AIBU to ignore a colleague until work on Monday?

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On a Friday I call into a supermarket local to my work and pick up lunch (for myself and others).
Today there was a queue to use the coffee machine and I ended up being 3 minutes late for work.
When I got into work I apologised for being late and my line manager said to not let it happen again and to make up the time in my lunch.
I did my 3 minutes of work and then went to take my lunch in another room.
At my finishing time I got up and left and a member of the team mentioned something about swanning in late and leaving early to which I replied I'd made my time up as I'd been told to by our manager and I didn't realise that they were now my supervisor.
He followed me to my car to try and start an argument but I kept walking got in my car and left.
He's known in the workplace to be hotheaded and very argumentative and management have had to step in/give warnings before now.
He's tried to call me twice on my personal number but not left any messages.
AIBU to ignore until Monday

For a start, do not pick up lunch again on a friday, and block his number from your phone.

Then go see the manager and let them know what their comments kicked off, a weekend of rage from said colleague.

Block him and delete the number, tell him any future comversati9ns. It directly about work that day and you’ll report them for harassment

I agree, do that early on Monday, with the evidence of the missed calls. You may be saving someone else from worse, especially if they are not someone who responds as you have done.

Definitely ignore & enjoy your weekend without thinking about him again

this Is what I’d do. Don’t reply, don’t put up with it, deal with it professionally.

That’s intimidating, I’d be speaking to the boss

What a toaster, I’d complain if he carried on the argument Monday

He sounds a dick

I’d speak to your line manager first thing on Monday and say you’re not happy with colleague telling you off re ‘swanning in late’ when lm already spoke to you and that he followed you to your car and has tried to call you x amount of times. That’s really over the top and constitutes harassment. It’s not his place to bollock you, follow you, try to call you to presumably continue the row? He’s an idiot.

Screenshot your call history. Send it to your manager with a note saying he challenged you in the car park. This is really bad behaviour and needs to be called out.

I'd be complaining to HR come Monday morning about him following you to your car and calling you out of hours.

you had to repay 3 minutes?. wouldnt want to work for the manager. Your colleague needs to be reported for this. totally unacceptable behaviour. Look for another job

Ignore the calls. And in front of people on Monday say ‘I had two missed calls off you over the weekend - was there something you wanted to discuss.’

I’d just answer if he rings again- he’s taking up space in your head.

It did sound like a joke that you took badly though.

He followed me to my car to try and start an argument but I kept walking got in my car and left.
He's known in the workplace to be hotheaded and very argumentative and management have had to step in/give warnings before now.

This doesn't sound like a joke.

He has caused you to feel both intimidated and harassed - so his behaviour is not acceptable and it is none of his business anyway if he is not your manager. I do not agree that it was a ‘joke’ either - as if it were, he wouldn’t have followed you out.
If he has form for this ,you should raise it with your manager and HR.
Work based WhatsApp groups are a mixed blessing !!

That's just giving him attention which is what people like him thrive on

Block his number

No way I’d interact with him outside of work.

He is an aggressive bully.

He made a faux pas, you didn’t give him the response he wanted and he aggressively chased you down to chastise you for it.

I’d barely want to interact with him inside of work.

I was 3 minutes late for work the other day and ended up later to get to my office as I was stopped by so many people surprised at my tardiness they wanted to know if I ok and if anything had happened.

PS when I apologised to my boss she just shrugged and said “hope alls ok - you know where I am if you need me”.

That’s the sort of work culture you need.

Some arsehole bullying you over it should be ignored permanently - not just for the weekend.

Just ignore if you need to shut it down then just tell him you said you peace and the matter is closed and he’s free to go to hr if he has an unresolved issue with it

for those saying about 3 minutes is petty we too are to the minute and this is due to we ALWAYS had a bit of leeway but as usual people took the piss and pushed it and pushed it which inevitably spoilt it for the rest of us

Stop picking up lunch for people unless it’s a defined part of your job (and therefore you shouldn’t be penalised for being late). Report this to your manager first, if he won’t deal with it, go to HR. Also, although your manager may have been joking about the three minutes needing to be made up, it clearly missed the mark with both you and your colleague, so I’d guess it’s not a great place to work.

I dont know if that's an autocorrect but I quite like that as an insult 😂

Definitely no need to call him back, block him until you can speak to HR on Monday

What kind of job monitors you by the minute? Is it call centre type work?

You’re better than me I would have picked up that phone and probably ended up with a warning myself 😭. What a fucking weirdo he is.

This is where work and private life have unnecessarily blurred . A Group chat. Is it essential ? Really ? Years ago, before such things existed he would only have your phone number if you gave it to him. Or someone gave it to him without your permission. Now, because it is deemed normal to have the all essential group chat he has your phone number. And is bothering you outside of working hours. That should not happen.

The three minute thing was absurd. And also not right to dress you down in front of others. It clearly for him feels like a sort of green light to go ahead and be unpleasant to you.

You are not being unreasonable to ignore his calls. You are at home.
When you get to work report him for following you to your car and trying to start an argument and for the calls at home. Which are unwelcome.