Should I ask my neighbours if we can have designated times to sit in the garden?

[Guarddogdaschunds]

I will preface by saying that it is possible this heatwave has affected my rational thinking. So I will bite- I am so sick of listening to my neighbours having their dinner in the garden and having to listen to their booming voices for hours on end. It has reached the stage where we feel relegated indoors, especially in the evenings.

We live in a new build in close proximity to our neighbours so can hear everything as you can imagine. They are a couple in their early 30's (I think), no kids. The man with the booming voice works from home and has taken to working from his garden throughout the day, often vaping. My kids are off school, trying to make the best of the time off and I really don't think they should have to hear the details of his teams meetings. Surely he should work inside and allow people peaceful enjoyment of their gardens? I have never worked from home, but wouldn't it be considered a GDPR breach if others can hear?

They have had friends over for BBQs the previous 2 nights and have been sitting outside chatting until around 9pm. The BBQ smell lingered for so long and of course they were all vaping and drinking alcohol. One of their friends was regaling them with tales of her dating escapades-hardly an appropriate topic for my 9 year old to have in earshot. I also don't want my kids damaging their lungs inhaling all of those disgusting vape particles. The women have also been prancing around in very skimpy bikinis. I know women are entitled to wear what they want, but come on-all the neighbours can see if they look outside their upstairs windows! I'm also concerned as yesterday, the visiting friends were there for several hours and appeared to drive themselves home- were they over the limit?

On both occasions, I have brought my kids inside, as I don't want them to hear the sordid details of their conversations. I also feel awkward that they are only a few metres away from me, so I don't want to have my dinner outside in case they listen to our conversation. Would I be unreasonable to pop over or post a note through their door requesting that we have an outdoor mealtime rota so we can all enjoy our gardens in peace-as we are entitled to?

So pleased I live in a very tall townhouse where I don't see or hear my neighbours.

YABU.

My god Op, you sound even more insane with each post!!

This is why my nearest neighbours are 1/4 of a mile away 😅 i'd sooner top myself than have neighbours that close, DH feels the same.

I would be DELIGHTED if they stayed there ALL NIGHT and the game went to extra time and penalties
I think it would be HILARIOUS if you complained to the neighbours work place only to be cut to the quick when the boss announces that they also attended said party as a bikini prancer...

Well if it quacks like a duck and walks like a duck...They sound like hooligans and are behaving like hooligans with their beers when everyone has to be up for work and school tomorrow! I have no idea why this behaviour is being normalised at the moment, how do they expect my children to sleep tonight?

This is so a joke thread

I love that the first few comments of this were kind of half empathetic - but the more OP dug herself into a hole everyone started to rip her one 😂

I hope the football hooligans kept you up all night Mrs Bucket!

There are limitations to living on an island with as many people as there are populating this island.

Sitting outside, talking at normal decibel levels, having a BBQ and enjoying the sun in a bikini (which can only be seen from your windows upstairs) sounds very tolerable.

I think this is one of the strangest posts I've seen on MN but, then again, highlights for me that the British are some of the most miserable people in the world in great need of hobbies that don't involve trying to judge and control others lives due to lack of fulfilment in their own.

Hope they woke you up and kept you up all night

No thank you. Give me the fun and the gossip over your little darlings. 😄

How old are you? You sound like some elderly Mrs bucket.

I am an elderly Mrs Bucket and I think she’s hilariously ridiculous.

Sordid details of dating and skimpy bikinis?

Think you need to put down the Daily Star!

Morning. I went to bed but I was worried all night about you out there .. prancing in your bikini. Hope your head isn’t too sore today!

If they are are regularly having parties into the early morning then by all means report that.
But the rest of your 'complaints' , you'll get nowhere complaining to anyone official about.

Wearing bikinis, perfectly legal infact she could be naked in her OWN garden and nothing you can do. Stop watching her out of your top window. If she has implants, so what !

Get a higher fence.

@Guarddogdaschunds the thread had died a death after people stopped believing it. The only reason someone who was allegedly so upset by people's comments would come back and resurrect it would be to get attention 🤔

Me, DH and DS (aged 11) all stayed up to watch the match wearing our England shirts. We also went out for beers beforehand.
Loads of people I know did the same or had parties/bbq’s.

None of us are hooligans. You’re so incredibly narrow minded that you see a football shirt and assume they’re a hooligan.

I hope your neighbours had a brilliant night. It was a match to remember.

Singletons and party animals. You’re bloody hilarious.

You can’t dictate who lives on a street. If you don’t like it when you are the one who should move.
It’ll probably do you kids some good seeing people have fun.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with having a drink on a Sunday. In fact, me and my friends always meet for drinks on a Sunday afternoon and the kids come with us. They love it.

Newsflash, they don't care if your children sleep tonight or not

I thought you were being unreasonably but on the other hand I had sympathy with you (not about the clothing though as that’s none of your business). When I just read that you husband had found him in LinkedIn though, my sympathy disappeared in a flash. What a horrible spiteful thing to do and why on earth would you think his employers would need to know???

Get yourself a nice loud radio in your garden

This has to be rage bait. Nobody can be this much of a knob 😅

I was in my garden yesterday, drinking alcohol, listening to music and wearing a bikini...................

Good job my neighbours are not the fun police like you are OP