DH has struggled with his weight for a couple of years but since January has been making a huge effort. He has gone to the gym 4 times a week and has an online coach who is local but met via their Instagram page after a recommendation. They have weekly check in’s etc and she helps with work out plan and nutrition.
All good, no issues and I’ve been really encouraging - up until today.
I was using his phone for white noise whilst trying to nap our youngest - something we often do if our own phone is charging.
A message notification appeared from his coach that didn’t seem at all ‘fitness related’ so I clicked on it and read the exchange. He’d messaged her about his week (in terms of workouts and meals). One of the things he said is that he was fed up of eating the same fruit all the time so he has got some pineapple instead. She said about this being known to make men ‘taste’ nicer. He said he wouldn’t know but that ‘my wife would be pleased’. She then replied saying ‘your not into snowballing then’ and he said depends how many drinks he’s had (I had to Google this, to warn anyone unaware it is grim, and not something we’ve ever done/would do).
Her reply was 2/3 hours later and was what piqued my interest to read back.
I told him I’d seen the exchange - he apologised, said they have a friendly professional relationship and it’s nothing more. Which I do believe, but I am uncomfortable with another woman talking to him like that and that he didn’t shut it down. I think he should change his coach - he says that would be an over reaction. Would you keep pushing this point if you were me?