Childbirth: "a disgusting moment"

[bojo7]

Cannot see this anywhere else.

Footballer Jeremy Doku plans to leave his Belgium team mates to be at the birth of his first child.

From BBC website:
However, Doku's plan to leave the USA and return home has brought fierce criticism from L'Equipe channel presenter France Pierron, who labelled a father "completely useless" at the time of their child's birth.
"The World Cup is an incredible joy," she said in a message posted to the Facebook page of French sports publication L'Equipe.
"There are hundreds of footballers who would kill to be in your shoes. It might never happen again in your life.
"You're living out a childhood dream, yet you're going to walk away from it all to attend the birth of your child - a disgusting moment, if you'll pardon the expression, where the dad is completely useless."

I didn’t ‘need’ my husband at our babies’ births. I went all primitive and quiet and just got on with it. It was however, hugely meaningful that he was there. He’d not have missed it for anything. Mind you, he’s not a word class footballer playing in the World Cup. I think I’d insist he prioritised that, tbf.

No mine was lovely.

EX.

Poor guy will have some regrets on his deathbed when he realises what life really is about

DH was a great birth partner. His 'jobs' we'd agreed was to ask the BRAN questions if intervention was required (if you're non UK: Benefits, Risks, Alternatives and Nothing - questions to ask medical staff in any setting before consenting to stuff), to be a hands-off cheerleader and general dogsbody for anything I wanted. He did well.

He was also handy when they left me to 'settle with baby' and they'd be back shortly to help me to the bath. I hate baths so the second they left the room I handed the DDs at him for skin-to-skin and made for the shower.

Sorry to everyone who had less than ideal partners for this. I've worked in Obstetrics and I've seen them all.

Good for him prioritising what is important to his family.

Mine was actually useful because he was holding my leg up when I was on my side and pushing 😂😂

You're thinking of Ronaldo

Nope, my DH was the rock I clung to through my births, he is my safe place and I never needed him more.

Ah, they've got a few spares who can cover him for a day at work if they've even made it that far. They'll be fine.

I did note that that presenter said 'the child will always be there'. Umm, no, not necessarily. But there will always be another football match.

If you are expecting a woman to give birth and you contributed then you should be there for the woman. It's just irrelevant football, how does the commentator know they won't be at the next exploitative world cup.

That says more about the presenter and her husband than anything else. Some men are totally useless (and worse) at a birth.

Thankfully my DH was an absolute trooper both times. I could have done it without him, but I wouldn’t want to.

I'm sorry, I don't know what you mean by this in the context of my post?

I’d have wanted my dh to play in the World Cup. I’d have been very proud of him. I’d have been happy enough to give birth with my mum (who was there anyway).

The poster said he was he ex partner. I can see why.

Still makes no sense.

I said to that poster....

"If the father you created a baby with couldn't even bring a modicum of comfort, I'd say that's pretty unusual."

He's not an ex father.

My dh was useless during labour. He sat in the corner and read and ate winegums for 26 hours. But I was glad to have him there because it was Husain who was being born and I did not think he ought to be shielded from what was ultimately quite horrific. Plus he had to sign a bunch of stuff when ds had to be rescuscitated and I went into cardiac arrest. It was never disgusting but it wax horrible. And I needed the one person I could really trust to be on my side to be by my side.

eta.. lots of autocorrect typos that I can’t be bothered to fix. Bloody hate autocarrot

No I agree with you but can see why he's an ex partner.

Personally I feel dads shouldn't be in the delivery room. But they sure as hell should be waiting around outside for when they can start being useful!
And that is a sexist and awful comment.

Outrageous comments! Surely there are other players that can go into the match, he may be only on the benches anyway … stupid French woman and her idiotic words

Are you male?

My current DH was useless but to be fair in my second birth where I had no pain relief absolutely everyone was useless . I was on another planet . I think it’s pretty shitty to expect a dad to miss the birth of their child though

The child won’t remember if their father was at the birth. Whereas, a child would probably be excited that their father played in the World Cup!!!!

Probably a boomer

It is good for men to witness the extent to which women suffer the pain and messy degradation of childbirth and being reduced to the level of an animal. It is a reminder to them of what they owe to women and of how lightly they escape. It is fundamentally wrong that one half of humanity should suffer to bring the children of all humanity into being. The sooner we perfect ectogenesis (the process of growing an organism, such as an embryo or fetus, in an artificial environment outside of a natural womb) and make it available to all women the better.

Dp was great for our first as it was all rather stressful and ended up with emergency section. He wasn't there for our 2nd( elective section) as he was looking after ds1.