Just after some other people's opinions..am I in the wrong or am I just being an absolute mug? Sorry for the long post but don't want to drip feed. For context, me and my husband have been married 20+ years, age difference of 10+ years. One child aged 14 between us and he had 2 adult children with several grandchildren who all call me nana. We live in a 4 bed house owned outright...he paid 70 per cent to my 30 of the cost of the house. We both work full time. He earns much more than me (at least double, maybe triple). We keep our money completely separate and pay 50/50 bills although one of his is gas and electric so he reckons he now pays more due to rising costs. I pay for the food so also have rising costs but apparently this doesn't count because he eats less than before due to being on Mounjaro. We split holiday costs but admittedly he has paid for a few large repair bills for 'my' car (used for shopping, school runs etc.) He would also buy big things like if we needed a new sofa or washing machine I do all the washing, shopping, cooking. He washes the pots, wipes the hob down, refills water bottles and empties the bins. He also mows the front lawn (back is artificial) and I do the rest of the cleaning. I book holidays, buy and wrap all presents for his and my family, sort out all our daughters school stuff/dentist/opticians etc. He goes out to the pub from 7-11 every Tuesday and Thursday and every other Wednesday for sports (watching football or playing darts). He also goes out most Saturdays leaving between 12-4 and returning maybe midnight. He's out every Sunday at 2. Returning home between 6 and midnight and going straight to bed most of the time because he's so drunk. He stays home with us Monday and Fridays. Has three holidays a year with the lads, two with us. Me and daughter go away without him twice a year because it's more relaxed on our own. Our daughter is 14 so I could go out with him but I don't like the pub he goes to and he rarely suggests or asks if I want to do anything different. When he comes home on a Sunday he usually gets a takeaway. He normally asks if I want anything. 80% of the time I say no because me and our daughter have eaten already, sometimes she's already in bed. 20 % of the time I'll get something. Last Sunday, he came home at 7pm to find me and our daughter eating the tea I'd cooked. He went mad, saying he'd have to sort his own food out (as in order something) and that I should have asked if he wanted anything. Bearing in mind, I cook for me and daughter every Sunday and never text him and bearing in mind I have no idea what time he is coming home. The two previous weeks he was home at 10.30 and 9. He shouted, swore, slammed doors and smashed the toilet seat. That was six days ago and he hasn't talked to me since. Took him three days before he spoke to our 14 year old daughter. I broached the subject but he insists I should have asked him if he wanted food. Am I wrong? Like I feel sure that I'm not but it's such a massive fucking reaction that I just don't know what's what any more.