Childbirth: "a disgusting moment"

[bojo7]

Cannot see this anywhere else.

Footballer Jeremy Doku plans to leave his Belgium team mates to be at the birth of his first child.

From BBC website:
However, Doku's plan to leave the USA and return home has brought fierce criticism from L'Equipe channel presenter France Pierron, who labelled a father "completely useless" at the time of their child's birth.
"The World Cup is an incredible joy," she said in a message posted to the Facebook page of French sports publication L'Equipe.
"There are hundreds of footballers who would kill to be in your shoes. It might never happen again in your life.
"You're living out a childhood dream, yet you're going to walk away from it all to attend the birth of your child - a disgusting moment, if you'll pardon the expression, where the dad is completely useless."

To be fair, while I was in labour exDH was completely useless.

Anyone else?

As if playing a game of football is in any way comparable to seeing your child born 🙄

And yes my DH was fantastic as a birth partner and nothing would have kept him away.

I haven't voted as you haven't said where you stand OP.

They might be useless at birthing the child but they are not (or shouldn’t be) useless at supporting their partner at the most physically vulnerable moment of her life outside death. Grotesque comment from
the tv presenter. Hopefully she’s been ripped a new one.

I kicked mine out the delivery room. Neither use nor ornament.

ETA I don’t agree with those comments though, he should be at the birth.

It's a fairly stereotypical French view of childbirth; clearly some people actually do hold it.

No, why?

If the father you created a baby with couldn't even bring a modicum of comfort, I'd say that's pretty unusual.

Sorry it happened.

My husband helped deliver my 3rd child. The midwives didn't arrive in time. So pretty vital in my situation far from useless.

I can't imagine any sport or hobby trumping being at the birth of your child 🙈 they are chasing after a ball not saving lives!

Good for him, putting his wife first

At least the man knows what's more important. Whilst yes the world cup is an incredible joy and won't happen again in his lifetime, the birth of his child is also an incredible joy and he won't get another opportunity to be at the birth of that specific child. It all comes down to who he values more football fans or his partner and child? He's rightly picked the latter.

He's only 24, got another 2 world cups in him if he stays fit. He's made the right decision

Well I think her comments are outrageous. I would be sad if my husband missed a birth. But I am also a football fan and would be disappointed if a key player abandoned their team. Still remember my upset when Roy Keane left Ireland's world cup after an argument with the manager... Divided!

I told my husband at the time to go home. He turned up with a friend I didnt know to support him at this difficult time. I told both of them to get the hell out and stay out. That marriage didnt last long.

Like I said he's rightly picked the latter (his partner and child). I don't follow football so wasn't aware of his age.

Erm, he is 24 he has eveey chance of seeing another world cup! Well done the man.

I would make an exception if my husband/ partner was a footballer playing in the World Cup!!! I would want him to stay and play.

I was just thinking hang on - ''not again his lifetime'' ?!?!

Its every 4 years no? What is he a 90 year old pro football player? 🤣

I second this. Kept trying to wipe my forehead for some reason.
I just wanted to tell him to fuck off.

He was a useless father who openly admitted to the kids that he'd rather have been at work than on holiday with us.

Was this “disgusting moment” comment originally made in French and possibly been lost in translation slightly?

No. I’m sorry you had a useless DH.

I wouldn’t have had a baby with a man I didn’t think would support me/offer comfort/desperately want to be at the birth of his child. I’m struggling to see why any woman would. Good for him!

my daughters dad was the only birthing partner I was allowed and he was incredible help and support and also he got to meet his daughter the second she entered the world.

It’s between him and his wife where he should be and no one else’s business.

If my DH was selected to play at the World Cup I'd expect him to prioritise that tbh. Or say before selection that they should pick someone else, if that's possible.

But I compete in sport at a high level myself. I can understand the opposite view, especially if it's a high risk pregnancy.

‘Grotesque comment’… says the person using the phrase ‘ripped a new one’ 🙄