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"When a man falls in love with a woman, he sees her as a goddess"

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SomeGarlic · 17/06/2026 03:58

Post and run warning. I thought this was intriguing but haven't got the energy to 'host' a thread although I'll come back to it if other people are interested.

I heard it in a talk or something, then asked my male friends if it was true for them. They all said yes, including the gay one (in love with a man, obvs). I said that must be difficult and they all practically melted with relief at being allowed to say so!

Difficult because humans aren't gods, they turn out to be messy - and then the fall from the pedestal begins. I'd honestly thought this was a teenage thing, one of those loveable mistakes that get corrected as life goes on. My friends are all over 50, though.

I've been hopelessly in love and/or lust many times but, no matter how besotted I was, I've never seen a partner as more than a person. More than they were, sure, but I've never worshipped anyone. It must be horrid to feel that way and then be forced to try and readjust your perceptions or feelings.

If it's generally true, I'd say it explains a lot of weird male behaviour over the course of relationships. Is it an unreasonable statement, do you think?

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Dizzyingandrapturous · 17/06/2026 22:08

Does anyone actually enjoy - or want - to be "worshipped" by a man??

PollyBell · 17/06/2026 23:06

Dizzyingandrapturous · 17/06/2026 22:08

Does anyone actually enjoy - or want - to be "worshipped" by a man??

Personally no couldnt think of anything worse but there is still women desperate to be treated like a princess, there are so many with issues out there

SomeGarlic · 18/06/2026 03:13

Meadowfinch · 17/06/2026 05:21

My experience has been the ones who 'worship' you, at least at the beginning are the ones who end up stalking, doing creepy stuff, refuse to leave you alone and make life a misery. Blocking or grey rock don't work and it takes a blunt chat with the police to get them to cut it out.

Funny sort of worship !

There are two ways to see their behaviour, a) they are manipulative, nasty, selfish and in many cases just plain dangerous, or b) testosterone renders them incapable of rational thought.

I try to give them the benefit of the doubt and assume b.

b) testosterone renders them incapable of rational thought.

That's my reading, too!

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SomeGarlic · 18/06/2026 03:15

itsme189 · 17/06/2026 06:10

My husband is like this and everyone around us tells me he worships the ground I walk on haha. 10 years, kids and houses later and we’re still both obsessed with each other so it’s working out okay for us!

Wow! I think I'm envious. Truth to tell, I can barely imagine it but it must be lovely for the both of you.

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itsme189 · 18/06/2026 06:42

KaleidoscopeSmile · 17/06/2026 15:12

How embarrassing that you posted this

you think it’s embarrassing to be in love with your wife/husband? Some people on here are mental

PollyBell · 18/06/2026 06:58

itsme189 · 18/06/2026 06:42

you think it’s embarrassing to be in love with your wife/husband? Some people on here are mental

There is a difference in normal love between 2 people and being treated like a possession or whatever people want to call it

ThatCyanCat · 18/06/2026 06:59

PollyBell · 18/06/2026 06:58

There is a difference in normal love between 2 people and being treated like a possession or whatever people want to call it

But that poster didn't say anything at all about being treated like a possession.

Pearshapedpear · 18/06/2026 07:00

Are you taking them saying that too literally OP?

Weekmindedfool · 18/06/2026 07:00

noarah · 17/06/2026 06:14

It's just a silly phrase nobody actually believes their partner is god and worships them in that sense.

Think you’re taking it a bit too literally.

MrsShawnHatosy · 18/06/2026 07:42

itsme189 · 18/06/2026 06:42

you think it’s embarrassing to be in love with your wife/husband? Some people on here are mental

Jealous more likely!

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