considered an extension of the fence.

AfogatoFirenze · 13/07/2026 07:55

SallyD00lally · 12/07/2026 18:41

Just do it.

I'm not even sure if trellis officially counts as increasing the height - I think that's more about massively tall panels or very high brick walls.

Exactly I would just do it as well.

I would not put barbed wire, put the dog in the road or whatever else shocking stuff has been suggested on here. I'd be fuming yes of course I would but cruelty? No

lucy2204 · 13/07/2026 08:26

@Gila15 I’ve dmed you

Monty36 · 13/07/2026 08:32

Gila15 · 12/07/2026 18:28

Thank you, I did think about a trellis of some sort, but it’s a new build and we apparently can’t increase the height of the fence at all.

Can you plant something on your side of your fence that would hopefully be high enough to stop the jumping over or digging under ?

100pearls · 13/07/2026 08:36

take photos of dog in garden and mess
theyll deny it otherwise

Stompythedinosaur · 13/07/2026 08:41

I reported a neighbour's dog to the police (as a non-emergency, filling in an online form) because it was escaping, had pulled down a fence to get into my garden and was aggressive.

They issues some sort of a notice to the owner about the dog having to be on a lead and muzzle in public and we haven't had a problem since. I don't think this was solely due to my complaint (I think another neighbour has reported as issue too) but I was pleased with the response, an officer rang me in a couple of days and then called back a week later to tell me the response.

Toddlingabout2 · 13/07/2026 09:00

I think it's ndn responsibility to stop the dogs from coming in but as they have already learnt to scrabble over the fences, it's going to be incredibly difficult to stop that unless they put in some serious training - unlikely.

What happens the other side of their garden? Do they escape that side as well?

Id screw up something cheap like expanding trellis the in the meantime. The flexibility will make it feel unstable for them as well as providing a physical deterrent as the top edge is not flat.

Does the developer have a few spare paving slabs you could put where the dogs are trying to get through.

It shouldn't be your responsibility but I'm thinking of how to protect you and your dog.

Blueberries0761 · 13/07/2026 11:09

AfogatoFirenze · 13/07/2026 07:55

Exactly I would just do it as well.

I would not put barbed wire, put the dog in the road or whatever else shocking stuff has been suggested on here. I'd be fuming yes of course I would but cruelty? No

Yes, the problem needs to be sorted right away but there's no need for cruelty, I agree that some of the suggestions are shocking.

I hope you can get this sorted out soon OP.

Casperroonie · 13/07/2026 18:13

SallyD00lally · 12/07/2026 18:25

Trellis on the top of the fence.

What fuckers your neighbours are though.

They sound like a breed that could do some serious harm. I'd threaten to put up barbed wire to scare the owners. If it was me I would have already called the police and probably the rspca.

They sound like dangerous owners. What if you had a baby in the house? This sounds bonkers and I would not let it go.

Mystery2345 · 13/07/2026 18:26

Gila15 · 12/07/2026 18:28

Thank you, I did think about a trellis of some sort, but it’s a new build and we apparently can’t increase the height of the fence at all.

Just do it - put some up. Will take a while before you are told to remove it and will the neighbours actually complain anyway?

QuirkyPinkZebra · 13/07/2026 19:37

I had this happen and the dog actually bit my partner whilst it was in our house. We called the police and the dog warden and they court-ordered our neighbours to train the dog and told them it has to be muzzled in public (this was not the first report of him biting someone/another dog). Anyway dog warden and police are who you need to contact, be warned your neighbours probably won’t ever speak to you again like mine 😂oh well

Gizlotsmum · 13/07/2026 19:41

so they have shown they have no intention to control their dogs. I would talk to the dog warden. They might not be able to do much but they might have some ideas.

EmmaB1309 · 13/07/2026 21:25

Teenagerantruns · 12/07/2026 18:36

Open the frount door and put dog out on road? Not your dog not your business

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