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To think carers should be jailed

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InBedBy10 · 20/06/2026 10:09

That man who threw that poor child into the alligator enclosure is said to be severely mentally disabled. He was out with 2 carers who clearly weren't watching him when this happened. Witnesses have said they were on their phones. AIBU to say they should be charged for this incident?

To be honest this is not the first time i have heard about carers being totally negligent and getting away with it. Instead the care company they worked for was sued. Which will probably happen here. But i think its totally wrong that the people directly responsible can walk off into the sunset with no repercussions. There needs to be more liability put on people in this position.

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JenniferBooth · 21/06/2026 21:50

IllBurnThatBridgeWhenIGetToIt · 20/06/2026 10:34

They may be charged pending an investigation.

However I will say that care work is what the job centre throw at everyone. Between me having to leave my former job and being able to be assessed for claiming disability benefits they tried to force me to take on care work, helping young adults with significant needs in their day to day life, including getting on and off public transport, going shopping etc, all things I couldn't even do for myself as I had cancer, then a stroke and couldn't (still cant) use my left arm or turn my head. I was sanctioned for refusing the work, and it was a dire few months for me trying to feed my kids and run my home on next to nothing. If it wasnt for food banks and charities we wouldnt have survived. So I can absolutely see how people who can't do the job would need to take it on to avoid that.

I do hope this horrendous story means that the care sector is more carefully looked into and it doesn't end up with just any old person being forced to take on the work or they have to starve.

This is what i was thinking about while reading this thread. If ppl want carers jailed then if they were forced into this kind of job under threat of sanction (i say IF cos obvs we dont know) by the Job Centre then surely the JC and work coach is just as liable.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 21/06/2026 22:38

JenniferBooth · 21/06/2026 21:50

This is what i was thinking about while reading this thread. If ppl want carers jailed then if they were forced into this kind of job under threat of sanction (i say IF cos obvs we dont know) by the Job Centre then surely the JC and work coach is just as liable.

No one is forced into a specific job.

All there is they are asked to up their hours.

Nothing as dramatic as your reach,

JenniferBooth · 21/06/2026 22:46

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 21/06/2026 22:38

No one is forced into a specific job.

All there is they are asked to up their hours.

Nothing as dramatic as your reach,

Read the post i quoted.

JenniferBooth · 21/06/2026 22:47

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 21/06/2026 22:38

No one is forced into a specific job.

All there is they are asked to up their hours.

Nothing as dramatic as your reach,

Shall i start a thread?

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 21/06/2026 22:50

JenniferBooth · 21/06/2026 22:46

Read the post i quoted.

No one is forced into a job.

The poster you quoted wasn’t either.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 21/06/2026 22:51

JenniferBooth · 21/06/2026 22:47

Shall i start a thread?

It’s s free country.

Start one, don’t start one, your choice?

Hmm
Idintlikefridays · 22/06/2026 09:31

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 21/06/2026 22:38

No one is forced into a specific job.

All there is they are asked to up their hours.

Nothing as dramatic as your reach,

That’s not quite true is it?
People are told to take jobs otherwise support is withdrawn, which is the same as forcing somebody
I’ve seen people that are so depressed. They can’t even wash their face in the morning for themselves being given sole responsibility of another adult.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 22/06/2026 09:35

Idintlikefridays · 22/06/2026 09:31

That’s not quite true is it?
People are told to take jobs otherwise support is withdrawn, which is the same as forcing somebody
I’ve seen people that are so depressed. They can’t even wash their face in the morning for themselves being given sole responsibility of another adult.

They are told they need to find a job.
Any job.

No one is forcing a claimant to accept a specific job.

JenniferBooth · 22/06/2026 12:16

Idintlikefridays · 22/06/2026 09:31

That’s not quite true is it?
People are told to take jobs otherwise support is withdrawn, which is the same as forcing somebody
I’ve seen people that are so depressed. They can’t even wash their face in the morning for themselves being given sole responsibility of another adult.

Its like saying no one forced you to hand over the money when you are being held up at gunpoint.

Choice one.............take this care job OR be sanctioned
Choice 2 hand over the money OR get shot

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 22/06/2026 13:00

JenniferBooth · 22/06/2026 12:16

Its like saying no one forced you to hand over the money when you are being held up at gunpoint.

Choice one.............take this care job OR be sanctioned
Choice 2 hand over the money OR get shot

I’m surprised this is so hard to understand.

Find a job, any job or increase your hours or you might be sanctioned.

No one puts a gun to your head and marches you to the nearest care home.

Thesinisterdiagram · 22/06/2026 13:36

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 22/06/2026 13:00

I’m surprised this is so hard to understand.

Find a job, any job or increase your hours or you might be sanctioned.

No one puts a gun to your head and marches you to the nearest care home.

Except finding a job isn’t that simple, there are far more applicants than there are jobs available. Care work is pretty much the only type of role that’s consistently hiring because the pay and conditions are so poor, so a lot of the time it’s that or nothing. If you force people to accept a care job or be left with no money for food and bills you’re not really giving them any other option, even if they’re completely unsuitable for the role.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 22/06/2026 13:38

Here we go
again.

Jobs might be hard to find, but no one makes a clamant accept a care job.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 22/06/2026 13:40

Write to your MP and ask them to reconsider the NI increase and the min wage increase.

These are some of the factors making it difficult to find employment.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 22/06/2026 13:47

JenniferBooth · 21/06/2026 21:50

This is what i was thinking about while reading this thread. If ppl want carers jailed then if they were forced into this kind of job under threat of sanction (i say IF cos obvs we dont know) by the Job Centre then surely the JC and work coach is just as liable.

Carer’s do hold a certain amount of responsibility and can be in serious trouble for being negligent or abusive. No one knows if they were negligent here or whether this person decided on the spot to grab a child. If the parents couldn’t grab the child off him it must have been very fast. I think I would kick him around if it was my child.

Thesinisterdiagram · 22/06/2026 13:56

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 22/06/2026 13:38

Here we go
again.

Jobs might be hard to find, but no one makes a clamant accept a care job.

Assuming you’re talking to me?

Actually when I was unemployed about 10 years ago the job centre tried to force me to take a care role, luckily the company rejected me after interview, because it would have been a complete disaster otherwise. Maybe things have changed since then.

The minimum wage had to increase because the cost of living is so high. How are people supposed to live if they’re not paid enough to afford a home, food and bills? Decreasing the minimum wage would also mean more spent on benefits to top up wages.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 22/06/2026 14:05

Thesinisterdiagram · 22/06/2026 13:56

Assuming you’re talking to me?

Actually when I was unemployed about 10 years ago the job centre tried to force me to take a care role, luckily the company rejected me after interview, because it would have been a complete disaster otherwise. Maybe things have changed since then.

The minimum wage had to increase because the cost of living is so high. How are people supposed to live if they’re not paid enough to afford a home, food and bills? Decreasing the minimum wage would also mean more spent on benefits to top up wages.

They clearly didn’t force you because you had to attend an interview.

It’s your choice, accept a job, don’t accept a job, but UC has commitments you have accepted when you decided to claim.

Thesinisterdiagram · 22/06/2026 14:14

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 22/06/2026 14:05

They clearly didn’t force you because you had to attend an interview.

It’s your choice, accept a job, don’t accept a job, but UC has commitments you have accepted when you decided to claim.

Only because I didn’t pass the interview, if I had I would have been forced to accept.

I had no choice but to claim. If you give people the choice between destitution or taking an unsuitable job you’re not really giving them any other meaningful option.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 22/06/2026 14:16

You clearly don’t understand how UC credit works and what they can and cannot do.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 22/06/2026 14:17

You don’t know what they were doing on their phones. I’m a brownie leader and we have a diabetic girl who controls her condition with an app linked to her monitor so we have to use her phone quite a bit. They might have been looking at the zoo map on their phones. Maybe they were messaging someone regarding him on their phones. Just being ‘on their phones’ doesn’t equal negligence

Allseeingallknowing · 22/06/2026 14:19

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 22/06/2026 14:17

You don’t know what they were doing on their phones. I’m a brownie leader and we have a diabetic girl who controls her condition with an app linked to her monitor so we have to use her phone quite a bit. They might have been looking at the zoo map on their phones. Maybe they were messaging someone regarding him on their phones. Just being ‘on their phones’ doesn’t equal negligence

It does if they weren’t keeping an eye on him!

TheJuryIsOut · 22/06/2026 14:28

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 22/06/2026 14:16

You clearly don’t understand how UC credit works and what they can and cannot do.

You've clearly never been in the position of being told you have to take a job or your money (that feeds your children) will be stopped.

TheJuryIsOut · 22/06/2026 14:31

Allseeingallknowing · 22/06/2026 14:19

It does if they weren’t keeping an eye on him!

They might well have been keeping an eye on him, this probably took mere seconds to happen and a carer probably wouldn't have been able to physically stop it even if they were holding on to him. The point is we don't actually know so we shouldn't go straight to vilifying the carers.

ScholesPanda · 22/06/2026 14:44

I've said YABU because I think you're operating on a false premise, you've decided for whatever reason they are immune from punishment.

If they are found to be criminally negligent they can and will be punished. However, it's quite a high bar to prove that. A lower bar could see them found to be negligent under civil law, with costs or compensation awarded against them and/or the company they worked for.

ChardonnaysBeastlyCat · 22/06/2026 14:57

TheJuryIsOut · 22/06/2026 14:28

You've clearly never been in the position of being told you have to take a job or your money (that feeds your children) will be stopped.

I’ve been working my arse off my life.

Don’t tell me what position I have Bern in or not.

Verv · 22/06/2026 15:56

I dont know exactly what happened yet.
But i do know that it takes less than a second to snatch a toddler and launch it over a railing.
If it was an instant decision and action there would've been very little stopping him.

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