Hi 😊 I’m a bit confused and don’t understand what I’ve done wrong here. I don’t really get to see my friends, especially since uni days. We all live in different cities and years can go by without seeing them. As you can imagine, not having much of external social interaction outside of your husband/kids can take its toll now and then - and it’s not like I can rely on my in-laws since my husband has cut off most of his family so it’s been hard to maintain those connections.
Anyway, when my friends do happen to be in my city, we make plans to catch up, and it’s not even like a night out on the town, it’s usually a simple meal or they might come to the house. On this occasion, we chose to have a nice meal at a restaurant and I had to rush back home due to childcare. My friend dropped me back and brought one of our other uni friends (she’s closer to him than me, but I know him from uni and we get on well). She wanted to see the kids and give them a cuddle. My husband was at home and I already knew it would cause problems - he’s got this weird objection to the male friend. He behaved civilly and greeted them but as I know him well I could see he was secretly seething. I don’t even speak to him (the make friend) but my main friend always brings him everywhere and I thought it’s just harmless. But it caused a problem and my husband wrote really mean messages to me afterwards - I mean, what have I really done wrong here? Am I not allowed to see my uni friends, that I hardly even see anyways? I already sometimes feel isolated from socialising. Then he wrote that I can’t catch up with friends anymore and they can only come to the house - whatever that means.