AIBU to ignore a colleague until work on Monday?

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On a Friday I call into a supermarket local to my work and pick up lunch (for myself and others).
Today there was a queue to use the coffee machine and I ended up being 3 minutes late for work.
When I got into work I apologised for being late and my line manager said to not let it happen again and to make up the time in my lunch.
I did my 3 minutes of work and then went to take my lunch in another room.
At my finishing time I got up and left and a member of the team mentioned something about swanning in late and leaving early to which I replied I'd made my time up as I'd been told to by our manager and I didn't realise that they were now my supervisor.
He followed me to my car to try and start an argument but I kept walking got in my car and left.
He's known in the workplace to be hotheaded and very argumentative and management have had to step in/give warnings before now.
He's tried to call me twice on my personal number but not left any messages.
AIBU to ignore until Monday

Whatever you think he might be trying to contact you about, just ignore him.

You’re busy aren’t you? Just get on with your weekend. He’s nothing to you. Just a wan4er of a work colleague.
He needs to get a life.

Awful. Block him and report him to HR as he should not be either reprimanding you for any work related things as he isnot your ljne manager and he should not be contacting you unsolicited on your personal number

The OP says her manager was joking about the three minutes.
It was said in jest by line manager but I know how it looks to some people so I did my 3 minutes.

I'd be taking it up with my boss on Monday morning first thing.

Screenshot call logs, refer to HR and ask that they look at CCTV from the car park. He’s trying to intimidate you and when that don’t work, it became harrassment.

Sounds like a man who has never been told to stop. You say he has had warnings - this might tip the balance against him.

Exactly this

Why would you think it would be unreasonable to ignore him? I can’t think of anything

When I was a manager of a public service point i would never have asked a team member who was normally punctual to make up a few minutes on an odd occasion. We all know that stuff happens and buses can be late. I would only ask it of someone who was repeatedly late and it would be part of a quiet "talking to".

I have never forgotten the day when I had pre advised my boss that I was attending my grandmothers funeral and would be in a bit late. He had already made a tasteless remark about the funeral. I came in 20 minutes late and he told me to make up the time. I never did make it up. Instead I raised a grievance about his attitude. He got a bollocking from HIS boss.

If your work is going to quibble over 3 mins I’d find another job. Unless you’re frequently late I guess. You know you’re not unreasonable to ignore the male colleague who’s effectively harassing you and should quite frankly be reported to HR over this instance.

agree. even more so given it was because you were literally picking up food for the rest of the team!

Thanks everyone
I've booked a meeting with HR for Monday and requested the CCTV
There is a lot of "banter" in my workplace but he always has to go too far or go a bit too mean but it's the first time he's ever been called out in front of the younger lads that he thinks look up to him
Also I'm definitely going to be calling him a toaster from now on!

I’d ignore him, and speak to HR first thing Monday morning. Or, if you have an email for them, email them now. That’s not on. He followed you to your car trying to intimidate you and is now continuing that behaviour in your free time. You don’t need to put up with that!

Definitely ignore him. Don't have contact with him outside the workplace at all.

Also consider talking to your manager just in a "heads up, What's your advice?" type way about the colleague following you to your car, and attempting to call you outside work.

Is leaving the group chat an option?

We used to have a team group chat and have been officially told not to now as it's a data protection issue. Obviously there are no sanctions for being in group charts (though there theoretically could be if anything was shared/ discussed in it that should be confidential) but management cannot expect anyone to use group chat any more. In a previous job I worked shifts and at some point we were told that even sharing the shift plan in a group WhatsApp chat was a data protection breach.

Of course you're not BU. Why are you even asking? If you think you're being harassed speak to management or HR. Sounds like he's got form. Why is he calling you on your personal phone? Block.

Well done OP.

That would be encouraging this behaviour.
Stop giving excuses for abusive men.

Sorry have not RTFT only Op updates but leave that what’s app group and block him too!

Even when you get back to work id tell him youre not discussing it as your manager has addressed it and its non of his business. All over 3 minutes!
But is there a past history or is it a one off?

Even when you get back to work id tell him youre not discussing it as your manager has addressed it and its non of his business. All over 3 minutes!
But is there a past history or is it a one off?

You pick up lunch for others in your workplace, something that is not your job, you are 3 minutes late and have to make up the time. FFS, how crap is that place. Twat of a colleague is the least of your problems.

If your supervisor is one of the people you pick up lunch for I’d stop that straight away!

Is there a legit reason the other colleague has your phone number? If not then report him to HR for stalking.

If he tries to start a conversation on Monday, I’d hold up your hand, talk over him in a firm voice and say ‘Do not talk to me. I’ve reported you to HR, you can save whatever it is you have to say for them. I don’t wish to have any communication with you unless it is to do with work’. And if he continues, get up and walk into HR’s office.

Don't call him anything!..he'll use it and try to turn it against you.
Stay professional...take it through the proper v
channels.
As you've stated, he has form and has been spoken to before.
Don't give him any anmunition.

Was his comment said in jest as well? Because at first I thought your manager was being serious when they said to make up the three minutes!
Perhaps because the level of banter a colleague may think it was ok to say something about swanning off early?
What was he saying as he followed you out to the car to try and start an argument?
It’s all sounds abit odd, perhaps he’s trying to phone you apologise given he’s already had warning about being hot tempered but he’s crossing a line by contacting you at home.

This sounds like a very toxic work environment. Never mind the colleague essentially stalking you, the manager's attitude is also poor. 3 minutes! And you were late as you were also getting lunch for others. Unless you love working there, I would look for a new job. In the meantime, ignore the colleague and consider lodging his behaviour with HR.