AIBU to object to my partner wearing his late father's underwear?

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As the title says, am I being unreasonable to object to my partner wearing his (late) father's underwear?

His father died a few years ago, and his mother gave him lots of quite nice clothes of his father's to have. I recently discovered that he'd also inherited his father's underwear which he is now wearing! He claims it has been washed countless times and is in good condition, so he doesn't get why I would object. But, I do....! Would you??

I wouldn’t wear someone else’s underwear and I buy my clothes, furniture and kitchen wear second hand. That’s a new one on me!

It’s a strange one because my first thought was that I hate it if DH did this, but thinking about it I’ve borrowed my sisters pants, lent my Mum a swimming costume and use my Grandparents old bedding so maybe it’s not that weird.
I suppose the weirdness comes from not wanting to think of FIL in his pants!

Would he be happy for to to do the same from a deceased member of your family ?

Underwear is the one thing you don’t do second hand.

very icky. Firstly pre used pants. Secondly pre used dead dad’s pants.

I get buy a pack try one don’t like them give away the other unworn but not here’s dead dads old pants draw for you. No thank you.

I get it's better for the planet and my DH has quite a few of his father's things but not his underwear. That would give me serious ick But then FIL was a scummy bastard who rarely washed.

But they're also someone else's shirts.
They're shirts worn by hua dad.
They're shirts formally belonging to a dead person.

Is that actually weird?
Or is it the penis and testicles making your ick out?

It's not like he's keeping them unwashed, it's just a piece of cloth that's been thoroughly washed.

Would I do it? No, I understand the base feeling of it being weird, but upon analysis, the person without the problem is far more logical

Are they seriously baggy white Y fronts? That’s what I want to know.

But if they fit him, and don’t have holes or dubious stains, I don’t see an issue.

Feelings are strong on this, and it's everybody's own free choice to make; but it isn't really an objective reason as such why nobody should because "Euw, dead people's pants!"

Would you wear your dead mum's jewellery? Even if it's rings or bracelets that she was wearing whilst having sex with your dad; or when wiping her arse or picking her nose?!

Noooo! That's too weird. I'm generally happy to wear anything second hand but pants are just wrong!
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I wouldn't wear any pre used underwear, nothing to do with whose it was.

Better to rip up and pass to charity shop that takes "rags" as it can still be reused, usually shredded for stuffing or something. Check first as not many places do take it.

Well anyone would borrow a jumper or a jacket from their dad while he was alive but never his underwear. So same when dead.
I have sisters. We swop clothes, borrow, give away etc but never knickers. That's a step too far. Even the fact you can't return underwear after you try it on and remove the protective sticker.

As much as I loved my mother I wouldn't wear her underwear especially her knickers. I'm not sure why as I was used to wearing hand me downs growing up. Change in the times I suppose, they now seem like very personal garments.

PS YANBU

Even the fact you can't return underwear after you try it on and remove the protective sticker.

Isn't that mainly because people wouldn't bother to wash underwear before returning it - as washing it implies having properly worn it (so they can no longer sell it as new) and thus they will refuse the return?

It's not comparable to underwear that belonged to a family member and has been obviously used but thoroughly washed.

No, I'd hate it, pants, no! My partner uses his dad's bathrobe, his late dad's bathrobe and I hate that. Can't explain why because I have a cardigan of my late mums.

No logic in any of it, it's emotions.

You've never stayed in a hotel then?

‘Formally belonging to a dead person’ is a weird objection. I wear socks and a hoodie that belonged to my mum and dad respectively, both now dead. They weren’t wearing these specific clothes when they died if that helps?

I think it's a bit weird and can't imagine wearing anyone else's knickers, whether they were dead or alive.
However, I know a worse example. My friend's Godmother wore her dead dad's baggy drawers with the fly sewn up.

This just made me BOL! 🤣

I think playing dress up in the clothes of anyone you know who is sadly deceased is a tad odd let alone underwear.

So presumably hotels are out of the question…

It will be different aspect that would bother different people, surely?

For someone its the underwear aspect, for someone the dead person aspect, for someone the Father/ FIL aspect, while others wont see a problem at all.

I guess guys view underwear a bit different to us women.

His dad's actual penis has been rubbing all over them.

Please bring back the laughing emoji mumsnet
This made me snort out loud

Yeah I don’t want to wear things other peoples fannies would have been all over. I’d rather go commando.

My dad gave me my mum's new knickers when she died a few years ago.....i just couldn't wear them!!