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AIBU to think a man accused of throwing a child into a crocodile enclosure should not get bail?

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YourKeenOliveNewt · Today 03:37

Aibu to think the man who threw an unknown 3 year old into a crocodile enclosure shouldn't be out on bail?

If anyone could provide any insight into the reasoning behind why was granted bail I would be very interested to hear it.

AIBU: He's a danger to society
AINBU: Innocent until proven guilty

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PinkMagnoliaTree · Today 11:58

All these men who are pushing kids and women in front of things, off things (the mountainside in Scotland let's not forget that as well) and yet it just goes the same way on here. But! But! But! But!!!!!!!

ERthree · Today 12:01

Don't know why you are surprised. He won't get a prison sentence either.

Honeyhonay · Today 12:02

IceyBisBack · Today 11:54

My 16 year old with profound multiple leading difficulties and disabilities has just gone out today with his two carers.
I know though that they will protect him from any harm. That includes any encounters with the public who could hurt him. He's 16 but the size of an 11 year old with a 3 year olds brain.
We though pay his carers well and they know him inside put, including if he's happy, sad, anxious, in pain, distressed.....
Some carers are paid minimum wage and don't know the person that they are put with..... because the government northern NHS do not give a shit about disabled adults. Yes my 16 year old is an adult. He's just gone off to watch some people dressed as dragons. Watched some Handyman Hal & Bluey before he left. Played with his Thomas trains and we had a show with his Sooty puppets (the funniest thing ever)
How did any adult ever no matter what manage to get hold of a 3 year old?

This is the fault of those who are supposed to be looking after the vulnerable people ..... not just the carers but the parents too!!

You’re blaming the parents of the 3 year old??

Ooih · Today 12:04

MrsTerryPratchett · Today 03:51

Your poll is silly. If he has additional complex needs he needs care not prison!

Exactly. The reason not to grant bail if they are at risk to others. My expectation is there will be heavy conditions which mean he won't be exposed to others. Easier to implement as he had carers

susiedaisy1912 · Today 12:07

Thebigonesgetaway · Today 10:05

Haven’t you answered your own question? He didn’t know how dangerous they were.

how are people struggling to grasp this. He likely has no concept of danger, no understanding of this.

I mean as opposed to any other enclosure .

completelylostagain · Today 12:09

susiedaisy1912 · Today 12:07

I mean as opposed to any other enclosure .

Probably because that is where they were when it happened?

SleeplessInWherever · Today 12:10

CamillaMcCauley · Today 04:39

With two carers required? 🤔 Sure, Jan. People with or without intellectual disabilities don’t just hiff a toddler into a crocodile pen totally out of the blue.

It might be the first time he’s caused such severe harm; it absolutely will not be the first time he’s done something unpredictably off the rails.

My son is 2:1, not because he’s a risk to society - because he’s a risk to himself.

Maybe educate yourself before you post wild generalisations, Jan.

Inthedeep · Today 12:15

Disappointedlama · Today 10:34

This 💯

And it should be eye opening that it’s coming from someone who has worked in the system.

That was my first question too: if the man is so severely disabled that he doesn’t understand that throwing a toddler into a crocodile pit is wrong, what exactly was it hoped that he’d he gain from going to this place? Surely there are more apropiate activities for him in his care environment, where him or others would not be in potential danger.

By your logic, 1 and 2 year olds who also don’t always understand the consequences of their actions should never be allowed out in public. Just because someone doesn’t understand the consequences of actions doesn’t mean they can’t get enjoyment out of activities and experiences. People with profound cognitive disabilities still have interests and experience enjoyment going out and about and interacting within society.

This is a tragic case, however we need to remember how isolated an incident this is. Many, many more children are severely hurt and killed every day by men and women who don’t have cognitive disabilities, however we don’t lock up everyone just incase they turn out to be an abuser.

hereforthelolz · Today 12:17

khaa2091 · Today 03:39

The news has reported that he has learning difficulties and was there with 2 carers. The fault lies with those supervising him. Where would you suggest he was “locked up”?

High secure units for both mental health and learning difficulties exist for this reason.

CharlieEffie · Today 12:17

YourKeenOliveNewt · Today 03:37

Aibu to think the man who threw an unknown 3 year old into a crocodile enclosure shouldn't be out on bail?

If anyone could provide any insight into the reasoning behind why was granted bail I would be very interested to hear it.

AIBU: He's a danger to society
AINBU: Innocent until proven guilty

You are not unreasonable to think that but we dont have all the information so therefore we cant really comment on the action of people that are in possession of all the information. This man clearly is unable to leave the home without carers. So after this incident he wont be leaving the care facility. So its not like he has been bailed and will be able to cause more harm. If he was not fit for interview he is not fit to be remanded in physical custody.

ScouserForPM · Today 12:17

The mark of a civilised society is how it treats the most vulnerable members

Who is more vulnerable, a grown man with learning disabilities, or a 3-year old?
Also, from what I have read that 3-year old has a broken pelvis, arm and was attacked by at least 1 crocodile. He will have life long injuries.

Whilst I agree that we should treat people with LD humanely, that shouldn't come at the expense of a young child's future.

I actually know of a couple of situations in my local community where grown men with LD are IMO an accident waiting to happen. One is a man in his 50's who wanders from dawn to dusk hassling women. Another, in his 40's aggressively shouts at any woman he walks past. There is another who uses our leisure centre with his carer and is massive (over 6ft and very overweight). I've seen him swinging round weights and thrashing about in the pool and I refuse to go in the pool if he is in it. They are all accidents waiting to happen, although by then it will be too late.

QueenOfSwedenRose · Today 12:22

The parents of the French little boy who was thrown from the 10th floor of the Tate Modern in very similar circumstances must be furious this has happened again. I hope they can look at the psychology of both men and stop visits to places where children might be for people with a similar psychology.

PetuniaTabbernacle · Today 12:25

This is the fault of those who are supposed to be looking after the vulnerable people ..... not just the carers but the parents too!!

Shameful comment @IceyBisBack

I have a recently turned 4yo and we were at a zoo last week with a crocodile enclosure, so I've been thinking about this a lot.

Did DH or I have eyes on DS? Yes. Could a grown adult have picked him up and thrown him into one of the enclosures before we could stop it? Potentially, yes.

Once children are walking, you can be supervising them properly and still not be able to prevent something completely unexpected happening in a matter of seconds. Most parents don't take their children to the zoo expecting that another adult will suddenly pick up their child and throw them into a crocodile enclosure.

Parents should have to plan for toddlers running off, tripping over, or climbing where they shouldn't. They shouldn't have to plan for another adult committing an act like this. In terms of who bears responsibility here, the parents are right down at the bottom.

Tekknonan · Today 12:26

All the information we have is based on speculation. The police made the decision based on facts. From what I've heard (but I don't know, obviously) it was more of a tragic accident - the man lifted the child to help him see, and dropped him.

But as I say, I don't know and nor do any of us, so let's stop the 'Lock him up!' stuff.

plasticplate · Today 12:28

ScouserForPM · Today 12:17

The mark of a civilised society is how it treats the most vulnerable members

Who is more vulnerable, a grown man with learning disabilities, or a 3-year old?
Also, from what I have read that 3-year old has a broken pelvis, arm and was attacked by at least 1 crocodile. He will have life long injuries.

Whilst I agree that we should treat people with LD humanely, that shouldn't come at the expense of a young child's future.

I actually know of a couple of situations in my local community where grown men with LD are IMO an accident waiting to happen. One is a man in his 50's who wanders from dawn to dusk hassling women. Another, in his 40's aggressively shouts at any woman he walks past. There is another who uses our leisure centre with his carer and is massive (over 6ft and very overweight). I've seen him swinging round weights and thrashing about in the pool and I refuse to go in the pool if he is in it. They are all accidents waiting to happen, although by then it will be too late.

If you want it to be a competition then it depends upon the severity of disability of the adult. My friends non verbal son is intellectually similar to a 12 month old. I would say he is more vulnerable than the average 3 year old.
There is no need for a competition though. Children are vulnerable. Some adults are vulnerable. Both need protection.

NellieJean · Today 12:30

CanSeeClearlyNowTheRainHasGone · Today 05:13

There's a reason we have a defined legal system and a judiciary.

It's so that people who, by their own admission, are uninformed (to the point they don't even have all the information made public, let alone the full story) don't sit in judgement and make arbitrary decisions.

Innocent women died at witch trials driven by the hysteria of the ignorant and uninformed.

This is the kind of BS MNer reaction that would argue for similar, or sit knitting by the guillotine.

And shows zero empathy for any of the parties in the case.

Just what I wanted to say but said better.

x2boys · Today 12:31

plasticplate · Today 12:28

If you want it to be a competition then it depends upon the severity of disability of the adult. My friends non verbal son is intellectually similar to a 12 month old. I would say he is more vulnerable than the average 3 year old.
There is no need for a competition though. Children are vulnerable. Some adults are vulnerable. Both need protection.

Indeed my 16 is more vulnerale than most three year olds aa he completeley nonverbal and can only communicate in a very basic way
Whereas most 3 year olds have at least some speech.

Fallox · Today 12:33

Its possible that he was bailed elsewhere

I worked in a secure hospital and people would be released on bail to us. They weren't in prison, but equally in a secure hospital environment suited for their needs that they couldn't leave. If they were deemed fit for release we could update the police who would re arrest them

It's likely this person will get some form of hospital order rather than a prison sentence

grumpygrape · Today 12:39

Fallox · Today 12:33

Its possible that he was bailed elsewhere

I worked in a secure hospital and people would be released on bail to us. They weren't in prison, but equally in a secure hospital environment suited for their needs that they couldn't leave. If they were deemed fit for release we could update the police who would re arrest them

It's likely this person will get some form of hospital order rather than a prison sentence

Quite.

It does concern me that some people think that Bail means ‘allowed to walk out of Court free as a bird’.

We do not know what the Bail Conditions were and even if Bail was opposed by Police/Prosecution.

MyDogClive · Today 12:45

Thebigonesgetaway · Today 10:46

Again I find this odd, likely it’s just a day trip to the zoo as he likes animals. Clearly no one thought this would happen and it will have taken seconds to do.

yes it calls into question if people with severe learning disabilities should be permitted at zoos as it is likely humanly impossible never to be distracted, all it takes is a noise behind them they turn and he does it.

but people with disabilities have to have quality of life. This is obviously a very rare and unexpected event. That no one could foresee. As it wouldn’t even cross your mind it could happen.

But you only have to look at the photos of the crocodile enclosure to see the potential for sensory overwhelm. It’s a relatively small and potentially busy, space, with hard walls, meaning the acoustics will be noisy.

It’s likely to be a poor choice of environment for a lot of people with LD to be honest.

I hope it doesn’t turn out that one of the carers had a fascination with crocodiles and that took precedence when choosing the activity.

randomchap · Today 12:58

ScouserForPM · Today 12:17

The mark of a civilised society is how it treats the most vulnerable members

Who is more vulnerable, a grown man with learning disabilities, or a 3-year old?
Also, from what I have read that 3-year old has a broken pelvis, arm and was attacked by at least 1 crocodile. He will have life long injuries.

Whilst I agree that we should treat people with LD humanely, that shouldn't come at the expense of a young child's future.

I actually know of a couple of situations in my local community where grown men with LD are IMO an accident waiting to happen. One is a man in his 50's who wanders from dawn to dusk hassling women. Another, in his 40's aggressively shouts at any woman he walks past. There is another who uses our leisure centre with his carer and is massive (over 6ft and very overweight). I've seen him swinging round weights and thrashing about in the pool and I refuse to go in the pool if he is in it. They are all accidents waiting to happen, although by then it will be too late.

Where have you read about the child's injuries? There has been nothing officially released that I can see. Are you just repeating baseless rumours?

Bollihobs · Today 13:07

ImFinePMSL · Today 04:30

It’s an extremely shocking and distressing case.

However, the perpetrator in question, who I assume lacks mental capacity, given he was not fit for police interview, will be in secure 24hour residential care.

There will be lengthy risk assessments, safeguarding reviews and internal investigations going on within the care setting he was living under, along with the police investigation.

In this instance, “out on bail” does not mean “free to walk the streets to potentially harm more children”.

will be in secure 24hour residential care.

Let's hope it's more secure than where he was up to now then. That poor, poor boy and his family.

As someone said up thread having severe learning difficulties/complex needs/mental health issues must never trump the safety of the general population. In the Jonty Bravery episode he had apparently been saying he wanted to attack someone but was still taken out and the unthinkable happened. And here we are again. That poor boy is alive when that could very easily not have been so, although goodness knows what injuries, mental as well as physical he and his family have suffered.

Honeyhonay · Today 13:07

randomchap · Today 12:58

Where have you read about the child's injuries? There has been nothing officially released that I can see. Are you just repeating baseless rumours?

These injuries have been widely reported by all the major news outlets.

Bollihobs · Today 13:12

randomchap · Today 12:58

Where have you read about the child's injuries? There has been nothing officially released that I can see. Are you just repeating baseless rumours?

These injuries have been reported on a number of sites and are at the moment simply attributed to "a local person" so whether someone actually involved or a close observer, no idea.

Gloriia · Today 13:14

hereforthelolz · Today 12:17

High secure units for both mental health and learning difficulties exist for this reason.

Indeed. I've no idea why some are so shocked at the thought of locking up a dangerous individual.

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