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AIBU to feel helpless about a large asylum camp in our village?

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putupwhatever · 29/06/2026 16:15

My village has been chosen for a 1500 open asylum camp for single men. It will be an open camp (as the men haven't done anything wrong so aren't detained.)

The thing is the village only has 700 people and it is pretty isolated. it's about 10 miles to the nearest city and you can walk to another small village. There is a playpark, a pub and a primary school.

It has to go through planning, but the government have changed the planning laws so that they grant themselves planning and you can't see it as it is deemed sensitive. So they will just grant themselves planning and you can't oppose it without a judicial review--by which time it will probably be already open.

They want to reduce the number of people in hotels. But am AIBU to think that this puts the burden of sorting these issues out on one tiny community? Feels like we are collateral damage to be honest. The community will be outnumbered 2 to 1 and it feels too much. There is nothing for them to do or places to go. Also the fact that it is all single men put in one massive place with no money or means or anything to do is going to lead to problems

Apparently the camps cost £10 less a night than the hotels. But they don't count the set up costs which are astronomical (the one in Essex was £47 million to set up). So it seems like it's not not even cheaper than the problem it is trying to solve but much more expensive.

AIBU to feel a bit helpless? It seems so unfair but there is nothing I can do. We wouldn't be able to move from the village anyway as no one would buy a house here.

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Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 23:36

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 23:34

You are relentless.

Reform are anti women, however afghani men should be welcomed and we should start a knitting club woth them.

Reform will remove all of these poor misunderstood men and that is so nasty of them.

We must stop being racist and buckle down to work until we are 80 so Jamil can get free accommodation and education. Then his wife can come over and have 12 kids and get our houses and we can go and live in a tent.

Have you seen the conditions afghani women are living under right now?

Seriously? Don't tell me you give a shit about women if you can't see why it's important that Afghan women have a means to get out.

Lmao under reform its highly likely people will be working to 80 anyway.

smallglassbottle · 29/06/2026 23:38

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 23:34

So they owe you personal information now?

I benefit from your taxes as a single mother even though i also work full time and pay taxes, how much of my personal information do you think you are now entitled to? What about pensioners? The disabled? You want their deets too?

If they're lying through their teeth to come and live off my tax, then yes. We have enough fraudsters of our own. You're just wasting my time anyway. Had enough of that rubbish in other sections here.

Nobody wants mass immigration. Nobody can possibly defend it and anyone who does is either insane or getting paid.

Off to bed now.

nomas · 29/06/2026 23:38

Giggorata · 29/06/2026 23:24

What I have said isn’t denying people the right to their religious rites.
It is stating that alternative religious legal systems should not be placed on an equal footing with the laws of the land.
So people are not legally married, or divorced, in the UK if they have not undergone a legally recognised ceremony.
Any other religious status does not require a “court” to either confirm or deny.

Ok, so does that apply to Sikhs, Jews and Hindus too and their religious legal systems in the UK? Or just Muslims?

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 23:38

daisybanks · 29/06/2026 23:25

How many?

Where are the statistics to show that?

47% of all migrants to the UK are Christian. For example most people coming from Eritrea are Christian.

28% accounts for Muslim specifically.

The population percentage of asylum seekers is also a tiny proportion of all migrants.

Feel free to use your own thumbs next time. You're really going to enjoy Google.

LuckyHazelFox · 29/06/2026 23:38

smallglassbottle · 29/06/2026 23:38

If they're lying through their teeth to come and live off my tax, then yes. We have enough fraudsters of our own. You're just wasting my time anyway. Had enough of that rubbish in other sections here.

Nobody wants mass immigration. Nobody can possibly defend it and anyone who does is either insane or getting paid.

Off to bed now.

Me too. Nite 😴

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 23:39

smallglassbottle · 29/06/2026 23:38

If they're lying through their teeth to come and live off my tax, then yes. We have enough fraudsters of our own. You're just wasting my time anyway. Had enough of that rubbish in other sections here.

Nobody wants mass immigration. Nobody can possibly defend it and anyone who does is either insane or getting paid.

Off to bed now.

Noone is advocating for 'mass immigration' Jesus.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 29/06/2026 23:39

nomas · 29/06/2026 22:22

39-year-old Graham Marshall has been jailed after pleading guilty to a total of 12 sex offences, including bestiality.The devices contained bestiality content which had been carried out by both defendants over a three-year period and involved their pet dog.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c3rnp17znzlo

Yes yes Nomas you keep trying to derail by posting about white men from this country, practically a different one in each comment.
What are you not getting, it’s not working.Try as you might it won’t shut down the problem of immigration of men from dangerous misogynistic countries, and it won’t shut down those posters who are concerned about the problem.

ThisDandyWriter · 29/06/2026 23:39

tsmainsqueeze · 29/06/2026 16:50

Apart from the fact you have never met a 'bad' one you seem to have a rather 'soft and cosy' rose coloured spectacle view of this situation .
I wonder if your opinion would remain the same if this were your village.
Whoever the large group of single men are and wherever they come from surely you are not deluded enough to not be aware of the impact they would have on a small community and particularly the women ,girls and children in that community.
Having read your post again , i am actually wondering if you are taking the piss .

Yes, I wonder if that poor girl who was raped and humiliated in Brighton would agree with PP.

Clavinova · 29/06/2026 23:40

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 23:14

But you can see that's because of the way people have reacted to other forms of accommodation? People are so busy arguing that they aren't seeing that they are creating an even bigger problem. The hotels were never a great solution because vulnerable people living in a hotel for longer than they should be is unsustainable, but people have made sure that's now a no go. (Also making it difficult for vulnerable local people to access this resource in the process. )

The reason why we have such an issue with accommodation is because our government has capped social housing builds for so long. Policies have been ineffective and then lo and behold farage and Johnston fumbled brexit into the mix. Utterly screwing our home office system and making it impossible for us to extract reliable information from other countries to expedite the asylum process. Brexit meant that asylum claims on average went from 3 months processing time to nearly 2 years processing time. That made it impossible for people to work or find suitable accommodation for significantly longer and created a huge backlog.

And instead of people owning their responsibility in this - because this is what you voted for if you voted for brexit- they are just throwing their toys out and refusing to engage in any sensible discussions about it. And in the process are making it harder for anyone to integrate.

Back in 2006, Labour's then Home Secretary was challenged as to why his department had 250,000 outstanding asylum applications. He replied, 'Oh, no, it's not as many as that' - he went away to check, but then had to return to the Commons to apologise as he discovered there were in fact up to 450,000 outstanding claims, mostly refused but in bureaucratic limbo. The 450,000 cases were 'set aside' to be dealt with by a special task force, but not counted in the current stats and still not cleared by 2010. Caseworkers were permitted to consider granting permission to stay to applicants who had been in the UK for 6 to 8 years, rather than the 10 to 12 years that originally applied. Tens of thousands of asylum seekers had also 'gone missing' in the meantime. Strangely, we were EU members at the time.

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 23:43

You do realise local people have been burning asylum seekers out of their homes in NI recently? Where can we send them?

You also realise hotels are totally inadequate accommodation so people often end up cooking where they shouldn't/ having stoves where they shouldn't. Plus the home office process is now (thank you brexit) so unfit for purpose that it's massively negatively affecting the mental wellbeing of already vulnerable and traumatised people using it.

Do you want me to send you links of all the awful things local men have done and then we can say all men should be locked up or sentenced to death? Because for some people deporting to countries of origin would be a death sentence.

ThreadGuardDog · 29/06/2026 23:43

nomas · 29/06/2026 23:08

Again, Wiki says ‘massive Jamaican rebellions—most notably the Baptist War (or Christmas Rebellion) of 1831—were a primary catalyst that forced the British Parliament to abolish slavery itself in 1833”’

Well either Wiki got it wrong or you’re quoting selectively. See my post of 23.19 for the actual facts.

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 29/06/2026 23:44

nomas · 29/06/2026 22:27

No one has said that.

That’s EXACTLY what you are saying with every comment about well “here is the crime this white man committed” or why say it, as the cases you are quoting are irrelevant to the OP or anyone else concerned.

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 23:45

SpaceRaccoon · 29/06/2026 22:56

Or trying to get into the back of my fucking campervan. I'd be the one to get fined if they were successful and spotted on the UK side, as well.

As somebody who sometimes drives trucks at work I have to do CPC courses. One was about illegal immigrants. The drivers were saying that they get huge fines if people are found in the back of the wagon and it's their responsibility to remove them. However, most have knives because they need them to slash the curtains so it can be highly dangerous if they don't want to exit of their own will.

EasternStandard · 29/06/2026 23:45

ThisDandyWriter · 29/06/2026 23:39

Yes, I wonder if that poor girl who was raped and humiliated in Brighton would agree with PP.

I don’t think any of these crimes are worth the system that’s in place.

lightseeker · 29/06/2026 23:49

Would the OP be just as concerned if there were 1,500 men of the Tommy Robinson ilk moving in??

Maybe we could do an exchange? For every asylum seeker we let in we could deport a moron of our own? I'd vote for that.

Laurmolonlabe · 29/06/2026 23:49

You can prepare the papers for Judical review yourself if you are dedicated, it's not expensive, it's unlikely to be successful, but it's a chance.

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 23:49

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 29/06/2026 23:44

That’s EXACTLY what you are saying with every comment about well “here is the crime this white man committed” or why say it, as the cases you are quoting are irrelevant to the OP or anyone else concerned.

It points out that you are applying a double standard to human beings.

A white local man can do some god awful thing here and noone is saying do you know what we've had enough of? Men. Let's lock them away, or track them or something in order to protect women and girls.

But when a migrant man does something awful that's what you suggest for all migrants.

Why can you not see the problem with this? Male violence is a male issue. Men are going to migrate and a very small proportion of them are likely to be violent because they are men. That does not by default make it ok to then blanket ban an entire group of people most of whom are not a danger to anyone (not that it would work anyway). What about all the female refugees who'd be harmed in the process of that?

daisybanks · 29/06/2026 23:49

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 23:38

47% of all migrants to the UK are Christian. For example most people coming from Eritrea are Christian.

28% accounts for Muslim specifically.

The population percentage of asylum seekers is also a tiny proportion of all migrants.

Feel free to use your own thumbs next time. You're really going to enjoy Google.

Your figures are for world migrants. Not migrants to UK

"For migrants, we found data regarding religious background: The Pew Research Center, a non-profit think tank based in Washington, focuses on the demographic and social characteristics of migrants. It has conducted a study with data on the religious composition of the world's migrants. Here we see that 47 percent of all migrants are Christian and 29 percent are Muslim"

Stop promulgating misinformation to support your erroneous argument.

Tauranga · 29/06/2026 23:50

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JuliaBraverman · 29/06/2026 23:50

LuckyHazelFox · 29/06/2026 23:21

Something very off with those posts. Like they've been generated.

The thread about sponsorship of a refugee surprised me yesterday as Mumsnet does lean left generally but not on that thread.

GaIadriel · 29/06/2026 23:51

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 23:43

You do realise local people have been burning asylum seekers out of their homes in NI recently? Where can we send them?

You also realise hotels are totally inadequate accommodation so people often end up cooking where they shouldn't/ having stoves where they shouldn't. Plus the home office process is now (thank you brexit) so unfit for purpose that it's massively negatively affecting the mental wellbeing of already vulnerable and traumatised people using it.

Do you want me to send you links of all the awful things local men have done and then we can say all men should be locked up or sentenced to death? Because for some people deporting to countries of origin would be a death sentence.

I've asked you several times about the NYE where 1200 German women were sexually assaulted (and 500 estimated rapes) by a large mob of ethnic males, many of whom were asylum seekers.

What do you think happened here and why aren't European men perpetrating similar crimes?

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 29/06/2026 23:51

lightseeker · 29/06/2026 22:40

If I lived in a village, I wouldn't particularly want a large group of ANY men in a hostel if the size of the hostel group exceeded the village population itself.

However, if it was a choice between 1,500 asylum seekers or 1,500 of your average TR supporter in the hostel, give me the asylum seekers any day of the week! If a load of the type of men who go in TR marches moved in, that's when I would feel the need to leave if I could. Asylum seekers don't bother me particularly. I've travelled in Pakistan solo, as well as India, Bangladesh and Iran. My husband's family were asylum seekers from Iran. It's not so much that, as a woman, you get more hassle in Islamic countries it's just a different flavour of hassle. I found men in more Islamic countries, by and large, just didn't know how to approach me. They might stare more, sure. But just stare back. The worst places for hassle were maybe Morocco or Egypt because the culture there is more liberal. The worst I've had from men - which I won't get into here - is white men when I was at university. University campuses are the places where you should be most worried about your daughters. Also, there was a member of my own family, I'm ashamed to say. Overall, I think all this divisive panic about asylum seekers being more likely to be rapists is a disgrace. More girls and women are sexually abused by their own fathers or other male relatives than asylum seekers. This is so obvious it shouldn't even need saying.

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Ah that’s where you had the brain washing, at University.

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 23:51

lightseeker · 29/06/2026 23:49

Would the OP be just as concerned if there were 1,500 men of the Tommy Robinson ilk moving in??

Maybe we could do an exchange? For every asylum seeker we let in we could deport a moron of our own? I'd vote for that.

Was it not something like 40+% of the men who turned out in NI rioting and protesting against migrants to "protect our women and girls" had convictions specifically for violence against women and girls?

I wonder who would statistically come up as most dangerous. The group where most men are running to get away from the extremists and get females to safety or the local men... hmm. Toughie.

daisybanks · 29/06/2026 23:52

Lavender14 · 29/06/2026 23:49

It points out that you are applying a double standard to human beings.

A white local man can do some god awful thing here and noone is saying do you know what we've had enough of? Men. Let's lock them away, or track them or something in order to protect women and girls.

But when a migrant man does something awful that's what you suggest for all migrants.

Why can you not see the problem with this? Male violence is a male issue. Men are going to migrate and a very small proportion of them are likely to be violent because they are men. That does not by default make it ok to then blanket ban an entire group of people most of whom are not a danger to anyone (not that it would work anyway). What about all the female refugees who'd be harmed in the process of that?

A white local man can do some god awful thing here and noone is saying do you know what we've had enough of? Men. Let's lock them away, or track them or something in order to protect women and girls.
But when a migrant man does something awful that's what you suggest for all migrants.

Unfortunately we are stuck with the local white man.

But the migrant shouldn't be here in the first place.

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