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Calling the police to check on a crying baby

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summermumma2021 · 27/06/2026 00:08

Just had to call the police to check on a new neighbours baby. What would
you have done in this situation?
New neighbours live down our road around 100m away from us and could hear loud very distressed crying for over half an hour.

It sounded like a newborn or young baby crying and so I assumed they’d settle or some attempt to comfort them would be made but the crying stayed at the same level for ther period time. I could also hear raised voices and car doors slamming and I asked my husband if he’d heard it too (he was downstairs) and he said yeah he was worried as well.

Anyway in hoping it was nothing and the little one is fine but it just didn’t sit right and it sounded like no attempt to comfort them was being made at all.

i have no idea who the new neighbours are as it’s quite far from our bit of the road but for it to be that loud from this distance didn’t seem right. I have also had three colicky babies so I do know babies can cry for periods of time but as I said it sounded like no attempt to help them was being made.

Anyway police treating it as a priority case and checking things out. Just wanted to share really as worried.

OP posts:
BeenzManeenz · 29/06/2026 20:49

You've done the right thing, always go with your gut instinct. My OH works with children in care and I was shocked to realise quite how many children are neglected and abused in this country, its far more than we realise.

Its better you get it wrong and offend someone than let an innocent baby be abused potentially. Far too many people in these comments thinking about only themselves or the adults in the situation. The baby should always come first.

caringcarer · 29/06/2026 20:55

Createausername1970 · 27/06/2026 00:29

My adopted son was left for hours on his own by his birth mother and it only came to light this was happening and he was actually alone in the house overnight, cold, hungry and in dirty nappies when the neighbours reported that he had been crying and sounding extremely distressed for over an hour. That level of neglect has had a major impact on him.

You did the right thing.

One of my foster DC had similar, chronic neglect and no solid food offered him and he was 16 months. Just his 7 older sister putting a single scoop of formula milk in a bottle and putting cold water in and giving it a shake and giving it to him. His sister kept him alive until a neighbour reported his crying for long periods. The neighbour reported to SS who came out and rescued both DC.

RonaldMcDonaldTrump · 29/06/2026 20:57

Love the clap backs OP, good for you.
You've hit an obvious nerve with a lot of posters who left/are leaving their babies to cry themselves to sleep, which they know deep down is cruel but would rather not admit that

Iwantaircon · 29/06/2026 21:10

summermumma2021 · 29/06/2026 18:59

I can confirm that OP is not feeling guilty as you claim for causing the family distress. Please bore off with your horrible comments and find another thread to argue on. This really wasn’t the purpose of my post.

Ignore them. You were right. Better safe than sorry. I The idea that you or your DH were going to rock up in the middle of a domestic argument/ disturbance is quite frankly ridiculous and I’m sure no one telling you you should have done it would have actually done it themselves.

Endorewitch · 29/06/2026 21:37

summermumma2021 · 29/06/2026 18:59

I can confirm that OP is not feeling guilty as you claim for causing the family distress. Please bore off with your horrible comments and find another thread to argue on. This really wasn’t the purpose of my post.

0P did what she thought was right. Better to take action whatever the outcome.

Soccermom2020 · 01/07/2026 11:42

You 100 percent did the right thing if only others had it would have saved many babies and kids lives in view of the news of late just some ppl shouldn't have kids police will check it out and if needed cps

croydon15 · 01/07/2026 18:27

caringcarer · 29/06/2026 20:55

One of my foster DC had similar, chronic neglect and no solid food offered him and he was 16 months. Just his 7 older sister putting a single scoop of formula milk in a bottle and putting cold water in and giving it a shake and giving it to him. His sister kept him alive until a neighbour reported his crying for long periods. The neighbour reported to SS who came out and rescued both DC.

Thanks so much OP for fostering vulnerable children.

Mama2many73 · 02/07/2026 00:00

I realise that OP probably wont see this theres so many comments.but...
A young mum about 3 miles from us moved her new partner in to her home. She was a victim of very loud domestic violence but everyone turned a blind eye. Unfortunately the baby (under 2yrs ) was rushed to hospital where he very sadly died.

Several of the neighbours had heard the fights and the baby crying and will have to live with the knowledge they chose to do nothing.
Im not saying it would have prevented the babys death but police presence /intervention may have given the mum support /had social services involved .
Well done OP. No harm if everything was innocent!

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