AIBU to say Mumsnet has some particularly bonkers opinions?

[coulditbeme2323]

I have been a long time MN lurker, but the last 3 weeks have actually been posting due to a post op. The place is bonkers, and I am going to miss it now I am on the mend.

Here are a few bonkers opinions.

1. Men can become women

2. If you have more than £3.46 left for the week, you have loads and shouldn't ask for budgeting advice.

3. If you are uncomfortable with husband going to a strip club or a candlelit dinner with his ex, you are a controlling old witch who doesn't trust him.

4. Something magical happens to your children the day they turn 18, and you should charge them market rent and not help them anymore.

5. If you want to see a country that is a long haul flight away, you are environmentally worse than a Bond Villain.

6. Dogs should always be on their leads, even in dog walking parks.

What else?

Absolutely this. On any given issue, there are two extreme camps and never any nuance. If you ask your full-time employed 29 year old son who earns twice as much as you for £10 a week as a token contribution to his food costs, you’re “profiting from your children”. Conversely you should take all their wages and just give them a fiver a week back for bus fares to work, because “that’s what my mum did to me in 1972”, and they’ll never learn responsibility otherwise.

The correct answer usually lies somewhere in the middle.

You clearly must know that ‘Men can become women’ is not some opinion formed on Mumsnet. You can’t be living in such a bubble that you don’t know that trans people exist in the world.

I personally don’t think you can change sex but I’m aware that many people think that medication and surgery can do this.

Ironically, your own post is probably the most bonkersly untrue post I’ve seen on mumsnet today! For example, number 1, mumsnet is staunchly gender critical. All of your points are obviously batshit and not remotely reflective of general opinion on here at all.

Are you okay?

All boomers are stinking rich

Yes they do! Why do you think some trans people have hormone treatment and surgery if it’s not to change sex (in their view)??

Exactly, this is a sort of 'safe space' where people can actually let rip, you can't do that irl!!

As bonkers as it is, i have actually learnt a few things reading all these posts over the last 3 years. I have even reveiwed my oppinion on occasion (or at least understood the opposing views better). There are some very good posters on here who aren't just here to argue. Myself, i like going on a bit of a voyage into the human mind and how it works, it's interesting to try to understand why other people think and feel the way that they do (and you sometimes learn something about yourself, too).

You're obviously a curious person too, it's good to keep and open mind and try to understand.

Nicely put. Yes!

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do you honestly. meet people as angry and bitter in real life? I sure don't!

I am not surrounded by women who hate men, or even treat them as a different species, and people love holidays and parties. People in real life are too busy living to have time to be that angry, or scared to death about anything and everything.

I believe this to be true as well. Literally every point you make, MN opinion is usually the opposite and I've never come across a poster who has drank the Trans coolaid

Are you actually saying that those people truly believe they have changed sex? Unless they’re incredibly hard of thinking, they know they haven’t.

Sigh

but you don't want people to be as "polite" on here. Remove the bonkers ones who are either hateful or offended by anything and everything (that must be exhausting 😂)

you also get the truth of what people are saying behind your back, or think. So it's quite interesting to read.

I think S&B is definitely getting less nuanced, i.e. people seem to be taking more extreme positions (I know that sounds ridic for a fashion board 😁). There certainly seems to be a more "my way or the highway" approach, and even more pearl-clutching than ever although perhaps not always about the same stuff.

The ones you have listed are the most tame. You've been quite diplomatic, IMO.

Yes I do meet people like that in real life. If you spent 5 minutes working in healthcare you would agree.

I just thought your post was a bit ironic.

Number 4 is the only one I would say is a commonly held opinion on MN.

Some people take great exception to any parent asking for advice on how to help their 19 year old with a tricky problem. They are accused of mollycoddling or not allowing the young person to learn lessons.
Or to parents who help their kids financially because " I never got a penny from mine and it made me a better person than than those who do"

And woe betide anyone who lets their child live at home after graduation rent free and pays for them to join the family holiday or meal out.

YANBU @coulditbeme2323

1. Men cannot ever become women. They can live their version of being what they think a woman is. They cannot force others to see them as a woman. They are trans identified men TIM's who live as they thinkk a woman does. That doesn't give them the right to enter woman's safe spaces or impose on women.

For me, nothing beats the baby name threads. I regularly cry with laughter at some of the names put forward to expectant mothers. Or indeed, the ones that the mothers themselves are considering for their poor offspring. “I like Ptolemy, Ezekiel or Jebediah, but my DH wants Trevor. Help us decide”.

It’s the miserly attitude to money that are striking to me…such as one along the lines of:

“I have £40k in savings, excluding pensions and savings for children’s future, both DH and I have stable jobs and no debt or any big costs due… AIBU to spend £2k from these savings on a holiday knowing I can replace this in a few months.”

Cue a significant number of posters writing “no, you should save up before spending on a holiday” and “that’s very extravagant, do something less expensive that doesn’t require savings.”

so many Scrooges out there!

No-one on Mumsnet would use the misogynistic and ageist phrase 'controlling old witch'.

The one I always find most baffling is that step mums are public enemy #1. No matter how brilliant a step mum is and what she does for her step kids it’s not enough - even in some cases where she does more than mum and dad she’s still in the wrong and then when a step mum wants recognition for the fact she does her best she needs to know her place!

true, in real life, it would be "controlling old bitch"

I dont' really hear the word witch in that context in real life.

It's almost as if we all have very different upbringings, personalities and lived experiences.. who knew? 😂