Would this put you off your partner?

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I am not sure whether to treat this as a drunken comment or something a bit more sinister. Early hours of this morning with my boyfriend, waiting for a taxi after a night out. He suggested getting a kebab - I said I was never keen on these as I was worried what was in the meat. He said that never concerned him as he ‘used to eat the arses of women he’d just met on nights out’ so he wasn’t screamish about kebabs. I told him I found the comment disgusting and he did apologise and said it was many years ago.

I find it immature at best. He’s early 30’s now!

Disliking vulgarity has nothing to do with prudishness.

On the goat point, anyone buying a donner kebab in the expectation of getting premium lamb is naive.

This!!

I didn’t know screamish was a word!! Squeamish on the other hand…

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Wow - that’s fucking appalling. What a gross and insensitive thing to say. No doubt that would give me the ick and I could never let that man ever go down on me again. He’s committed relationship suicide here hasn’t he?

I can only speak for myself but it wouldn’t really bother me

The PP I'd replied to was being very condescending telling someone their bar was very low when they didn't see the humour as an issue and calling the man referred to in the OP crass.
I suppose if we want to avoid the term pearl clutching, I could instead say people are uptight, boring snobs to not see the funny side. Is that more in-line with calling someone crass and telling someone their bar is very low? Or are insults only okay when you agree with them?

Yuk. This is how he will talk about you.

No, I don’t associate with people like that, let alone date them.

What a crass, vulgar and random comment to make.

Completely off putting. Get rid.

I very much doubt this is thr first crass and vulgar comment he’s made, no emotionally mature, intelligent man randomly and suddenly says something like that,

so Id be surprised if you didn’t know he was that guy. Immature, crude, crass, vulgar and a bit thick.

Well then you should ask to meet good guy you can both sit and make crass vulgar jokes about women and women. I guess these low life’s deserve love too/

Perhaps they don't see the humour in it because there is no humour in it?

I think having a certain expectation that somebody isn't goung to resort to vulgar and crude language and expressions isn't snobbishmess. It's just normal among civilised people.

Fair enough if you enjoy crude and vulgar language. A lot of people don't. And it doesn't make them uptight, boring , snobs.