AIBU to think neighbours should not be naked in their garden?

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For context: Our house is on a new build estate and the houses are pretty close together. It’s fairly easy to see into neighbours gardens because the trees etc are not well established yet.

AIBU to say my neighbours shouldn’t be naked in their garden. They are often out in the garden totally naked taking photos of themselves. They have parties quite often and it’s not uncommon for them and friends to be out in the garden naked / using the hot tub etc.

Am I being a killjoy ? Seems excessive to me.

Right? So many bizarre replies in this thread.

Nudity is natural and my granny was a naturalist, other countries and people are not so prissy.I am nit a nudist but if anyone else is I support that.its their garden

Yeah but we’re not other countries. Groups of adult genitals aren’t a neutral event here.

In hot weather, my FIL would sometimes wander naked into the garden. But they lived down a long track, miles from anywhere. One day, a rambling group took the wrong turn, and somehow ended up coming round the track and into the garden, much to FIL's embarrassment! My MIL thought it was very funny, especially as they asked for directions, and no-one said anything.

They're deffo swingers ! I suppose it's a question of if you where a child would you easily be able to see them through no fault of their your own . If they are doing they should b e making sure they are not inflicting their lifestyle on innocent eyes .

I am not against it personally, but that is not the same really. If just looking out of a window normally, is a full completely view of them then no they are not being reasonable. They are free to make the space private from any normal reasonable public view, and then do as they please.

They’re not flashing deliberately for your son. It’s only tits and willies annd wobbles anndbwrinkles and good for them to see how varied they are! It would t bother if they were otherwise good respectable neighbours. If I was brave enough I would live to be naked in my garden!

I hope the gentlemen are being careful if sitting on garden chairs with holes in. I saw an unfortunate accident online where testicles slipped through and got stuck. God created underwear for a reason.

Whilst not illegal, it can be classed as indecent if causing others alarm and if they’re clearly overlooked.
All those saying it’s fine, it’s not exactly a regular occurrence in the U.K. suburbs is it

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If it's anything like the new build estate my friend lives on you'd have to live with actual blinkers on not to see into neighboring gardens.

How do you suggest anyone achieves not seeing their neighbours?

I used to know somebody married to a seemingly very respectable, upstanding member of the community. She was uncomfortable because he used to walk around naked in their garden all the time, irrespective of whether their young kids were there or not, and whether neighbours could see him. Years later he was charged with historic sex offences against minors.

The OP is not unreasonable to be wary/upset.

Bahahahahahahaaaaaaaaa

This thread is hilariously contrary. I live near a nudist campsite and they are so discreet you could live next door for a decade and never see anything.
Playing naked party games with balloons in your overlooked back garden is a pervy sex thing. You can be free and natural in your own home without cavorting in front of the neighbours' kids. Those of you who think.it isn't are very naive.

I know lots of others have already said it, but They’re Sex People, Lynne.

How do you know it's not a crime?

The law on nudity in public is not black and white. It very much is dependent on intentions of those being nude in public and also the effect it has on the people who see the nudity.

OP has every right to report this to the police and they ars the ones who will decide whether in this case it is a crime. I think at the very least the police who have words with these exhibitionists about being more discreet with their behaviour!

Yeah it's the free from and free to question, I'd say if you'd rather be free from viewing people nude in an obviously viewed place from your own home (overlooked new builds) then that trumps the people who want to be naked in an area they know they are easily seen, borders on voyeurism. A pair of even tiny trunks isn't going to make people any hotter on a hot day. Especially where kids can see, this is just the culture of the UK. I hiked in Sweden and when there were showers or saunas it was a free for all and everyone was naked, but this ain't Sweden.

If the layout of this estate is such that they know their garden is overlooked by their neighbours, I'd have thought they were potentially committing a criminal offence under s66 of the Sexual Offences Act 2003.

Particularly if they know the neighbours have children.

Depending on how you get on with these neighbours I'd either have a quiet word with them or complain to the police.

for everybody saying "Don't look", you're free to look out of your windows and shouldn't expect to see naked bodies

Mónica and Rachel put up with it for years.

Well I wouldn't like having those neighbours.

I love these threads, they are always the same. Naked neighbours and the issue is always the person who can see them, like it’s totally normal to be naked in your over looked new build garden and the neighbour who can see them is some form of window using pervert.

i certainly don’t want to be unable to use my windows as if I do I get a view of Jim’s saggy balls.and Mary’s sweaty arse crack.

but on planet mumsnet, looking out your actual windows is the issue, not said bollocks and arse crack being on full public display to the neighbours.

it’s absolute comedy gold 😂

This would not bother me at all. It’s very unusual, it I think my family would just laugh about it. In this country the naked- season is not very long. It will soon rain again.

Sorry but if this was just a naturist couple occasionally sunbathing I wouldn't be bothered. But naked parties are quite different in intent.

In a new build estate there is no privacy between gardens.

We moved into a new build. We have been here 12 yrs and there is still very little privacy between gardens, plus upper floors give a commanding view of very many gardens.

The neighbours could only get away with this if their garden was secluded.

YANBU.

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