Kids screaming in the garden behind ours

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As we all know the heat has been unbearable this week.

Temperatures have dropped sharply over the last hour or so here, we have a huge storm rolling in but while it’s cool and breezy, I’ve opened the windows to let some air into the house.

The kids in the house behind us are screaming. Not the type of screaming laughter that’s bearable, but just screaming. It’s unbelievable. I wanted a nice calm evening after a few rubbish days and they’re making it impossible to relax. I don’t want to shut the windows because we need some air in the house.

AIBU to scream back at them?

I told my kids we had a noise nuisance complaint from our next door neighbour when they were small, I told them laughing and general playing is ok but no screaming. They always had great fun and our house is the place for mates to come. The next door neighbour is their non blood auntie after all these years. Just hell no to screaming

I really wish that was still the way. Apart from anything else, how's anyone meant to know when a kid's actually in danger if they're all screaming as part of normal play?

Haven't you noticed? Parents are stopping actual parenting. It's incredibly annoying in various ways.. Oh, and that their child is more important than you being able to use your garden. That's the rule now, esp on MN!

In my row there are 6 old terraced houses and we all have small gardens.
In those houses we have 5 screaming children, shared between 3 of the houses. 3 barking dogs shared between 2 houses. The dogs are not told to be quiet and the barking in one of the houses the barking starts about 6.30am. The dogs are universally hated throughout the area, even local solicitor's office tried to soundproof their office.

It's horrible all year round but the summer just makes it hideous.

There is no justification for kids screaming in gardens! None! No it’s not acceptable kid behaviour! If we had done that as kids we would have been brought straight inside and given a ticking off.
Kids need to learn to play at an appropriate volume and not disturb the peace of those around them.

Parents today are just too lazy to parent. And we have an increasingly entitled generation being brought up.

Massive generalisation.

Why don’t you move far away from other people so you can sit in your garden and enjoy the lovely peace? If you are going to live somewhere with neighbours, there’s going to be noise.

Ok Victor Meldrew

Kids just screaming for screaming sake are incredibly annoying. Joyous laughter and merriment, fine. But no need to just scream. Lazy parents

Kids being kids will scream sometimes. Id open a bottle of wine or whatever and ignore.

That sounds awful for your ds :(
But in this weather it will dry fine indoors in 24 hours - even jeans!

No mlre than the neighbours are pissing OP off

Exactly this.

The OP was very misleading and lots of PP haven’t seen the updates where OP describes children loudly bickering, possibly shouting at each other.

That ISN’T screaming.

I think we’ve all had the misfortune to encounter a screaming child at one point t or another - a high-pitched shriek that some children seem very fond of. That is screaming - not two children arguing about whose things are whose, and who hates the other one more. PP are referring to screaming which isn’t what’s actually going on.

While I have sympathy with peace being ruined by loudly arguing children who don’t ever seem to run out of things to bicker over, the OP’s misleading description has influenced the comments.

Shouty arguments aren’t “screaming”.

If you can hear it, supposedly so can their parents. Whether it’s screaming, or fighting/bickering, it’s not acceptable. I presume they’ve stfu by now op!

I feel for the parents. If it's not a recurrent issue, well everyone gets to the end of their tether sometimes. I expect that kids and parents both are just utterly over it.

Screaming those things at each other is screaming.

Why are so many people determined to excuse poor behaviour?

noise is fine. It’s the incessant screaming I had an issue with

Id cut them some slack if its not a regular thing. everyone was irritable with the heat and if the garden was shaded at the time it was likely cooler than inside so the parents may have kept them out despite the noise to cool them down.

Fgs OP if they aren't usually 'screamers' I'd let this one go.

This week has been well outside the norm, and as someone with a 4 and 1 year old myself it has been hell on Earth. I haven't wven had time to consider the fact that I'm beyond uncomfortable because my 1 year old has clung to me like a disgusting sweaty limpet all week as he's so upset by the heat and doesn't understand that this isn't helping.

Let it go- I'm sure the parents of these kids are on the edge right now.

Yesterday it may have been appreciated 😂

I genuinely couldn’t care less. We’ve all had a shitty week, you having kids doesn’t make it worse. I’ve been starting work at 7am each day because the heat in the office is so oppressive. I’ve been sleeping maybe four hours max each night. That doesn’t give me a reason to behave badly or disrupt others. The parents should’ve parented their kids, instead of ruining the one calm evening we had.

The worst part is they were well aware we had storms forecast last night. So as soon as they hit all the windows and doors had to be closed. They ruined the entire evening for myself, and others, because they couldn’t be bothered to be parents.

🤷🏻‍♀️ it’s your responsibility to cool your kids off, but that doesn’t mean you can allow them to ruin everyone else’s evening.

Im sure your evening was already ruined by sweating buckets.
If you cant cope with a bit of noise you should find somewhere without neighbours. Generally in closely housed areas it goes both ways, the houses with children have noise from children, adult only houses have noise from bbqs/evening social gatherings etc. Stop expecting silence and you'll be much happier.

But that’s the whole point. I wasn’t sweating buckets because it had finally cooled off with a nice big breeze, when the brats started their screaming match.
It’s not just a “bit of noise”, it’s hours of sustained screaming while the parents are presumably pretending they don’t have children.

Kids can enjoy themselves without constantly screaming