Is this a strange comment to write?

[Nickyknackered]

An old acquaintance (friends at the time but it was situational and as our lives moved on there was no real keeping in touch aside from FB where we regularly comment on each others photos.).... has just got married and put their photos on FB. She looked beautiful and the whole day looked amazing.

I wrote a comment to say as much, she looked stunning, venue was gorgeous blah blah and then added 'Sorry I couldn't be there'.

We were on holiday and wouldn't have been able to go. Although we weren't actually invited....

SIL thinks its hilarious that I've written that! Is it?

you weren’t invited 🤣 that’s so funny.

Its like me commenting on photo of the Oscars ‘Sorry I couldn’t be there’

As you weren't invited, yes its a strange comment.

I think if you weren't invited then it's a slightly weird thing to write. The bride may think you're passive aggressively commenting on the lack of invite.

Definitely a strange comment. No one invited you, so what are you apologising for?

Erm, well, yes it’s rather odd 😂
you weren’t invited!!! which is one of the reasons you quite literally couldn’t have been there 😂
sorry, this has really tickled me for some reason!

Yeah definitely odd if you weren't invited - I agree that it could come across as passive aggressive

Sounds rather passive aggressive. X

Yeah, sorry OP, it's weird and reads as a dig about not being invited.

Ditto, sounds like a passive aggressive dig at not being invited.

Yeah it could be seen as passive aggressive like sorry I couldn’t be there because you didn’t even invite me.

Can I ask why you wrote "Sorry I couldn't be there", when you knew you werent invited?

Im confused.

Yeah, very weird. Sorry we couldn’t be there means thanks for the invite, sorry we had to decline.

Yes, it is strange. You were not invited anyway so why would you be sorry you were not there?
Is it is dig at them about not being invited?

Very strange comment, why did you write that?

I assume you’re being passive aggressive ?

She’s going to think you were expecting an invite. Very weird thing to write

The OP meant “It must have been wonderful to see, how lovely!”
But shouldn’t have written it, for the reason given above.

I wasn't being passive aggressive at all and I had no reason to expect an invitation.

Surely if something looks fun and amazing, you do wish you were there?

That doesn't mean I think she should have invited me...just that it looked amazing! And I say, we couldn't have gone anyway.

I personally think it's a compliment!

“Sorry I couldn’t be there - oh wait I wasn’t invited!”

SIL is right!!

Why would you apologise for not making an event you weren't invited to!

That's what you say when you were invited but couldn't make it. You should've just said it looks amazing, congratulations.

@Nickyknackered No. Great to write something nice, but "Sorry I couldn't be there" is only appropriate if you were invited and couldn't make it.

You weren’t invited. “Sorry I couldn’t be there” would only be appropriate if you were invited but couldn’t make it.

But she might not have known you were away and couldn’t make it?

You were not invited. She likely decided this a year ago. How could she possibly have known you were away and unavailable? She didn’t invite you. That’s why you were not there.

No it definitely sounds passive aggressive!

Either that or it greatly confused her! 🤣🤣

I’m going wait for the next royal wedding and announce I’m sorry I couldn’t be there.