To think my parents should refer to themselves as Nanny and Grandad

[TheMagpieRobin]

Whenever my mum or dad are talking to me they refer to each other as "mum/dad" but I think that if my kids are around they should use "nanny/grandad" (their choice - I don't care what they call themselves). Or at the very least say "your mum/dad" so the kids are clear who they're talking about. Eg if my mum is talking about my dad she'd say "Dad'll be home soon" and then my kids get confused thinking their dad is coming home.

Inevitably they often forget when speaking to their grandkids as well and will refer to themselves as "mummy/daddy".

It's not a huge deal but it annoys me so much every time they do it.

If they are talking to you and saying dad will be here soon then yabu.
If they are talking to your children and saying dad will be home soon when talking about their grandad then Yanbu.

They should use their names, so yes no idea why you think differently and worse it annoys you.

My parents took on the grandparent persona so much that my dad started calling his wife Nanna, all the time, even when speaking to her. He refers to her as Nanna when talking to me. I refuse to refer to her in that way as my Nanna was someone entirely different.

It's ok if your kids are lightly confused occasionally, they won't break.

YABU to use 'Nanny' instead of 'Granny'.

If they're talking to you, of course they should say mum and dad - they're your mum and dad! If talking to the grandchildren, they will say nanny and grandpa, surely? Your children won't be confused, they will know that their grandparents are your parents 🤷‍♀️

As the youngest of 4 children, my mum used to go through everyone’s names (plus two dogs names) before landing on the right one.

My DSs used to be ones to say “do you mean Hygge” 🤣

I had 7 kids and it was the standing joke I would call the wrong kids name some times.
It was a case of the eldest saying "Come in #4 mum wants you." Everybody knew who was needed.

Unless your kids have learning disabilities which might make this confusing for them, then your mum talking to you and referring to your dad as grandad would just be weird wouldn’t it?

Grandparents being your parent’s parents is pretty much EYFS level stuff and people being referred to by different names is a large part of that sort of learning I’d have thought.

My gran used to regularly cycle through all 8 grandchildren to get to the right one. I’ve been called David more than once.

Wow some of you are taking this very seriously, like I said it's not a big deal I just find it a bit annoying and strange. Surely that's the point of AIBU on a hot night? Light-hearted "am I really the weird one here?!". Which ok, maybe I am the weird one.

As long as they are refering themselves as Nanny/Grandad when addressing the children I don't see the issue so Yabu. They was addressing you and they are "Mum/Dad" to you.

OP - could this be a good example of things changing when they are observed? Presumably - in the situation you outline- your mum calls your dad “dad” and not “granddad” when you are there. Because he is your dad (and force of habit and all that). If she’s there on her own with the kids, then she’d presumably say “Grandad”. It’s just that your being present changes the dynamic?

When you’re with friends, your friends will use your name not mummy. Your children don’t get confused then.

Bizarre

read your own op @TheMagpieRobin It annoys you “so much”

my kids get confused thinking their dad is coming home

my heart goes out to these children

I have four brothers and am the only girl and still my mum went through all the names.

My dad and my husband have the same name as well.

that got really quite confusing!

Hahahahaha thoughts and prayers 😂😂😂

I have never really thought about it. Our parents tended to refer to each other by their names. DH called his parents John and Joan, odd I know.

However, DH and I have been grandparents for a month and the baby, DS and SIL are thousands of miles away. We have very much enjoyed calling each other Grandad and Grandma .

What is bloody confusing here is that DD's future husband shares his first name with DH and his brother has the same name as DS I often have no idea who has done what or who we are talking about.

jesus, such weird posts .

I say go to Daddy to our 2 dogs too. Is that not normal?

My husband's parents referred to each other as Mother and Father. It seemed very old-fashioned to me, but to my dh it was normal.

Then we had dd1 and he began to say Mommy when speaking about me to everyone. When dd2 came along he continued to do so. It really got under my skin (I'm NOT your mother!) He's always thought it was funny that I didn't like it- probably why he still refers to me as "Mom" even now that they are both in their forties!

I am not his mom. His calling me that has always felt disrespectful to me, as if he thinks I'm only a mom now and no longer the woman he was once "in love" with.

I've always said your dad- your is a huge distinction, and since the girls and I have had a running chat for years, to save time I started using YD (Your Dad) and sometimes even his given name.

It still makes me feel somewhat diminished, but I haven't been able to break him of it for 45 years- I finally had to accept he won't stop. 🙄🙄🙄

He really does.love me, though. Just as much as I love him. 47 years June 2- that counts for a lot.