To struggle with not being kept in the loop post 18yrs?

[DarkRabbit]

I have a DS who is an older teenager, he has a multitude of serious medical conditions. A week ago, he was admitted to a psychiatric hospital for obviously significant issues. He hasn’t been in contact the last couple of days & I want to understand what is going on & how he is doing.

I appreciate that he is now “an adult” but it will be my job to care for him when he gets out & my job to support him if he isn’t able to study or work.

I appreciate his right to privacy but I am so angry, worried, heartbroken that I don’t know what’s going on or how he’s doing.

There’s obviously nothing I can do about it but sit at home stressing & trying to keep work / home / other kids going as normal.

I'm so sorry. I can see the argument that an 18 year old is an adult, but when you've had to do so much more than you had probably expected, your reaction is totally reasonable. I hate the idea that a woman is "bad" if she doesn't devote herself to her infant chlidren, but that she's weirdly possessive if she doesn't step away when they hit adulthood.

This sounds so difficult OP. I opened this up thinking it was going to relate to an 18 year old going off to uni ... but this is a completely different thing. As others have said, when he recovers from this can you ask if you can be added to his notes to keep you in the loop. I hope he agrees.

I’ve managed to get hold of him & he’s given consent to me having the clinic letters so fingers crossed I get some information in the next 24 hours.

It is so hard to pour your life into something that then gets cut off.

Apologies X post

No advice but just wanted to send you a handhold. It's excruciating and you're doing so well keeping going for your other children. I really hope your son is on the way to recovery and will be in touch with you soon 🙏

In case you need someone to talk to, you can contact

https://www.rethink.org/advice-and-information/carers-hub/

for advice and support. Look after yourself lovely 💐