Should I ask my neighbours if we can have designated times to sit in the garden?

[Guarddogdaschunds]

I will preface by saying that it is possible this heatwave has affected my rational thinking. So I will bite- I am so sick of listening to my neighbours having their dinner in the garden and having to listen to their booming voices for hours on end. It has reached the stage where we feel relegated indoors, especially in the evenings.

We live in a new build in close proximity to our neighbours so can hear everything as you can imagine. They are a couple in their early 30's (I think), no kids. The man with the booming voice works from home and has taken to working from his garden throughout the day, often vaping. My kids are off school, trying to make the best of the time off and I really don't think they should have to hear the details of his teams meetings. Surely he should work inside and allow people peaceful enjoyment of their gardens? I have never worked from home, but wouldn't it be considered a GDPR breach if others can hear?

They have had friends over for BBQs the previous 2 nights and have been sitting outside chatting until around 9pm. The BBQ smell lingered for so long and of course they were all vaping and drinking alcohol. One of their friends was regaling them with tales of her dating escapades-hardly an appropriate topic for my 9 year old to have in earshot. I also don't want my kids damaging their lungs inhaling all of those disgusting vape particles. The women have also been prancing around in very skimpy bikinis. I know women are entitled to wear what they want, but come on-all the neighbours can see if they look outside their upstairs windows! I'm also concerned as yesterday, the visiting friends were there for several hours and appeared to drive themselves home- were they over the limit?

On both occasions, I have brought my kids inside, as I don't want them to hear the sordid details of their conversations. I also feel awkward that they are only a few metres away from me, so I don't want to have my dinner outside in case they listen to our conversation. Would I be unreasonable to pop over or post a note through their door requesting that we have an outdoor mealtime rota so we can all enjoy our gardens in peace-as we are entitled to?

Let me guess, the neighbor is a lot thinner and prettier than you?

I love how everyone assumes that I'm jealous/envious of her. Without commenting on who is objectively better looking, my DH prefers natural women with more class. I'm certain that she has had some Botox and has definitely had breast implants. She also had pink hair for a period of time! So no, I'm not worried about furtive glances from my DH.

You sound charming.

I’m sorry op but none of your posts show you having any class

I was in support of you because of the noise the man is making on a daily basis but this reply is vile. You just sound like a horrible nasty woman. Anyway why does your "dh get to set ground rules". If a neighbour came to my door to tell me what the ground rules were for me to use my garden i would tell them to move because they clearly cannot live around other people, laugh ans shut the door in there face. The only real valid complaint you have is the loud booming voice sharing private details.

You don’t have any class. You sound like you have a personality disorder, tbh.

You sound bitter and ugly in the inside, however 'natural' you are (you're certainly not classy).

It doesn’t matter how physically attractive you are. Your posts are displaying an ugly personality and a distinct lack of class. I don’t care what you look like because it’s personality that counts.

Your comment about hair colour is hilarious btw. I currently have lilac/silver hair. I’ve had pink in the past and will again at some point. Are you suggesting that means I lack class? @Guarddogdaschunds

Your neighbours can wear and do what they want within the confines of the law - it’s their private property.

But they genuinely don’t appreciate how irritating their behaviour is to others around them.

Next time he’s in the garden on a teams call, play some music. Not too loud. Just enough to disrupt his concentration. He will get the message quickly.

You sound deeply unpleasant,OP

What a vile person you are. If your husband came round to me to me tryng to impose ground rules I would tell him to Fuck off and stop being a busybody.

You are a spiteful jealous woman with too much time on your hands, how dare you discuss a woman wearing a bikini in her own space. You do not get to dictate.

You are the type of woman who only gets on with people who agree with you. Go on try and impose your rules and see what happens. At best you will be laughed at, but worse you cause bad feeling with the neibours. You cannot impose your petty silly ways on other people.

Thank God I don't live next door to you. Don't be the silly cow next door.

So now you're commenting on people's appearance. My snob bingo card is nearly full, can you please add the word that starts with C and rhymes with 'have' so I can call House!?

Yup jealous, you’re paying close attention to her face and body, and you immediately start with will your husband fancy her.

jealous and insecure.

What has happened to you in the past op? Your bitterness and resentment is so palpable. How do you know if she has had botox have you ever had a conversation with her and seen her up close?!

If I were you I'd forget the neighbours and maybe try some counselling to find the cause of all this judging and anxiety. Were you overlooked a lot as a child perhaps?

I agree with all this.
OP, your fixation on this neighbour is not normal.

I thought I could be bitchy but OP takes the gold standard for the comment about botox and inplants. You really are the gift that keeps on giving, although I don't believe a word you've said OP it's amusing to play along with the bat shittery.
OP needs an inplant - of a decent personality because to my mind something I might stand in on a hot day on the pavement has more class.
I wonder if h is as mad as her?

What's wrong with pink hair?
Trampolines aren't antisocial, they are a great way for kids to get regular exercise and to make friends.
Are you peeved that your neighbours have a good friendship group and a better social life than you?

You don't sound like a very happy person if the only way you can elevate yourself is by making derogatory remarks about other people.

JFC

Quite honestly OP, you sound absolutely vile. What a nasty bitchy person you are.

This thread has to be a joke Mrs Bucket ( bouquet )

I do think some people, often women, struggle with jealousy and it manifests itself as spite.

i think that’s what we are seeing here. This is clearly about the female neighbour who the op perceives to be attractive, more attractive than her, and who clearly has friends and seems fun, and it’s made the op venomous.

Hard agree.

I can only imagine my husband’s face if anyone popped over to talk about garden rules 😂

OP I wouldn't recommend going over there with "ground rules". You can see the most people on this thread think you're being OTT and they will do the same and dismiss you. Perhaps just ask that they please keep their voices low as you have young children in the garden but understand that you can't really expect them to listen. If they think you're being a nice neighbour then they're more likely to respond in kind.

Oh dear God those poor neighbours! If you came near me with your shitty demands and vile attitude I would laugh you off my property and then go out of my way to use my garden as much as possible and make as much noise just under the limit of legally acceptable as I could. Your time would be best spent getting some therapy for yourself or better yet move. Far far away from other humans.