AIBU to think my neighbour’s cat care problem is not mine?

[Thepartwhereidrun]

My neighbour stopped my son on his way out last night to ask if he would look after her cat when she is away from tomorrow for 2 weeks, going in twice a day. He said sorry but he couldn’t.

I didn’t know she had spoken to him until she knocked our door and told us. Her cat sitter has let her down last minute and now she won’t be able to go on holiday unless she can find someone else. Nightmare for her, but her cat sitter is ill so it can’t be helped. I said I can’t help her but I text our dog sitter, who also does cat sitting to ask if she had availability and said I’d get back to her if she could do it.

She asked if I would also ask my son again, which I did when he got home, but he doesn’t want to do it. He has just finished his A levels and wants to be free to come and go as he pleases which is understandable. I said that if he has said no then that means he can’t.

Our dog sitter text me back to say she didn’t have any availability for the first week but could do the second week. I text my neighbour to let her know and to give her sitters contact details. She has just text back ‘no good, what am I meant to do for the first week?’

I haven’t replied as although I get she is probably feeling desperate, how the fuck is her cat my problem?

I, personally, don’t believe it. That’s all.

That doesn’t mean it can’t be true. It doesn’t mean I think you’re an idiot for believing it. It doesn’t mean I’m a control freak because I won’t say that I believe it. I don’t think you should all have to agree with me.

I just don’t believe it and I agree with other posters for questioning it.

Wow! I think the carers need to contact the neighbour and say we will do it on this occasion for £x per day, or we will have to phone the RSPCA to support as caring for the cat is clearly unsafe for the residents it has been left to.

I can’t believe the turn this thread has taken, it’s actually hilarious to read grown people arguing semantics over a teenage boy and trying to take down the OP for lying. It’s not a crime you are trying to solve! Some people just can’t have a life to spend their time doing this 😂
OP what have you done starting this insanity 🫢 but actually it’s been hilarious to read!

Which is troll hunting. What is it now, 10 posts saying the same thing?

You can stop now. We get it, you don't believe it.

That’s great.
Thanks.

Either way,No is a complete sentence.

Absolutely disgusting disgraceful behaviour by CF neighbour, but not surprising.

The posters giving you grief should be thoroughly ashamed of themselves defending such utter scum....because that is what she is.

It takes a different type of low to impose on two neighbours that need carers.

In your place I would be very tempted to report the CF neighbour to AGE UK for taking advantage of two elderly people by lying about this situation, which is highly manipulative.

I definitely would contact the local shelter to fill them in too.

I wouldn't look at that neighbour again but would definitely pass the word around about her appalling behaviour.

Oh and your son sounds a credit to himself and you.

All this frothing from some PPs about the son saying he can’t and not explaining why and OP drip feeding the reasons…. Whatever happened to “no is a complete sentence?”

So much projection and delusion from you. Quite the master class.

Stop arguing FFS!! 🤦‍♀️

This

I can strongly recommend sitting in the garden sun with a chilled glass of white, and no longer engaging…

You’ve alreadt been good enough to get her the cat-sitter for a week. That’s enough.

Did you not read OP's posts where she explained she'd be away for work most of this week and her son was going camping? Can't be in too places at once. Anyway, the CF has fobbed off the cats on the elderly neighbours or rather their carers, not even leaving them with a key so it gets to live outdoors when it's not tripping over elderly frail people with carers.

Who, me? That was my first post on this thread!

Yes fair fucks to OP, she phrased her first post well enough to withstand a dozen posts claiming it said things it didn't. Adeptly done!

@mulberrymilkno, not you - the other two who are scrapping like cats 😂

As long as we don't have to feed them.

I'd do it on the days I was home, I wouldn't bat an eyelid nipping next door to feed the cat. It's not exactly time consuming or inconvenient. You're literally there anyway, it would take 10 mins even if you needed to wash the bowl! Litter tray - quick scoop of poops every couple of days, they don't need completely changing every day. Maybe every few days or less.

I also think cats can easily get away with once a day, if they have dry food and water in good supply. You can get automatic rotating dishes too to keep it fresh. I regularly feed a mates cat when she's away, and she always told me if I couldn't go twice it wasn't a huge issue.

You were nice to contact your sitter for her, I'd probably offer to do the days I was at home. Then she just has to sort out the other days you're not there and maybe has more time to sort it, to take the panic off. but I guess you're not obliged to.

What a CF. I think you are right and she never had anyone lined up to do it and just expected your son to do.

have you actually read the thread? What would you do if the cat vanished or was injured or ill?

Yes no one justifies themselves on here and no one ever critiques or questions anyone or anything. It is just a supportive community where we trust everything a poster says. 😂

Can’t believe the audacity of your neighbour.

@Thepartwhereidrun The squabbles will continue until we see some gorgeous cat photos 🐈😻

@ThepartwhereidrunI am worried that this thread is going to actually fill up and end without a picture of the cat. That would be disappointing.