Kids screaming in the garden behind ours

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As we all know the heat has been unbearable this week.

Temperatures have dropped sharply over the last hour or so here, we have a huge storm rolling in but while it’s cool and breezy, I’ve opened the windows to let some air into the house.

The kids in the house behind us are screaming. Not the type of screaming laughter that’s bearable, but just screaming. It’s unbelievable. I wanted a nice calm evening after a few rubbish days and they’re making it impossible to relax. I don’t want to shut the windows because we need some air in the house.

AIBU to scream back at them?

How do you type a screaming sound?

I'm not entirely sure, but it wouldn't have any words in it.

It’s a difficult one. I am all for kids having fun but am in a similar position. We’re semi detached and atm I have to WFH. Neighbour is in garden most of the day really loud on her phone, each evening visitors and their kids shouting and screaming into very late hours. No problem if it’s Friday or Saturday but it’s now Sunday and other days too. My adult son sleeps in a room at the back and he is having to close his windows. I won’t mention it to them as the guys there are quite aggressive

Scream shut the fuck up back at them then!

Well, I’ve been out tonight and got pissed so, it’s not bothered me tonight

I honestly wish I could record my neighbour’s kids to let you hear them as they routinely go in the garden for hours at a time (pre school) and SCREAM. Not lovely playful children’s giggle-screams. I can cope with those. These are blood curdling, attention seeking, ear splitting fucking awful high-pitched long screams. Even my visitors have been commenting on it. You have my sympathy. Why do their parents allow it?!

It's called parenting. Your children behave one way and their behaviour repeatedly affects someone else negatively and then you teach them to behave another way.

They’re not screaming though. They’re bickering and shouting at each other. Which admittedly is very annoying but it’s not screaming - OP was exaggerating because she’s cross. Her later posts describe it more accurately.

You have my sympathy though - what you’re describing IS screaming and is really bloody awful. Way, way worse than noisy squabbling kids.

Screaming is not normal kids behaviour.
Shouting and yelling at each other should be stopped.

We expect neighbours to stop dogs barking they should stop kids misbehaving.

A sudden squeal fine as a reaction to something but there is no need for continuous loud noise.

Parents need to parent.

Also remember it takes a village, after a while I'd be saying can you please keep the noise down /stop the screaming.

If you are a parent reading this thinking continuous screaming and shouting is fine. It's not. Please stop your children. It's a learned behaviour.

How many times do I have to say it? They are SCREAMING. Just because they’re screaming words, doesn’t mean they’re not screaming. I think I know what I can hear.

That’s not screaming. It’s literally children rowing with each other at the top of their voices. I’ve already agreed it’s very annoying - but it’s still not screaming. Screaming is what PP have described - children who just scream (a high-pitched inanimate shriek). That’s not what you’re describing - in your case it’s an argument with words…better described as shouting. And children shouting will naturally be high-pitched…because they’re children’s voices.

PP on this thread have interpreted your post as children letting out high-pitched shrieks. Because that’s what screaming means. That’s very different to what you’re actually describing and you haven’t bothered to correct anyone who’s talked about children who just scream (shriek).

It suits you for people to misunderstand your hyperbolic description.

Words can be screamed. Kids can scream one second and shout the next. All of it annoying and all of it should be stopped by the parents. Not sure why you’re so keen to minimise what’s happening.

The Cambridge dictionary defines screaming as follows:

to cry or say something loudly and usually on a high note, especially because of strong emotions such as fear, excitement, or anger

that is what they were doing.

I’m guessing it’s because she’s one of the people who lets their kids out screaming, saying it’s fine because it’s been hot

And yet you’ve not once corrected the posters who assumed you were talking about actual inanimate screaming and made comments along those lines.

The kids might have screamed at each other - it’s a hyperbolic word often used to describe loud arguments. Your whole post implied that the kids were just in the garden screaming - not that they were shrieking at each other in an argument. You said they were in the garden SCREAMING - not that they were screaming at each other. Both are annoying but it’s very different - and you know it.

Multiple posters have described kids who scream - the word used to let out a high-pitched inanimate shriek - and you’ve not once said ah, well actually, that’s not what I’m describing.

As I said, the misunderstanding suits you as some children are allowed to go out and scream, and that’s awful. You allowed multiple posters to think that’s what you were describing.

They. Are. Screaming.

One can only assume you’re one of these lazy parents who lets their children out in the back garden to scream, and then excuses it with “well it’s been hot”

I mean, it’s fairly ridiculous that because I’ve called you out on a hyperbolic and misleading description that you’ve turned to casting aspersions.

As it happens, you couldn’t be further from the truth.

I’m autistic and deeply dislike loud noises of any description. I have a profoundly autistic DS who gets upset on a daily basis about even the tiniest noises coming from neighbours. Even as a tiny child he wouldn’t be making this level of noise; he was non-verbal for many years. Our household is very quiet out of necessity and always has been.

Perhaps it’s because I’m autistic and dislike noise so deeply that I think it’s wrong to not be clear about what you’re saying.

If you’d led with “kids are screaming at each other” you’d still have my full sympathy, as I previously said. But to say “the kids are in the garden screaming” implies something very different which is why so many PP have misunderstood what you said.

I think it’s just your own inability to understand, to be honest.

And I think it’s just your own inability to describe things honestly and accurately, as evidenced by the multiple posters who misunderstood what you said.

We can agree to disagree.

They are doing what they want in their garden, it’s none of your business. If you think you can get anywhere with making them stop, quit moaning on Mumsnet and go do something about it in real life!

Pp shouldn't have to 'go do something about it'. The parents should be telling them either they stop screaming (and I don't mean play silently or even quietly, before anyone starts with that - just stop screaming) or they're coming inside.

I said they were screaming. They were screaming.

No all kids don’t scream. The can shout, they can laugh, they may cry, you might get the occasional shriek but they do not all scream. I know exactly what you mean OP. I actually enjoy the sound of children playing but I can not stand that false and performative scream. Stop it.

I feel for you.

Someone was having a party yesterday and the screaming was horrendous. Not a single adult told them to stop.

Screams like this need to be reserved for when there is pain or danger otherwise they may be ignored.

Now it's been explaining. What do you actually think of the situation? Would you be stopping your children from making Thai continued noise?