Help end medical misogyny. Sign our petition.

Help end medical misogyny.
Sign our petition.

Sign the petition

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think the BBC just mispresented baby Preston's killer (and in way that was favourable to the killer) ?

283 replies

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:01

Really odd reporting on Baby Preston's killer just now on the one o'clock news. Despite the baby being sexually abused and indecent images of him taken and shared, the BBC presented him as a Dad who had found parenting really overwhelming and hard and had come to resent his baby.

Stressed out parents who can't cope with babies don't sexually abuse them because they are stressed. Or take indecent images of them because they are stressed.

The killer was a paedophile. That is why he abused that baby.

As his interest in having a child was to abuse it, not to care for it, it may also have been that he had no the tolerance for hard work of looking after a young child and that did overwhelm him which resulted in him physically assaulting the child.

It was such a bizarre narrative to present him as a man who had desperately wanted children but found parenting too hard and could not cope.

Instead of a paedophile.

OP posts:
Thread gallery
8
Jollyhockeystickss · 18/06/2026 16:30

I dont think he adopted the child to abuse it its lot more complicated than that..the point is they werent coping and social services at that point should have removed him but they didnt

JHound · 18/06/2026 16:30

lyarlyarpantsonfire · 18/06/2026 14:30

That's not quite true is it? The BBC often have commentators offering opinions. One that questioned these rather odd comments by the Judge could have been found.

Refusing to name a paedophile as a paedophile and instead presenting him as an overwhelmed man who had desperately wanted to be a Father but couldn't cope is clear and utter bollocks. And it should be challenged.

BTW you see, to have failed to understand that this is a chat forum. People come here to chat. About whatever they want.

Was the reporting on the BBC news or a BBC opinion piece?

JHound · 18/06/2026 16:32

LovingTelescopes · 18/06/2026 14:36

No, the OP is using it as an outrageous, if not unexpected example of how the BBC will fall over themselves to say something-anything- to try and excuse the behaviour of certain groups of which homosexuals are one.

You seem to be confused @randomchap or more likely, you agree with the shite BBC news team. I think you will find that not many "random women" will come on here to defend any defending of this murderous pair; apart from the truly captured.

The BBC did not say provide that view. They are reporting what was stated.

Bromptotoo · 18/06/2026 16:35

How about waiting for the Judge to publish their sentencing remarks?

JHound · 18/06/2026 16:36

Kerry242 · 18/06/2026 15:59

To make sense of the judges remarks - remember men rape all the time and it doesn't mean they have a sexual interest in their victims. Straight men will rape other men just for power and control. They'll rape 90yr old pensioners. Men will rape a cat - without a long standing sexual interest in cats, or evidence of a catalogue of cat porn on their hard-drives.

This is how I interpreted the judge's understanding of the case - Jamie Varley became so enraged with the 'stress of parenting' and hated the child so much because of it - that he killed him through sexual violence (because he's a f-cking monster more than he is a pedophile or anything else)

Sexual violence is a form of violence but it doesn't always equate to a sexual interest in the victim.

It's a hard concept to grasp but it does exist. I can see what the judge was trying to say.

I can see this.

Bunnycat101 · 18/06/2026 16:36

This case is so extreme it really does make me think that monsters walk among us. There is a bit more of the reporting on twitter and it is absolutely sickening. I don’t understand if it was just hate or overwhelm why they didn’t give the poor thing back. They could have done that and walked away. What they did to that baby goes against any sort of social norms or human behaviour. I really can’t believe this is the only child they’ve harmed.

JHound · 18/06/2026 16:37

Campervanadventures · 18/06/2026 16:13

👏 well said! I agree wholeheartedly. Lessons will be learned… or will they?😢

So you think the BBC should add their opinion to court news reporting?

Brainstorm23 · 18/06/2026 16:38

I read an article on The Guardian about this and feel sick. If you haven't read about it don't.

Anarchy99 · 18/06/2026 16:39

They have to report the news objectively with the information they have.

Just because some people are upset about the situation, that doesn’t mean the tv news has to lose its objectivity.

mrsbowes · 18/06/2026 16:40

Ladamesansmerci · 18/06/2026 15:07

Huh? They've sexually abused a baby. What more evidence do we need? We all struggle with parenting at times. We all lose our rag and shout at our kids on occasion (then feel incredibly guilty). The vast majority of people struggling with parenting don't sexually abuse their children. Only fucked up paedos do that.

I'm with you, OP. Anyone portraying these foul individuals with even the smallest amount of empathy are a disgrace.

I'm not sure what you mean by 'we'? The prosecution?

Nofeckingway · 18/06/2026 16:46

We will never know if these two scumbags went through the adoption process for an infant to abuse them sexually and physically. There was no previous signs or complaints before this . Or did they genuinely think they could have a family unit but were overwhelmed by it all . But that doesn't explain the sexual assaults .

I believe the first theory is the right one . This behaviour doesn't come from stress , etc. These were acts of pediophila , getting sexual pleasure from heinous actions with children. The fact that he was a vulnerable baby is even more depraved .

What happens in someone's mind that this is a behaviour. They had an adult relationship. One had a job with kids . A fully functioning normal couple . So you can see why some people would fear being homophobic or discriminatory . Or they couldn't believe the level of abuse . Both physopaths were able to pass as a genuine couple with good intentions.

Evil walks amongst us .💔. Sorry Preston RIP

sittingonabeach · 18/06/2026 16:53

Kerry242 · 18/06/2026 15:59

To make sense of the judges remarks - remember men rape all the time and it doesn't mean they have a sexual interest in their victims. Straight men will rape other men just for power and control. They'll rape 90yr old pensioners. Men will rape a cat - without a long standing sexual interest in cats, or evidence of a catalogue of cat porn on their hard-drives.

This is how I interpreted the judge's understanding of the case - Jamie Varley became so enraged with the 'stress of parenting' and hated the child so much because of it - that he killed him through sexual violence (because he's a f-cking monster more than he is a pedophile or anything else)

Sexual violence is a form of violence but it doesn't always equate to a sexual interest in the victim.

It's a hard concept to grasp but it does exist. I can see what the judge was trying to say.

This is what I think, but you said it better than I did

AgentJohnson · 18/06/2026 16:54

We get this kind of non-nuanced debate as a direct result of people consuming most of their "news" on the phones as opinion pieces.
So many people expect to be "told", and judge any output accordingly.

This!!!!!!!!

Anarchy99 · 18/06/2026 16:57

Would you prefer the newsreader to sob uncontrollably and vow to ensure they will burn in hell?

sittingonabeach · 18/06/2026 17:01

The reporting today is all about the sentencing and the judge’s comments, so a factual account of what was said in court. The BBC News website followed it live, did you expect them to put different comments than the words the judge actually used

Corvidsarethebest · 18/06/2026 17:05

Let's not get technical with the term paedophiles, as that's a loosely used term, but definitely covers, in common parlance, people who are sexually oriented around pre-pubescent children. The NSPCC report that someone linked to saying don't call all child sex abusers 'paedophiles' is pointing out that often it is older children that are abused and that other children are also abusers- it doesn't say don't call people who abuse babies paedophiles!

The OP is stating, and I agree, that the fact that these men were child sex abusers and sex offenders of the literally worst kind ever. Like beyond imagination, so bad that I feel the jury will be traumatised for life.

That should have been front and centre of the reporting; if you can't name it, you can't watch out for it.

I also bet my bottom dollar that once they do a proper inquiry to these people with 'spotless' records, they won't be so spotless, the chances of someone suddenly being so violent, so sexually depraved and so oriented to abuse a tiny child to death is incredibly low, as are the chances of them being together and complicit.

There will have been signs, they will just have been missed. I'd put money on it.

BillieWiper · 18/06/2026 17:05

Honeyhonay · 18/06/2026 14:56

You just can’t claim someone’s motivation without proof. Thats the whole point of a trial.

These people did disgusting things and have rightly been punished with the full weight of the law.
Not sure why you keep embellishing the details as though you have more information than what was presented at trial though.

Yeah, this. Nobody but them knows what motivated them to adopt a child. Saying 'they categorically definitely did so solely for the purposes of abusing it' is just opinion or speculation.

Presumably they didn't admit this to be the case in the trial and it couldn't be proved. All that could be proved is that the child was abused.

samthepigeon · 18/06/2026 17:06

lornad00m · 18/06/2026 15:29

'struggled with parenting contributed to the abuse'.

Most parents struggle with parenting. It doesn't make them abuse their children.

What the hell is going on with the judiciary in this country? They make comments like this about paedophiles. They're not giving custodial sentences to convicted rapists and guys who've been found with 1000's of indecent images of children. It's becoming a worrying pattern.

Maybe it requires some investigation.

To be fair, he was given a life sentence.

Corvidsarethebest · 18/06/2026 17:06

So if the BBC just report what the judge says, then why are we having to pay the license fee? Why have a reporter outside the court? They can just say 'the judge said this' and the newsreader can read it. Of course they offer their interpretation of the mood of the court, emphasise particular things over other things- this is a selection process, they don't just mechanically read out everything the judge said.

ArabellaScott · 18/06/2026 17:07

Jollyhockeystickss · 18/06/2026 16:30

I dont think he adopted the child to abuse it its lot more complicated than that..the point is they werent coping and social services at that point should have removed him but they didnt

Pretty obvious the child was adopted to abuse.

Men don't suddenly become predators overnight or by accident.

mrsbowes · 18/06/2026 17:09

ArabellaScott · 18/06/2026 17:07

Pretty obvious the child was adopted to abuse.

Men don't suddenly become predators overnight or by accident.

That's not the case that was presented in court though.

Do you really expect the judge to say 'yeah well I reckon it's pretty obvious this was their motivation...'?

ArabellaScott · 18/06/2026 17:11

No, I do not. I was responding to someone else's comment.

sittingonabeach · 18/06/2026 17:12

@Corvidsarethebest but the judge has to be technical

Corvidsarethebest · 18/06/2026 17:13

I've also just read that the barrister for Vardey argued that his client was primarily sexually motivated- and so did not intend to kill. So, if his own barrister is arguing his intention was sexual and not to murder I'm pretty sure we could call him a paedophile on the national news and get away with it.

SixtySevenLabubus · 18/06/2026 17:15

I always wonder, how do two awful parents like these men find each other? Was one horrible and turned the other one bad? Or did they meet via something equally disgusting and go from there?