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AIBU to think a man accused of throwing a child into a crocodile enclosure should not get bail?

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YourKeenOliveNewt · Today 03:37

Aibu to think the man who threw an unknown 3 year old into a crocodile enclosure shouldn't be out on bail?

If anyone could provide any insight into the reasoning behind why was granted bail I would be very interested to hear it.

AIBU: He's a danger to society
AINBU: Innocent until proven guilty

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Pistacheeo · Today 07:36

Can I just add to my earlier post that it was Thatchers Care in the community and Camerons austerity that ripped apart the NHS and mental health support.

CurlewKate · Today 07:39

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Oh, don’t talk bollocks.

ImFinePMSL · Today 07:39

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musicandmen · Today 07:40

TheDevilFindsWorkForIdleMums · Today 07:25

The only ones who should be sat in his cell are his useless carers......he had 2/1 for a reason!

You don’t know what happened! You can’t blame the carers with no facts

BrownBookshelf · Today 07:40

InfiniteTeas · Today 07:13

It will be technical bail. He may have been sectioned, or housed somewhere secure. Custody suites aren’t set up for people with very complex needs and the investigation is likely to take a long time. There are also complex legalities around fitness to detain, fitness for interview, and then, much later, fitness to plead. They won’t have just opened the police station door and shoved him out.

Agree. I'm not sure some of the commenters realise you can be bailed to somewhere that doesn't allow you to come and go as you please. That it's not a binary choice between hospital prison wing or out and about.

It's a bloody difficult situation though. I'm nervous about any possible sanctions against the carers too, because this is already a job people simply don't want to do. If they think they're going to be sent to prison because their charge bolts, that makes it even less attractive.

MyThreeWords · Today 07:40

Apologies. I was too pissed off to RTFT before I posted, and I see now that the man has a learning disability. It is great to read here all of the many posts humanely pointing that out.

It is a real contrast with threads that discuss people with schizophrenia who have killed. In those threads, posters who humanely express the realities of the illness and the need to treat the killer as someone ill rather than wicked, tend to be in the minority. Which is very strange, since schizophrenia is just as powerful a limitation on a person's responsibility for their actions as a similarly serious learning disability - and, ultimately, just as much determined by brain differences.

Menopausio · Today 07:42

susiedaisy1912 · Today 06:36

He’s got learning difficulties so he’ll get a free pass. To suggest he faces any consequences will have the woke team raging.

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Bollocks.

HoraceCope · Today 07:42

his poor parents/carers must be devastated
as must the zoo owners

x2boys · Today 07:45

LiquoriceAllsorts2 · Today 06:05

It sounds very similar to the incident with the boy being thrown from the Tate art gallery.
I also don’t think it’s fair to judge the carer for being on their phone, we have no idea what they were doing on it but it could have been work related

If you are 2 :1 a man with.profound learning disabillties you shouldnt be doing anythiing on your phone
I hsve a 16 year old son with severe autism and learning disabillities he can be very unpredictable .

ZanyMaker · Today 07:48

CamillaMcCauley · Today 07:23

https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/sure,_Jan

You must be a lot younger than I am.

Evidently so. Never heard/seen anyone use the phrase before. Although I do live under a rock with a lack of social media!

Dontcallmescarface · Today 07:49

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So where do we lock up someone with severe learning disabilities? Should a 30 year old with a severe learning disability be in a),an adult Cat 1 prison? Or b), a secure unit? The answer is "b" but until he is properly assessed and the report gets handed over to the judge there is a wait. Under normal circumstances the offender would be held on remand while all that is going on, but given the complex needs of this man that is not possible, so my guess is he's on bail with conditions imposed that will see him not being allowed out of wherever he is until all the reports are done. I doubt there will be a trial as he will not be able to understand what is happening.
The fact that you have likened him to a "misunderstood ND manbaby who should be allowed to do whatever he wants", tells me you know absolutely nothing about complex learning disabilities at all.
Oh and before you jump on me, what he did was horrific and my heart goes out to that poor child and his family, but this is not a simple case of a 30 year old having a hissy fit and trying to kill a child...it's much more complicated than that.

AlcoholicAntibiotic · Today 07:49

musicandmen · Today 07:40

You don’t know what happened! You can’t blame the carers with no facts

Well it certainly wasn’t the 3 year old’s fault.

So either the man or his carers need to be held accountable.

Quackcow · Today 07:49
  1. Nobody is saying that there should not be consequences. Consequences are appropriate not a punishment if he is unable to understand what he did or what a punishment is. But the consequence would a secure medical ward so in essence similar.
  2. Posters who are saying that he should not have been allowed out but should have been locked up somewhere due to having the physical ability to hurt someone are advocating locking up all people with severe disabilities as they might all have that that physical ability. That would be wrong.
  3. And they would not advocate locking up all members of any other group due to them having the potential to hurt others, and there are non-disabled groups (such as men) who are statistically more likely to hurt others people. So really this is just about prejudice to disabled people.
Heyhelga · Today 07:50

He's obviously a danger to society so he should at the very least be admitted to a secure hospital.

Shinyhappyapple · Today 07:51

Given the time you posted this OP you must have seen by now that he was deemed
not fit to be interviewed by police due to his learning difficulties, and was visiting accompanied by two carers. Yes there neees to be an enquiry but your OP is daft.

lastminutelily · Today 07:51

Learning Difficulties is such a broad term ranging from eg dyslexia to profound cognitive impairment. None of know the full picture here but this person may have the mental age and capacity of a small child - if this boy had been pushed in by another 4 year old would people be braying for them to be locked up and given the death penalty too?! It's a bit like when people are not tried for crimes because of psychiatric illness and people get upset because no-one should 'get off' due to mental health - but not understanding that it doesn't mean someone was a bit sad or anxious but psychotically unwell and not in control of their actions. Of course society needs to be safeguarded against all these people and getting that right is incredibly difficult but punitive action is not necessarily the right way to do that. The police, the courts, social workers and doctors will of course sometimes get things wrong but they have a far greater understanding of these issues that all those braying for blood on this thread.

Jamescleverest · Today 07:51

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why are you conflating being ND with attempting to murder people?

x2boys · Today 07:53

ohdelay · Today 07:30

Again, why? Saying he's got the mind of a toddler doesn't change anything for the victim who should be centred in any crime. His adult body committed the crime and is fully capable of committing more adult crimes. If the argument is that he doesn't understand why it was wrong then surely you have to follow on with so he might do the same thing or something equally heinous again so we need to lock him up indefinitely rather than oh well.

Nobody is saying oh well🙄
When somone lackd capacity to understand what they have done they cant stand trial because they wont understand it
Thst doesnt mean we allow them to roam freely.

MyThreeWords · Today 07:53

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This is what happens when so many completely normal people decide to codify their mild neurodivergencies as diagnosable illnesses. It causes a lot of people to lose sight of the genuine severity of the illnesses whose labels they are piggybacking on. It erodes the already scarce and grudging understanding of the needs of very vulnerable people

Even if this man's condition was one of the ones that is called 'neurodivergence' , rather than a less fashionable intellectual disability, it will have been leagues and leagues more serious than the kind of ND that is usually discussed on MN. And it is probably more likely that his disabilty was something different from the ones that attract this label

BeardofHagrid's take is like calling it woke nonsense to give a paraplegic person a wheelchair instead of telling him to stand up and stop making a fuss.

ColdOut2025 · Today 07:54

x2boys · Today 04:46

I very much doubt hes wandering around freely.

Wish I had youre confidence in the police and system curre,but after all the recent examples, I really don't.

susiedaisy1912 · Today 07:55

Menopausio · Today 07:42

Bollocks.

We’ll see. They will probably charge the carers with negligence just so a box can be ticked.

Lizchapman · Today 07:55

I really wish people would not rush to judge without knowing all the facts. Police are still trying to establish exactly what happened and why. I have read that someone who was actually there said the man lifted the child up to see better then child slipped. That would certainly fit with an adult who was capable of lifting the child but not of understanding the risks of doing so.

musicandmen · Today 07:56

AlcoholicAntibiotic · Today 07:49

Well it certainly wasn’t the 3 year old’s fault.

So either the man or his carers need to be held accountable.

Obviously it wasn’t the 3 years fault but this poster is saying the carers should be jail and as I former carer I can tell you it’s not as cut and dry as that without facts.

seen people on another thread blaming the grandparents cos why weren’t they watching the child more closely!

we literally rightly so haven’t been told the full facts of what happened. So no one can judge as yet.

Petrie999 · Today 07:56

ImFinePMSL · Today 04:30

It’s an extremely shocking and distressing case.

However, the perpetrator in question, who I assume lacks mental capacity, given he was not fit for police interview, will be in secure 24hour residential care.

There will be lengthy risk assessments, safeguarding reviews and internal investigations going on within the care setting he was living under, along with the police investigation.

In this instance, “out on bail” does not mean “free to walk the streets to potentially harm more children”.

Agree with all of this. You also cannot put these individuals in prison