Kids screaming in the garden behind ours

[imtootiredforthis]

As we all know the heat has been unbearable this week.

Temperatures have dropped sharply over the last hour or so here, we have a huge storm rolling in but while it’s cool and breezy, I’ve opened the windows to let some air into the house.

The kids in the house behind us are screaming. Not the type of screaming laughter that’s bearable, but just screaming. It’s unbelievable. I wanted a nice calm evening after a few rubbish days and they’re making it impossible to relax. I don’t want to shut the windows because we need some air in the house.

AIBU to scream back at them?

I’m with you OP. Kids who aren’t parented properly are highly annoying and will probably grow up to be highly annoying adults. Playing is fine, screaming (or shouting and arguing for the hair splitters) for hours is not. Parents should have intervened.

Don’t worry. The tables always get turned when neighbours have late evening summer gatherings in the garden or set off lots of fireworks over November when the kids are trying to sleep.

Stop acting like you’re the only one that’s had a tricky week.

I’m not. But I don’t expect parents to just give up on parenting their kids and allow them to disrupt everyone around them.

I don’t have late summer evening gatherings.

It doesn’t matter. My point is that sometimes we all have to live with eachother and be understanding. Like when young kids struggle to sleep all the way through firework season.

Blast some.music
I would yell out shut up!
I cant bear screamers

I actually couldn’t care less about kids not sleeping through fireworks (which is utter rubbish, by the way - they can, and most fireworks are done early enough in the evening that they aren’t affected). It does not give you the right to allow your kids to scream until 9:30 at night, disrupting everyone around them. That’s selfish and lazy parenting.

I might sit out tonight just as they’ve gone to bed with a speaker. See how the parents like it

Fireworks do not end early in the evening. They quite often go on to 11 round here.

That’s fine then, if you don’t give a shit about anyone except for yourself, then it will work the same way for everyone else.

I give a shit about lots of people. I just don’t think that your weak excuses mean kids can be brats.

It’s not acceptable to allow your children to behave like that. Noise is part of life, but there are always acceptable levels. Everyone should teach their children to be reasonable and that includes reasonable volume.
Providing you won’t annoy your good neighbours, I would play music and increase the volume to match their level. This is what dh does. Works every time and makes the parents start to control their DCs.

Headphones

Had this last year from the house 2 doors down. Shouted out “ are you alright? Do I need to call an ambulance? Are you hurt? You must be in terrible pain with that screaming - do your parents know?”

it did actually embarrass them into shutting up.

obviously they still let their 2 dogs out at 630 am every day to bark their heads off….

some people just don’t care about anyone else and are just oblivious

This is exactly it. Noise is fine and I actually quite like hearing people in their gardens.

But just incessant screaming at each other on the first cool evening of the week isn’t okay and it just ruined the evening. All I wanted was to sit out with a book and relax after a shitty week and I couldn’t.

Yes you're absolutely right. Kids are born with an adult like ability to control their emotions and actions. You sound angry, learn to self regulate. Listen to some Neil Young.

Lighten up a bit. You might find it cools you down 😆

I’d much rather the sound of children screaming than watching them sit on iPads.

It’s been an unusually hot week - everyone needs a bit of tolerance at the moment.

And they couldn't care less about your not being able to read outside (which is utter rubbish, by the way - you can)

Why are you special?

Amazing all the entitled parents excusing this behaviour.

Your kids can let off steam, laugh and enjoy themselves WITHOUT screaming loudly and incessantly..but you have to actually parent them to show them respect for other people.

There's a massive difference between normal kid noise supervised by parents who realise that their offspring aren't the only people in the universe, and the unpleasant levels of screeching that results from just leaving them to do what they want regardless of everyone else.

Doesnt have to be screaming or iPads - could just play outside nicely. If it was just screaming or iPads, iPads win every time.

What really gets me about these threads is the levels of wide-eyed faux incomprehension that children engage in this kind of screaming, when the vast majority of people have heard it for themselves and know perfectly well it goes on. That and the normalisation of intolerable (for very many of us) levels of screaming. Kids used to be perfectly capable of having fun and, yes, even being noisy as that's part of being a kid, without screaming the way they do now.

And if some of us mind it, it must mean we want kids silent and indoors on screens? That's an utterly ridiculous assumption to make.

Drives home how many parents must let their children annoy their neighbours regularly rather than tell them to play nicely. Teach your kids to be considerate and you’ll end up with considerate adults.

The ordinary noise of playing is one thing.
That very high-pitched screaming - if that’s what the OP means - is quite another.

A child next door used to do it endlessly, for ages every day while on the trampoline. Our gardens are small so there was no getting away - it honestly made me feel murderous.

I feel your pain @imtootiredforthis
We have three feral kids next door. The eldest (must be about 10), is generally ok but whiney but the middle one and the youngest (yr2 and reception) are just bloody awful! Constant shouting and screaming all the fricking time. The school is currently shut, so the parents have shoved them in the pool that’s in full sun. I can currently hear them on the opposite side of my house ABOVE my radio!
The mother occasionally comes out, yells at them, the middle child gives her a load of verbal, the dog starts barking, the mother yells at them too and then she buggers off back inside and the kids carry on!
To the people saying you should move somewhere without neighbours …… I’d bloody love to! Can anyone spare a few hundred grand for me to be able to move please?
When my children were little, if they screamed outside they’d have a warning to keep the noise down because not everyone wants to listen to them. It’s called parenting. Shame so many parents either don’t know how, or can’t be bothered to parent.

Ahh the old performance screaming. Its kind of a way for shitty parents to let everyone else know that their kids are capable of having fun when in reality they usually dont give a fuck.

You know the parents who would normally throw a ipad into the kids hands rather than actually do anything with them. Well when those kids get outside they dont actually know how to regulate themselves to show their shitty parents their gratitude and it comes out in this animalistic screeching.

Dont worry, it wont be long until they are back locked up inside in front of a screen.

We have some nearby. They let their dogs shit in the garden so much they have to clean it up so the child can play in it once in a blue moon. All the screeching starts until inevitably the kid falls and hurts itself. Then they go inside effing and jeffing at each other.

There is a huge difference between kids enjoying themselves and kids doing this performance screeching