To want to start the day with a tidy house???

[GahGahGahGah]

DP and I have a two year old who hates bedtimes. I do about 90% of them. It usually lasts from 7pm to 9pm. DP uses that time to go on his phone and watch films. He gets up at 6am and leaves at 7am, which is when we get up.

It means I either have to tidy up after 9pm, when I would like to relax too, or more commonly first thing in the morning, when I am getting ready for work and getting DC ready for nursery.

AIBU to be pissed off about this, daily??

What will? We deep clean our washing machine every Sunday. Do you?

Suggesting someone uses a new approach so their house is a wreck by 9pm isnt strange.

Nope.

The trial found no evidence of a difference in eczema symptoms between bathing or showering weekly vs. daily.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/41208015/

There is no excuse not to get your child into a DAILY bathing routine. Get them used to leaving the house fresh, clean and showered for everyone's sake.

No wonder the child doesn’t like bedtimes. 2 hours! Cutting toenails?

How about, instead of taking 2 hours to do bedtime, spend the first hour clearing up with the child and then spend an hour doing bedtime.

So tue DH is still free to sit on his backside while OP does it all?

So the OP is still doing both tasks and the DH gets to do nothing?
How about, while the OP is doing bedtime, her DH tidies up? Or they can swap, and he can do bed time while she tidies up. I don’t understand when people are making suggestions that still involve the OP doing it all.

I think 2 is still an age whereby naps are required (if they’re a mess without one), just maybe shorter, and/or start the bedtime routine at 7.30. And certainly take it in turns to do bedtime!

Another who doesn't understand a two.hour bed time routine unless the two year old won't settle to.sleep, or why toenails are cut daily?

When ours were small, DH didn't get home until about 9.30pm so I had to do the bedtime routine and everything else but on the whole, I had more free time than DH so it felt fair.

The child/then children had tea at 5.30/6 and I ate with them. While they were in the high chair/at the table, I loaded the dishwasher, wiped surfaces. We then had half an hour of tidy up time (toys/other bits) they helped to put things away and learnt which bits went into which box which was helpful later. I straightened throws/cushions, etc, so everything was spick and span. Then we went up for baths/teeth/potty. Took no longer than 20 minutes - 30 when nit combing became routine but it involved some fun. DS had to have diprobath and wash with diprobase. I used to put the baby in the cot for 6.45/7. DS half an hour later after a story.

I then spent 30 minutes getting everything ready for the next morning and had 45 mins or so watching TV. Gave DH his dinner when he got home and usually had a glass of wine with him.

The house was always clean, neat and tidy in the morning and I did always try to tidy up and put away as I went along. --the DC sometimes had to wait for attention whilst laundry was folded, etc.

If DH had been at home, he'd have helped, usually by doing story time and swabbing the kitchen decks. I'd have been pissed off if he'd watched TV/gamed.

@GahGahGahGah your dh sounds like a lazy sod, but younare making this hard for yourself.

What usually happens is that one puts the kids to bed and the other tidies up downstairs. I've never known of any couple where one puts the kids to bed AND comes down and does all the tidying. How on earth did you manage to fall into that?

Have you spoken to him about this op? It's not fair that he gets 2 hours of relaxing time every evening and you don't. He should either be cleaning up, and / or doing bedtime together whilst you keep popping out gradually increasing the time he spends doing it on his own so your child gets used to it. What has he said when you've raised it?