Would this put you off your partner?

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I am not sure whether to treat this as a drunken comment or something a bit more sinister. Early hours of this morning with my boyfriend, waiting for a taxi after a night out. He suggested getting a kebab - I said I was never keen on these as I was worried what was in the meat. He said that never concerned him as he ‘used to eat the arses of women he’d just met on nights out’ so he wasn’t screamish about kebabs. I told him I found the comment disgusting and he did apologise and said it was many years ago.

I find it immature at best. He’s early 30’s now!

Ew!

I think its more that he doesn't sound like he has any respect - for what he ingests, sex itself, the women he's slept with and how he talks about them, his language to you and general cavalier manner. It's all just a bit pathetic, but more so for a man of that age. He could just do better, y'know?

OP said that she was never keen on kebabs as she was worried what was in the meat.

Sure, kebab meat is currently in the news. But having never been keen on kebabs due to not being worried about the content of kebab meat doesn’t strike you as even potentially disparaging to „another culture’s food“?

So it appears he was actually just repeating a meme that he thought was funny rather than telling you something about himself
He probably even expected you to get the reference if he's seen it a few times online.

This would change my reaction to it a bit as I'd assume he didn't mean it. More like when someone makes a pop culture reference.
It's a bit disgusting and it's not really funny but that might have been the point. He was making fun of it.

Most likely, yes.. as for all those people going on about STDs: all sexual intercourse (including all forms of oral) comes with certain risks, especially if that’s unprotected intercourse.

I would hope that OP and her boyfriend both got tested (and or practice safe sex), so that really shouldn’t be a reason to clutch our collective pearls…🤷‍♀️

I’m not sure I could think of anything else when kissing him after that

Many would call it humour.

The prudeness on MN never fails to shock me. Its a very normal sexual act.

Sounds familiar

Are the kebabs getting made and served in the UK? Are the people who are serving the kebabs generally British (regardless of colour or possibly birth place)? Do the kebabs from our dodgy take away places, remotely resemble the kebabs in Turkey etc? Has there just been a massive fine imposed on Kismet Kebabs? So no, not disparaging to another culture's food. Just like not wanting a £1 lasagne from Iceland isn't insulting Italy.

Most people aren’t bothered about the act itself, it’s the way it was said. It’s not prudish to not want an Inbetweener as a partner. Sex is so much better with a real grown up.

Some people, often men, mistake speaking like this as being sexually uninhibited and think it makes them sound experienced. In reality they just sound like inexperienced teen boys trying to impress, and they’re also usually shite in bed.

I find calling women prudish is usually done by men on the sex board whilst trying to push their boundaries, so interesting you would use that term.

😂

Maybe it’s gone vital and he was jumping on the moment to use it himself!

I know men have always talked like this, but did they used to talk like it to women they planned ro romance and seduce?

We've had a load of them over on a thread where some dickhead made a revolting comment about a "whiffy growler" when his date mentioned freshening up; basically making themselves even bigger turn offs by trying to whine, lecture and moralise us into accepting this and even find it funny on their orders. I can't really believe they could be this stupid over how humour and romance work - surely nobody has this little instinct - so I'm wondering if it's actually some manosphere-led conspiracy to bring about the end of the species.

I actually don’t disagree. I would simply apply the same contextualisation to OP’s boyfriend’s remarks… unlike the mumsnetter whose comment I responded to 🤷‍♀️

Not even sure what that means. Maybe it's better that way.

You need to rethink your choice of partner. There are 8billion men in the world, don't settle for this.
BTW is squeamish..

I have the ick on your behalf

What?? Unpleasant I agree but you vommited?

It’s not true.
The OP made it up.

That is revolting. What a pig.

Vomiting in your own mouth is also a vile saying.

See I think it means he has a certain sense of humour. It would be the opposite of mine so I’d be out

Oh thank God. After the other thread where at least three men ordered us to find the phrase "whiffy growler" utterly hilarious, one of them referred to the site as "full of females" like a dairy herd, another mansplained Blackadder and one declared it "fascinating" that women don't laugh at his shit jokes, this kind of shite starts sounding more and more plausible.

Why is it some pp on MN just have to bring pearl clutching into so many threads?
An absolutely toe curling expression that says much more about the user than it ever does about those they are trying to insult.

Indeed. Also not sure why the poster had to specify it was her ‘own mouth’ she’d (supposedly) vomited in. Whose else was it likely to have been?