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13 men stand co-accused of helping a man rape his wife

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imeanwtf · 27/06/2026 11:12

https://x.com/vicderbyshire/status/2070576295503708323?s=46

And there isn’t a single word from the “protect our women and children” lot. Not a word from Farage, Tice, no riots or anger.

How much more will it take to show that these people do not care about us at all?

Victoria Derbyshire (@vicderbyshire) on X

13 men who allegedly helped a rapist drug and abuse his wife have been named They include a paramedic and a former chief executive of a lower league football club https://t.co/iKMzG4A253

https://x.com/vicderbyshire/status/2070576295503708323?s=46

OP posts:
LuckyHazelFox · 27/06/2026 14:24

Fancythatfancyhat · 27/06/2026 14:15

How? It's one of the biggest issues we face as women, it is an inherently political issue for me and that's why the majority of women can see when a politician doesn't actually care about the issue itself as is using it to bolster their hatred against another group rather than genuinely wishing to reduce rates of VAWG.

Well seeings as many don't normally give a shiney shit what Farage has to say, it's interesting on this occasion his lack of opinion is paramount. I don't like the politicisation of rape and I certainly don't care for women being fucked over by the system that's meant to protect them. If only women were more angry about that instead of matching Farage with political point scoring.

nomas · 27/06/2026 14:26

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 27/06/2026 12:45

Why are you surprised that none of the 100 men who answered an advert to come along and take part in such a disgusting scenario, and then either lost their nerve or were worried about the possible consequences for them in having already been implicated with that evil monster, felt the desire to then go and tell the police and answer some very difficult questions and possible accusations? Not to mention the fact that, if it got out that they had reported it, they would have instantly made themselves some serious enemies amongst their underworld community of violent criminals.

It's nothing like when an innocent passer-by suddenly hears/notices something horrific and immediately alerts the authorities - which I fully believe that a great many members of the public of both sexes would instinctively do.

I highly doubt that many of those men who knew exactly what they'd come along for chose to refrain because they suddenly discovered that Gisele hadn't actually consented and they fully respected her absolute right to her own bodily and sexual autonomy. Rather they would have realised that the clear lack of consent could have repercussions for them, if/once they were found out. They still doubtless couldn't have cared less about Gisele herself.

Maybe they were every bit as evil as the men who went ahead with the crime, but just smarter, more cautious and more self-aware.

Edited

But they hadn’t committed a crime so would conceivably have know they could report it without any repercussions on them.

They could also have reported it anonymously.

They probably got off on the idea vicariously.

imeanwtf · 27/06/2026 14:27

LuckyHazelFox · 27/06/2026 14:24

Well seeings as many don't normally give a shiney shit what Farage has to say, it's interesting on this occasion his lack of opinion is paramount. I don't like the politicisation of rape and I certainly don't care for women being fucked over by the system that's meant to protect them. If only women were more angry about that instead of matching Farage with political point scoring.

I actually care quite a lot. He’s supposedly going to be the next prime minister.

OP posts:
nomas · 27/06/2026 14:28

LuckyHazelFox · 27/06/2026 14:24

Well seeings as many don't normally give a shiney shit what Farage has to say, it's interesting on this occasion his lack of opinion is paramount. I don't like the politicisation of rape and I certainly don't care for women being fucked over by the system that's meant to protect them. If only women were more angry about that instead of matching Farage with political point scoring.

The point is not about Farage and Yaxley opinions, it’s their propensity to exhort their followers to riot when a non-white person commits a crime.

nomas · 27/06/2026 14:29

LuckyHazelFox · 27/06/2026 14:19

You really don't read responses, do you. I don't know why you're lending so much power to men's reactions. It's really quite bizarre. You haven't started this thread to portray your utter horror at the rape. Instead, you're using the case for your own ends. I see you ignored the political manoeverings of releasing prisoners early; among whom might include rapists in future.

Have you been living under a rock?

Do you realise that innocent people
of colour could die during the riots incited?

imeanwtf · 27/06/2026 14:29

nomas · 27/06/2026 14:28

The point is not about Farage and Yaxley opinions, it’s their propensity to exhort their followers to riot when a non-white person commits a crime.

It’s crazy that some people don’t get it. It’s the fact that women and children are used as political tools until it doesn’t fit their narrative, and then we can easily be forgotten

OP posts:
nomas · 27/06/2026 14:30

imeanwtf · 27/06/2026 14:29

It’s crazy that some people don’t get it. It’s the fact that women and children are used as political tools until it doesn’t fit their narrative, and then we can easily be forgotten

Yep and somehow pointing this out makes you a political agitator too. Utter bullshit.

Speakeasier · 27/06/2026 14:35

imeanwtf · 27/06/2026 11:22

It’s just baffling. Surely if they cared, they’d be up in arms?!

They don’t care though. It’s just political. They’re using women and girls’ abuse and exploitation as a political weapon. It’s obscene. What is Farage’s record of caring about women’s issues? It might take you a while to source it….

It’s like the men in the US that froth about abortion and the rights of the foetus while voting against every vote that supports subsidies for childcare or benefits for struggling families. Their cynicism knows no bounds.

superspideysense · 27/06/2026 14:46

LuckyHazelFox · 27/06/2026 14:24

Well seeings as many don't normally give a shiney shit what Farage has to say, it's interesting on this occasion his lack of opinion is paramount. I don't like the politicisation of rape and I certainly don't care for women being fucked over by the system that's meant to protect them. If only women were more angry about that instead of matching Farage with political point scoring.

But we are angry. Hence the thread!!

LuckyHazelFox · 27/06/2026 14:51

superspideysense · 27/06/2026 14:46

But we are angry. Hence the thread!!

Maybe you should try concentrating on the person with power. What's Farage meant to do! Let's hope the incoming PM rethinks the ridiculous early release scheme within the prison service. I don't want to see victims of rape being robbed of justice. I dont want to see any rapist free to roam the streets.

LuckyHazelFox · 27/06/2026 14:52

nomas · 27/06/2026 14:30

Yep and somehow pointing this out makes you a political agitator too. Utter bullshit.

Double irony with these two posts. 🤣

Speakeasier · 27/06/2026 14:54

LuckyHazelFox · 27/06/2026 14:24

Well seeings as many don't normally give a shiney shit what Farage has to say, it's interesting on this occasion his lack of opinion is paramount. I don't like the politicisation of rape and I certainly don't care for women being fucked over by the system that's meant to protect them. If only women were more angry about that instead of matching Farage with political point scoring.

I give a shiny shit about what he says. Not because I agree with it because he’s extremely influential. Our economy has shrunk by around £80 billion since Brexit. Massively more than the annual £12 billion we contributed net to the EU and he still persuaded us that we’d be better off So yes because when he speaks people listen.

So when he presents the impression that it’s a racial issue by blaming men of colour for rape of VAWGs and ignoring it when white men are the perpetrators then it’s a problem. Because he doesn’t see VAWG as the problem like the rest of us do he sees people of colour as the problem.

Every single case of rape is a tragedy for the woman (or man) who is the victim. We should be concerned about every single one of them and be appalled at whoever is responsible. Using women who have already been horribly exploited and then exploiting them for political gain is disgraceful.

LuckyHazelFox · 27/06/2026 14:58

Speakeasier · 27/06/2026 14:54

I give a shiny shit about what he says. Not because I agree with it because he’s extremely influential. Our economy has shrunk by around £80 billion since Brexit. Massively more than the annual £12 billion we contributed net to the EU and he still persuaded us that we’d be better off So yes because when he speaks people listen.

So when he presents the impression that it’s a racial issue by blaming men of colour for rape of VAWGs and ignoring it when white men are the perpetrators then it’s a problem. Because he doesn’t see VAWG as the problem like the rest of us do he sees people of colour as the problem.

Every single case of rape is a tragedy for the woman (or man) who is the victim. We should be concerned about every single one of them and be appalled at whoever is responsible. Using women who have already been horribly exploited and then exploiting them for political gain is disgraceful.

So we've had Henry Nowak and now Brexit as references to a gang rape. I then get shot down for accusing this thread of politicising rape. I'm not adding anymore because I'm enabling this shit.

ElenOfTheWays · 27/06/2026 15:08

imeanwtf · 27/06/2026 11:36

Well there’s been none of the usual commentary. No videos from a field calling for pure cold rage.

That quote was about a murder - not the rape gangs.

Fancythatfancyhat · 27/06/2026 15:12

LuckyHazelFox · 27/06/2026 13:54

If I voted Reform, I wouldn't be bothered about saying so - We live in a democracy still. It's not being disingenuous to acknowledge we can prevent more of a surge of rapists into this country, more so than we can our home grown rapists. This OP is nothing more than race bait, with no clear formulated reasoning. If you disagree and want to bash Farage rather than rapists per se, why don't you own it.

What do you mean by race bait? I've noticed you said it more than once now. Who is OP race baiting and how? You also seem to be missing the point that if we did actually deal with our home grown rapists by changing culture and the judicial system then that would in turn protect women from violence from immigrants also...or is protecting women just not actually the point of you can't use it as an excuse to.block.immigration? Also where did I not bash rapists.or say I'm against doing so? I think rapists are scum and so are racists who pretend to care about rape of "their" women.

Fancythatfancyhat · 27/06/2026 15:15

LuckyHazelFox · 27/06/2026 14:24

Well seeings as many don't normally give a shiney shit what Farage has to say, it's interesting on this occasion his lack of opinion is paramount. I don't like the politicisation of rape and I certainly don't care for women being fucked over by the system that's meant to protect them. If only women were more angry about that instead of matching Farage with political point scoring.

Huh? You're talking nonsense tbh - where did you get the idea people don't care what garage has to say? I listen and read the news of what everyone has to say and I very much care what he says given the influence he has. Farage is simply perpetuating the system so many of us are angry at. It's been centuries of men like him finding issue with sexual violence over those they see as their property, and it has nothing to do with them having an issue with sexual violence in itself.

Swiftie1878 · 27/06/2026 15:21

imeanwtf · 27/06/2026 12:59

Why is this tape gang not deserving of rage? Can you please explain?

It is. But if people pronounced their rage every time they felt it, life would be pretty bloody repetitive and grim.

Whataboutery gets you nowhere.

Batties · 27/06/2026 15:28

imeanwtf · 27/06/2026 13:09

That’s unimportant to him in other cases.

So I will ask again, until a Farage supporter gives me a straight answer, why is this case not deserving of rage?

OP, you are so blinded by your sense of righteousness you can’t see that you are doing exactly what Farage does. Using appalling acts of violence to further a political agenda.

Munchie1965 · 27/06/2026 15:32

The issue with grooming gangs is that it was covered up and ignored and much of that was to do with community cohesion and people not wanting to appear racist. That is why some politicians - quite rightly - are commenting. Its to do with how the police and social services and other services and institutions acted and act in the future. That is political.

This awful case is just that - an awful case and does not require or need any politicians getting involved unless it comes to light that governmental or other societal institutions were complicit.

ElenOfTheWays · 27/06/2026 15:33

imeanwtf · 27/06/2026 11:22

It’s just baffling. Surely if they cared, they’d be up in arms?!

About what? These men have been arrested, are being charged, and have been named and shamed.
What do you want exactly?

The outrage about the grooming gangs is that for YEARS none of this happened to the men responsible because of their race.
Girls came forward and were dismissed/arrested for prostitution/raped again by police officers/sent back to their abusers. All in the name of "social cohesion"

Why are YOU NOT up in arms about THAT?

I'm no fan of Reform and think Farage is an utter dick who needs putting down before its too late, but it's not the same argument.

Try asking why Restore had to come forward to investigate the gangs because Labour didn't want to.

We know why.

As for the random rapes perpetrated by illegal immigrants. Same problem. Why are these men even here, when they should have been immediately deported? It's not racism to ask this question

The men in this court case are not in the country illegally, they are being charged for their crimes. What is there to say about it?
What has Starmer or Burnham said about it? Anything?

No, they probably don't care much, but neither do Labour or Tory or any of them.
It's not news to me.

ElenOfTheWays · 27/06/2026 15:36

Munchie1965 · 27/06/2026 15:32

The issue with grooming gangs is that it was covered up and ignored and much of that was to do with community cohesion and people not wanting to appear racist. That is why some politicians - quite rightly - are commenting. Its to do with how the police and social services and other services and institutions acted and act in the future. That is political.

This awful case is just that - an awful case and does not require or need any politicians getting involved unless it comes to light that governmental or other societal institutions were complicit.

Exactly this.

ElenOfTheWays · 27/06/2026 15:39

imeanwtf · 27/06/2026 11:50

Why can you not answer the question? Why did the murder of Henry Novak deserve pure cold rage, but this doesn’t? Why does Farage think the rape of women in this country is acceptable if they’re raped by white men?

Why do you assume he does?
If he does then apparently so do the men in Labour and the Greens and Lib Dems, Tories etc. They haven't commented either AFAIK

ofcolitas · 27/06/2026 15:46

AWeeCupOfTeaAndAnIndividualFruitTrifle · 27/06/2026 12:45

Why are you surprised that none of the 100 men who answered an advert to come along and take part in such a disgusting scenario, and then either lost their nerve or were worried about the possible consequences for them in having already been implicated with that evil monster, felt the desire to then go and tell the police and answer some very difficult questions and possible accusations? Not to mention the fact that, if it got out that they had reported it, they would have instantly made themselves some serious enemies amongst their underworld community of violent criminals.

It's nothing like when an innocent passer-by suddenly hears/notices something horrific and immediately alerts the authorities - which I fully believe that a great many members of the public of both sexes would instinctively do.

I highly doubt that many of those men who knew exactly what they'd come along for chose to refrain because they suddenly discovered that Gisele hadn't actually consented and they fully respected her absolute right to her own bodily and sexual autonomy. Rather they would have realised that the clear lack of consent could have repercussions for them, if/once they were found out. They still doubtless couldn't have cared less about Gisele herself.

Maybe they were every bit as evil as the men who went ahead with the crime, but just smarter, more cautious and more self-aware.

Edited

they could easily have reported it anonamously.

tommyhoundmum · 27/06/2026 15:50

imeanwtf · 27/06/2026 11:42

I’m just interested why that deserves “pure cold rage”, but this doesn’t? Is it because the perpetrators are largely white British men?

Surely it's because justice is being done and being seen to be done.

Fancythatfancyhat · 27/06/2026 15:57

Munchie1965 · 27/06/2026 15:32

The issue with grooming gangs is that it was covered up and ignored and much of that was to do with community cohesion and people not wanting to appear racist. That is why some politicians - quite rightly - are commenting. Its to do with how the police and social services and other services and institutions acted and act in the future. That is political.

This awful case is just that - an awful case and does not require or need any politicians getting involved unless it comes to light that governmental or other societal institutions were complicit.

It's not just about politicians though, it's the whole "protect our women and girls" lot who get up in arms and want to riot about grooming gangs but when they hear of a victim assaulted by white British men tell her to f* off or completely ignore it, they don't seem to get the rage when the perpetrators all look like them or even could be them. Stastically many of the men who claim to care about British girls are sexually violent or inappropriate themselves. No one is bothered by farage or anyone highlighting grooming gangs, they're bothered by them only bringing them up when they can blame the ethnicity as a factor. And it's ironic because this attitude is exactly what feeds the worry of appearing racist that you're talking about.