To un-invite friend from dinner after she sent me message by mistake

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I’m a long time lurker but have pulled on my big girl pants for my first ever post in AIBU!

We are hosting my friend and her husband on Saturday for dinner. We’ve hosted them before and they’ve always been good company and said they’d enjoyed the food.

We were texting earlier about something unrelated - she clearly had another conversation on the go as she sent a reply which was of no relevance to our conversation.

Her message said:
I can’t do Saturday I am afraid. At (my name)’s for dinner again. That reminds me to stock up on the Pepto for the next morning 😂

Would it be wrong of me to rescind the invite? We go to a lot of effort to host them and feel this is frankly insulting.

After the Pepto comment, I would be inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt. But the explanation? 'Some of the ingredients I used were from places they wouldn’t usually shop and so didn’t agree with her'. Rude, snobby bitch. I hate snobs so much. Yes, because butter/pasta/potatoes/whatever from Waitrose is lovingly made by the hands of Vestal virgins, and watered with unicorn tears, meanwhile Lidl/Tesco grow their food in radioactive sewer obviously, and add rat poison to it in the end for good measure. I HATE snobs. I'd drop the ridiculous cow altogether. She suggested drinks instead, and they will bring their obviously SUPERIOR snacks. Fuck her.

The friend could well have had a stomach upset because of something eaten much much earlier.
The comment about blaming the ingredients and where purchased from is just not on.
No apology. And offering to come round with just olives as in ‘I wouldn’t eat anything at yours ever again’.
Some friend.

And that she would bring her own crisps and olives... implying the OP´s wouldn´t be good enough. And the op´s husband thinks that´s ok! Obviously friendless Joe...

I don't think any excuse needs to be made here at all. She has been unbelievably rude, bitchy, laughs about OP behind her back and is not a friend.

Anything other than ditching outright (lots of good suggestions on this thread, can be very short and to the point) and being told so is wheedling. She is not the worth the OP's time. She is beneath her.

I'd certainly not be cooking for them any more. I'd reply
Oh I'm sorry about that. Maybe you should host instead then you'll know what you're able to eat.

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If I sent that it would probably be a compliment, meaning it's rich and delicious, and so good that I eat too much of it.

Or you can have some boundaries and ditch this "friend" and threfore have free time to find another friend who doesn´t bitch about you behind your back. No drama.

The issue is that OP’s DH is good friends with the woman’s DH.

So limiting contact to meeting in bars/restaurants might be a good compromise.

I could also read between the lines that she was referring to her perception of a lower class supermarket!

Ungrateful!

Do you ever go there to eat?

her and her Husband had extremely upset stomach’s last time but she felt too polite to mention and to decline the invite. She says she thinks some of the ingredients I used were from places they wouldn’t usually shop

This isn’t a compliment in any way, shape or form.

Or you could read the ‘effing thread ‘as I responded to my comment just a second later as the update hadn’t come through. Angry much? ✌️

What an awful woman. Did you like her previously or was it just to support your husband? It's far more likely they had a stomach bug since you weren't ill. Unless you want to still be friends I think you should tell your husband to meet up with his friend in a pub.

Next time you see her if ever...make sure you have been to Aldi for some of their brand signed Crocs or a Lidl shopping bag...she's a fucking snob

You need to read the OP's update.

It wasn't a compliment. It was a dig at the Op for serving food from the wrong supermarket.

If you have read the update and still think its a compliment you must have the hide of a rhino.

Just a bitchy suggested response to her ‘olives and crisps’ comment - she said it could always say something like: ‘oh no thank you - nutritional density is important to us and olives and crisps are just far too high in saturated fat. Im not surprised you had an upset stomach if you regularly consume such food.’ She seems far too holier than thou! Bring her down a peg

Agreed, blaming the ingredients just sounds like a mealy mouthed excuse to me. The decent thing to do would be to own her bitchiness and offer a grovelling apology. But she obviously does not have the guts for that. OP is better off without her.

Don't jump to conclusions! 'Eating out' can just mean overindulgence. * you could of course just ask her 'is my food too rich for you?'

You might want to read all of OP’s posts.

Too polite to mention it but not too polite to slag you off behind your back, then when caught out double down with digs about where you can afford to shop rather than apologise?!

Tell her to get fucked “I think it’s best we cancel Saturday” and leave it at that

I think you should decline her offer of posh olives and ask her to bring some wotsits instead.

"Ah, poor you, we were fine, you must of picked something up. Have you given your kitchen and bathrooms a good deep clean?
Don't worry about Saturday - we've decided to eat out xx"

I would tell her to get fucked! How bloody rude, slagging you off to other people and when she almightily fucks up by sending the message to you by mistake she doesn’t even have the decency to apologise. Fuck that op, you don’t need people like that in your life.

This thread has escalated in my absence.

I was giving your friend the benefit of the doubt and assumed she needed Pepto for over-indulgence, but it seems she's actually a bit of a git and not only pointing the finger of blame at you for her previous upset stomach in a weird way but now suggesting you just do drinks instead (presumably to avoid eating your food).

Personally I'd just send a polite message saying you think it's better to cancel the evening and you'll see them in the future (whether you do is up to you)

Goodness, your update. She is awful.

I would reply with, ‘we were both fine so it sounds as though you both had a contagious stomach bug rather than food poisoning. It’s probably best we just cancel Saturday’.

Yes, a lot of us eat healthily through the week, but indulge on the weekend. Personally not done it to the point I'd buy medication, but she might have been joking, texting the other woman about how she's felt so good and not bloated as she's switched to salads all week, and knows it will make her stomach feel different if she's easting your gorgeous food tomorrow.

Can't delete-seen your other posts.